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Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

what kind of monetary gifts r u expecting?  $100, 200, 250 check in a card?Confused


I never "expect" any kind of gift for an event. I just want it to be fun.
well how much is appropriate or acceptable?


Well many of my friends are in grad school or still starting out so honestly participating (travelling to the wedding, purchasing a bridesmaids dress, etc.) is all I expect from them. I'd rather them invest in participating in the wedding than give me money or a gift and not be part of it.

Older people, its really based on income. Most Nigerians don't give gifts, they spray money at the reception and/or give you additional money. Most people spray $20-$50 depending on how much they dance and give you $100-$500 extra.

I'm not really familiar with what's considered an acceptable amount.

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congrats!!

I went to my friend's budget Nigerian wedding that I thought was really nice...but she said all the elders were pissed off that she didn't have the kola nut and there was a cash bar. People actually called her classless and tacky at the reception! Nigerians go so hard lol

So my only advice is make sure all the basics are there and cut the fat in other areas
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the only thing i can think of is a destination wedding....

is there an 'expectation' to attend weddings in Nigerian cultures regardless of where it is? ex-if you have your wedding in Hawaii...what percentage of those 50 cousins would come?
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Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

the only thing i can think of is a destination wedding....

is there an 'expectation' to attend weddings in Nigerian cultures regardless of where it is? ex-if you have your wedding in Hawaii...what percentage of those 50 cousins would come?


Nope. I also considered the destination thing because it keeps the nosey people away. Then again, travelling for the wedding is fun for them too, so who knows, lol.

That's why I started the thread, b/c my bf was asking when we realistically would be ready to start the planning and obviously that's dependent on how much it will cost. I know it will be a lot but I just like to minimize any avoidable expenses for the main 2 ceremonies.

Lets see I have 4 1st cousins on my mom's side living here. The total of them their spouses and kids comes to 19. They will all definitely come. I have 2 1st cousins on my dads side and the total with their families is 6 so that's 25. I'm confident at least 10 of the ones in Nigeria and England will come, so with their spouses and children, I'm already over 50 people.
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Originally posted by AmiliaCabral AmiliaCabral wrote:

congrats!!

I went to my friend's budget Nigerian wedding that I thought was really nice...but she said all the elders were pissed off that she didn't have the kola nut and there was a cash bar. People actually called her classless and tacky at the reception! Nigerians go so hard lol

So my only advice is make sure all the basics are there and cut the fat in other areas


How rude.

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Guuurrrlllll. I would rather elope and use the money towards a house, but my parents REALLY REALLY want a wedding. 
My mother even told me to just find myself a nice apartment. I am checking out ebay for white dresses, but will also have an African print dress made for me. Check out interests for ideas and bridal expos. I have recruited friends and my SIL for tips. 

Don't do a cash bar. As a fellow African, if it's a small event, avoid the cash bar. 
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Congrats!!!

I know you won't like this, but in Beaver Creek, after getting your license, you can marry yourselves! Seriously. This is wonderful for second marriages, may not work for firsts.

Weddings there are prohibitively expensive, but can done on a shoestring if you're smart and plan ahead- even in high season.

You can get a local minister if you like.
Then invite immediate family, get a nice cake from a local bakery, have ceremony, go to dinner in the village.

$700 bucks max without air!
It's the lodging that will kill you :(

http://www.beavercreek.com/groups/weddings-winter.aspx


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Congrats (in advance)!!

I have no suggestions, just congrats!!

You will get blessed with plentiful returns.

My sister is doing a destination wedding this summer. My parents struggled for a while with accepting her decision. Her Fiance is not Nigerian though. She will have her traditional here.

One of my girlfriends (I'm in the bridal party) already has a HUGE invite only + no kids guest list for her white wedding in May. The traditional will be a free for all attendance.
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What $ amount would you like to stay under ?
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Congrats!!!Party
I don't know anything about Nigerian customs so can't help you there.  We did look at several places but ended up marrying at my church and having the reception there which did save us alot
of money (membership discount FTW, LOL)  I had a wedding planner and her connections saved us much money as well.
Had my extended family be attendents/runners for help which was great.  Finally its ok to cut costs as much as possible--save your money for the honeymoon!!

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