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   Hey y'all! Thanks for the advice and trying to help. Unfortunately, that's all a no go.

You guys are right, I do feel glad he confided in me. Before I met him, I was so worried about him not liking me because he's older and really close to his mom. He was really distant with me at first, but then he opened up and I feel like he genuinely likes me. I like that he trusts me.

SO just had the talk with him a couple of months ago. Of course he stressed abstinence, but he did discuss making safe sex choices if he did cross that line. I asked him if he did it before or after the talk, and he said after. That's gonna be a huge issue cuz he blatantly went against what his father told him.

We talked about it again today. He said, "Are you going to tell pops?" I said, "No, because you are." He pretty much said flat out he's not telling him anything. I tried to tell him its better if he's upfront because the situation and trust will only be worse if his dad finds out rather than being told, but I guess his fear outweighs that.

I kinda don't blame him. His dad has a quick temper, and like most alpha males, he takes what he considers to be disrespect seriously. This is also gonna bring up the issue of when and where he finds the time to do it. He wouldn't tell me, but he has to be skipping school or sneaking out and that's really gonna piss his dad off.

I told him straight up he put me in a bad position. I told him in the future, he should never be with a woman who lies and hides things from him, and he should want the same for his father. He apologized and said he didn't mean to do it, he didn't think about it like that.  Supposedly, he's going to think about telling him today.

He's young and sloppy so he'll probably get caught soon. I went thru his text messages today and him and the girl are blatantly discussing it and what they wanna do next (seeing a 12 year old girl ask if he wants her to suck his d!ck is sooooo disturbing). I know SO has read his messages before, so I don't put it past him to do it again.

I'll find out later what he decided to do...Lawd, I hope he snitches on himself lol.

I always say no men with kids, andif/when this doesn't work out, I AM STICKING TO THAT SH!T!!! In my defense tho, son lived outta state until well after we got together and then he just dropped it on me that the boy was coming a few months ago.