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ShadyLady
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:19pm |
Hey y'all! Thanks for the advice and trying to help. Unfortunately, that's all a no go.
You guys are right, I do feel glad he confided in me. Before I met him, I was so worried about him not liking me because he's older and really close to his mom. He was really distant with me at first, but then he opened up and I feel like he genuinely likes me. I like that he trusts me.
SO just had the talk with him a couple of months ago. Of course he stressed abstinence, but he did discuss making safe sex choices if he did cross that line. I asked him if he did it before or after the talk, and he said after. That's gonna be a huge issue cuz he blatantly went against what his father told him.
We talked about it again today. He said, "Are you going to tell pops?" I said, "No, because you are." He pretty much said flat out he's not telling him anything. I tried to tell him its better if he's upfront because the situation and trust will only be worse if his dad finds out rather than being told, but I guess his fear outweighs that.
I kinda don't blame him. His dad has a quick temper, and like most alpha males, he takes what he considers to be disrespect seriously. This is also gonna bring up the issue of when and where he finds the time to do it. He wouldn't tell me, but he has to be skipping school or sneaking out and that's really gonna piss his dad off.
I told him straight up he put me in a bad position. I told him in the future, he should never be with a woman who lies and hides things from him, and he should want the same for his father. He apologized and said he didn't mean to do it, he didn't think about it like that. Supposedly, he's going to think about telling him today.
He's young and sloppy so he'll probably get caught soon. I went thru his text messages today and him and the girl are blatantly discussing it and what they wanna do next (seeing a 12 year old girl ask if he wants her to suck his d!ck is sooooo disturbing). I know SO has read his messages before, so I don't put it past him to do it again.
I'll find out later what he decided to do...Lawd, I hope he snitches on himself lol.
I always say no men with kids, andif/when this doesn't work out, I AM STICKING TO THAT SH!T!!! In my defense tho, son lived outta state until well after we got together and then he just dropped it on me that the boy was coming a few months ago.
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ShadyLady
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:20pm |
Sorry, that was so long but I don't wanna involve people we know. Then.it becomes one of those everyone knows but him kinda situations.
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:34pm |
Hugs, Shady!!! All I can give. As I have no kids and no man, I didn't give any advise. All I could do is give my 4 eyes since the 2 ears weren't available.
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:35pm |
Seaux tempted to say eff this natural hair, eff the weaves, and make an appointment to get a relaxer and my short spiky style back! I caint!!! No patience to train damn curls and don't feel like spending beaucoup $$$ to find what will make natural look good. Whatever the sh*t I used in it last night made my hair hard as bricks. Was a sample of Pop Curls. Cowashed it out just now. Gonna try and make small plaits in this hair & put small rodss on them.
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:55pm |
someone send me a pm so I can feel special
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iGotSunshine
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 4:19pm |
Been wearing my natural curls. About to do a length check. I'll report back.
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 4:35pm |
iGotSunshine wrote:
Been wearing my natural curls. About to do a length check. I'll report back. | Yayy! I been keeping my hair up in uparts and I went from above neck length to collar bone length. . I think imma let my hair down for thanks giving ..
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 5:33pm |
Hmm I know people say all developer is the same but you can't tell me clairol brand developer isn't a hell of a lot stronger than salon care.
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Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 5:44pm |
Kami612 wrote:
Hmm I know people say all developer is the same but you can't tell me clairol brand developer isn't a hell of a lot stronger than salon care. IA
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