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Originally posted by rell85 rell85 wrote:

Melody is your friend not JD so you don't need to feel guilty about nothing.
 
this is how i feel about the situation...
 
you don't/wouldn't know about any of jd's dirty lil secrets...if he has any... 


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Originally posted by iluvmihair iluvmihair wrote:

[disclaimer] This is just what I would do. You did not ask for our advice, so I'm not telling you to do this Just sharing.[/disclaimer]- 
I would tell JD. I have done it in the past. My friend told me she was going to have an abortion and I struggled with it so much in my Spirit (I am pro life, but it was beyond that. It was like I knew that she should have it for some reason). I was vexed because me and this girl were NOT friends at all at first, but we grew a beautiful friendship. I told myself, if I somehow get his number, I'm going to tell him. Well, I think our other friend has his work number and she gave it to me and we called and asked for him. She spoke Spanish, while I only knew so much, so I started off the convo and my friend finished it. (She wanted to be able to blame me for telling him lol) She told him that our friend was preggers, and was going to abort it. I still remember he let out a heavy sigh and said "Lo sabia" (=I knew it). And he just kept saying it. She was mad at us at first, but she ended up marrying him and having that child and another child with him. *insert dreamy anime look*

Are you all still friends?

And were you friends with him as well?
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Originally posted by iluvmihair iluvmihair wrote:

[disclaimer] This is just what I would do. You did not ask for our advice, so I'm not telling you to do this Just sharing.[/disclaimer]- 
I would tell JD. I have done it in the past. My friend told me she was going to have an abortion and I struggled with it so much in my Spirit (I am pro life, but it was beyond that. It was like I knew that she should have it for some reason). I was vexed because me and this girl were NOT friends at all at first, but we grew a beautiful friendship. I told myself, if I somehow get his number, I'm going to tell him. Well, I think our other friend has his work number and she gave it to me and we called and asked for him. She spoke Spanish, while I only knew so much, so I started off the convo and my friend finished it. (She wanted to be able to blame me for telling him lol) She told him that our friend was preggers, and was going to abort it. I still remember he let out a heavy sigh and said "Lo sabia" (=I knew it). And he just kept saying it. She was mad at us at first, but she ended up marrying him and having that child and another child with him. *insert dreamy anime look*
 
did she know that you were a staunch pro-lifer/detective/busy body?
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I wish a friend would call my bf and tell him I'm about to get an abortion lol

We fighting on sight.
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Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I wish a friend would call my bf and tell him I'm about to get an abortion lol 

We fighting on sight. 

This was my first thought. That is why I had to ask if she was his friend because I can't picture a girlfriend doing that.  I'm not even sure why anyone would think it was their place to do so, expecially a friend. And to recruit another friend? WTH? We couldn't be friends after that.

This is why they say that the best kept secret is one that you keep to yourself.
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Originally posted by joileprincess joileprincess wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I wish a friend would call my bf and tell him I'm about to get an abortion lol 

We fighting on sight. 

This was my first thought. That is why I had to ask if she was his friend because I can't picture a girlfriend doing that.  I'm not even sure why anyone would think it was their place to do so, expecially a friend. And to recruit another friend? WTH? We couldn't be friends after that.

This is why they say that the best kept secret is one that you keep to yourself.


Couldn't be my friend. I just don't understand how some women have loyalty to a dick that they aint even getting Confused
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i would be mad at her using me as a scape goat and not telling me. her body, her abortion, her business. you have the choice tonbe cordial or close to him....draw the line now
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I would keep these relationships VERY SUPERFICIAL and remote. Stay away and out of their mess as much as possible and do not give off a BFF or buddyolepal impression to hard.

Watch them, but mind your business.  
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Thanks Nala!
Yes we are still friends, Joile, but she moved with him to another state. No him and I weren't friends, I had met him once I believe.
TC- She knew my beliefs, but no, she probably didn't think I would tell him.
BBPants- Grown women fighting physically? Where they do that at? She could have just as easily stopped being my friend. *shrugs* It wasn't about loyalty to him or her, it was about doing what I felt was right. It didn't have to do with my beliefs as it had to do with what I felt it my heart was supposed to be done.

I think Joile and BB said this and I agree, keep that to yourself. I really really don't wanna hear about a friend having an abortion. That's too heavy for me. I will be your shoulder to cry on if you have a miscarriage, but I just can't handle an abortion issue. I'm honestly not judging anyone but myself, I'm just too weak for something that heavy. 

To help put this in perspective, she wasn't dead set on the abortion. She had our boss at the time telling her to have an abortion. My boss even brought a friend in to talk to my friend about abortions (This lady had had one before). So I saw how she was being torn so badly because she didn't know what to do. As her friend, I could tell she wanted to keep it and it was weighing on me. I know I made the right choice, she still thanks us for doing it. And I still thank her for something she helped me with as well. We have mad love for each other.
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