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Bunnyahh 
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 Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:46am |
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Overall, next time I'm in Houston, I'mma take you out to the restaurant of ur choice |
I'm cheap I prefer to cook.. Just buy some fresh veggies and make $hit happen |
Do you eat meat?? Vegan SO's are so annoying 
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:47am |
Men will treat you the way you allow them too . I carry myself like a lady and expect to be treated like one or we will never make it pass the first date . I expect and give the same in my marriage . I understand a man frustration when women talk about Ex Boyfriends . I would hesitiate to go on a second date .
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:47am |
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What do you mean overall? You don't like suggestions?
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I don't mind suggestions when it's reasonable but if you want me to take you a place that my bill is going to equal up to more than $150 (keep in mind I'm from houston most places wont run you that high) in one place & I barely know you I'm thinking you want a free meal |
Oh, ok. See this is when my dates get disrespectful, because if you offer to go to places that I don't like, and I mention a place that is more pricey, I'd offer to pay at that point. But not while we are at place. Or if you are in over your head, I'd pay. Just depends on the situation.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:47am |
Limalady wrote:
I get the idea of the offer Jones and Bunnyahh. It is logical, especially from the first date perspective. I think I intend to reach for my purse, and just forget. 
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Sheeeiiittttt.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont do the reach at all. Nope. I will offer to leave the tip.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:48am |
It's not a meal if there's no meat.. One time I had a salad with no meat for a meal.. Had to go get a burger after that
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:50am |
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When I go out with friends or family and I know they are paying I still offer.
We were taught to offer most everything though so offering is built in .
If you are about to eat one of your most favorite things that you do not want to share you still must offer to everyone if they want some and make good on the offer if someone does.
Maybe it's not true in the dating dynamic bc men and women have different roles and I'm more traditional in that aspect especially when it comes to guys paying.
But it's normally very rude if you don't offer.
Also in the case of if you're going to eat for lunch you're suppose to offer to your co workers if they want something
Edited by jonesable - Feb 12 2013 at 9:52am
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:50am |
nitabug wrote:
Bunnyahh wrote:
nitabug wrote:
Bunnyahh wrote:
there are many ways. I was only talking about #9 cuz that's what the 1st 2 pgs focused on |
and I was talking about other ways because number 9 is stupid and the other ways are better
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I don't agree with it, but I can see why he said it. I think most guys would be a lil impressed with the gesture. It goes both ways. He doesn't HAVE TO bring flowers, but the gesture is nice. He doesn't HAVE to open doors, but the gesture is nice. He doesn't HAVE to call 1st but the gesture is nice, etc, etc... |
None of that is the same. If I am going to do some sh*t, don't try to counter and offer the same damn service I just offered. It's redundant and rude, imo. & teeters on being manipulative.
I only let children get away with that. For instance, I took my FOUR YEAR OLD niece out for her birthday. She kept offering to pay because she had birthday money. It was cute everytime she put her little money up. She is four and doesn't understand social pragmatics yet.
Now if that was a 40 year old woman, I'd be ready to go. It's disrespectful, imo. I offered to take YOU out, why are you trying to pay?
but that is just my opinion. Do what works for you.
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I'm not gonna get into the same vs similar, but I already said I agree with men paying for the FIRST DATE regardless of who asked who. As for the man in the op. He didnt state who asked who. But he did say not offering the GESTURE is a turnoff. Just like a woman may be turned off if he didn't hold the door or pull out a chair. Different strokes for diff folks
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:50am |
india100 wrote:
Men will treat you the way you allow them too . I carry myself like a lady and expect to be treated like one or we will never make it pass the first date . I expect and give the same in my marriage . I understand a man frustration when women talk about Ex Boyfriends . I would hesitiate to go on a second date . |
True I'll only treat you accordingly..
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:51am |
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It's not a meal if there's no meat.. One time I had a salad with no meat for a meal.. Had to go get a burger after that |
alright then, youz about to get hooked up potna  
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:52am |
If you don't like something that fine we can choose another place but the preliminary dates Idk how long you're going to be around & or what you're intentions are so I can't invest too much $$ into that..
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