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    Posted: Dec 30 2013 at 8:45am
Hello. I am a 15 year old girl (yes I know I look older) living in a small town in a suburb in Scotland. Lately I have been reflecting on some experiences in my life. I attended a small private school in my town and I was the only black person in my year (out of 48). There was only one other black boy in the school. Prior to this school I went to a state school with more ethnic minorities and how I was treated there by boys wasn't as bad as this.

I remember on my first day when I walked into the form I got a bit of an uncomfortable vibe from the guys. The girls were very welcoming, but the boys were...well not as welcoming. But I didn't think much of it. As I spent more time in the school, one guy started picking on me and would tell me I looked like a man and would never get a boyfriend or my first kiss. I told a teacher and he stopped then started again. Some other boys would snicker at me and make jokes at my expense. Another one would always make mean comments about my looks. Another would complain about how 'no fit girls joined the school'. There were a few who would never even talk to me. Also I remember going to a party and this guy was rude to me for no reason at all. I somehow felt that the guys looked down on me and I couldn't help but feel that it was down to my skin colour because barely any of the other girls received the same treatment. However this mixed race girl later joined our year and all the guys loved her. They would slave over her and treated her very kindly. One guy would state in front of me that she was so much 'fitter' (hotter) than me. So this made me think maybe they weren't racist if they liked the mixed girl. I didn't really do anything to stand out, I was quiet and respectful. I just couldn't understand why the guys had something against me.

I know people complain that black people pull the race card frequently and I try not to but do you think, from what you've read, there was an element of racism?

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Originally posted by hiimbrooke hiimbrooke wrote:

Hello. I am a 15 year old girl (yes I know I look older) living in a small town in a suburb in Scotland. Lately I have been reflecting on some experiences in my life. I attended a small private school in my town and I was the only black person in my year (out of 48). There was only one other black boy in the school. Prior to this school I went to a state school with more ethnic minorities and how I was treated there by boys wasn't as bad as this.

I remember on my first day when I walked into the form I got a bit of an uncomfortable vibe from the guys. The girls were very welcoming, but the boys were...well not as welcoming. But I didn't think much of it. As I spent more time in the school, one guy started picking on me and would tell me I looked like a man and would never get a boyfriend or my first kiss. I told a teacher and he stopped then started again. Some other boys would snicker at me and make jokes at my expense. Another one would always make mean comments about my looks. Another would complain about how 'no fit girls joined the school'. There were a few who would never even talk to me. Also I remember going to a party and this guy was rude to me for no reason at all. I somehow felt that the guys looked down on me and I couldn't help but feel that it was down to my skin colour because barely any of the other girls received the same treatment. However this mixed race girl later joined our year and all the guys loved her. They would slave over her and treated her very kindly. One guy would state in front of me that she was so much 'fitter' (hotter) than me. So this made me think maybe they weren't racist if they liked the mixed girl. I didn't really do anything to stand out, I was quiet and respectful. I just couldn't understand why the guys had something against me.

I know people complain that black people pull the race card frequently and I try not to but do you think, from what you've read, there was an element of racism?
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They may have picked on you for different reasons, and yes they still may be considered racists. Or they could just be bullies, some children don't know how to react towards people who look different from them. If anybody makes you feel uncomfortable please make sure you tell someone like a teacher or the principal. You shouldn't be made uncomfortable for being yourself. What I regretted when I was a child was, being more proactive and telling the teacher about mean comments other students made about me. Keep being your self, and be strong you are beautiful young lady.
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I don't think so. Teenagers are still growing, their pre-frontal lobe is not fully developed, that's why kids usually do not make the best choices, follow the crowd and so on.
From what I read, it was just boys acting like boys; they know that what hurts girls the most is to talk about their appearance.
Some of them probably cannot talk to a girl, others were uncomfortable around girls or people they don't know, others were just mean or rude, and I am sure one or another was racist.

Be yourself and continue to make friends with whomever wants to be your friend.



ps: and if that is you in the picture, you are really pretty!


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I agree with the poster above....if this is you in the pic then your gorgeous hunnie Smile
Now as far as those boys, pay them no mind. Just go on about your daily routine, ignore and don't let them get the best of you okay. I don't call it racist....I call them little dumb A Hole's who clearly are judgementeal and 9x outta 10 probably couldn't even keep a girlfriend if they got one. LOL So in the end they'll be miserable...trust me. Even if it's years from now....and you'll be ON TOP! 

Good day sweetie.....

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You are very pretty.
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You are pretty and you look like a mixed girl in your picture. They are just immature assholes. I dealt with boys like that when I was a kid too. The best thing to do is hit em back. Boys like that think its ok to go in on girl's looks but get the surprise of their life when you go in on theirs right back. They will think twice when they are read from top to bottom
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IA with the posters above me.. just youth and immaturity...and hating. You are gorgeous doll..thats is why.Smile
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