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DiorShowGirl 
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 Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 12:33am |
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i hope no one here judging ever had a kid out of wedlock. (fake) married now or not.
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MY DAUghter was born out of wedlock what does that make me...thank god my pastor didn['t marry me and her father cause later on when me and my daughter moved in wiith him he was verbally abusive to me...so my dad told me to pack her and my things up and come on home..
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 12:35am |
Diane (35) wrote:
uppitynegroid wrote:
Yeah, I was disappointed and surprised when I heard this. I don't understand why so many black people do not value marriage or a family unit, especially considering the state of Black America. |
The USA doesn't subscribe to common law marriages then or is it like many other legal concepts a state-to-state thing? We have that out here after five years of continued cohabitation as if the man and women were married both enjoy the rights of married spouses.
Developed and refined in relation to the realities of the time, nuff faithful stable, shacking up but very few official ceremonies and women often left holding the bag when the man run off after years of being together. [the mass weddings Lady Huggins had, ended in the break down of the relationships] The legislators knew it to be a result of the break up of the black family unit, marrying off spouses and massa taking wives while the husband looked on helplessly among other things
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kinda hard to subscribe to something as common as the haileys comet in the black community out there
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 12:36am |
From Essence website:
Simmons and Wayans plan to walk down the aisle. Just not now. "Of course we talk about that and it's looking good," says Simmons. "But I don't want to be a pregnant bride. I wanna have a beautiful wedding, hopefully a destination wedding where I can show off my figure in a beautiful long flowing dress."
after 8 years, "it's looking good"?
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 12:37am |
im pretty sure ill marry out of wedlock too...
im not religious or anything.. i could careless about being married prior.
however, i will feel a way if im with a guy for hella years and he doesnt care to marry me... i cant do that unless hes rich. and if im like savannah and i was with him before the riches.... no. i will really really feel a way. unacceptable
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Diane (35)
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 12:54am |
afrokock wrote:
Diane (35) wrote:
uppitynegroid wrote:
Yeah, I was disappointed and surprised when I heard this. I don't understand why so many black people do not value marriage or a family unit, especially considering the state of Black America. |
The USA doesn't subscribe to common law marriages then or is it like many other legal concepts a state-to-state thing? We have that out here after five years of continued cohabitation as if the man and women were married both enjoy the rights of married spouses.
Developed and refined in relation to the realities of the time, nuff faithful stable, shacking up but very few official ceremonies and women often left holding the bag when the man run off after years of being together. [the mass weddings Lady Huggins had, ended in the break down of the relationships] The legislators knew it to be a result of the break up of the black family unit, marrying off spouses and massa taking wives while the husband looked on helplessly among other things
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kinda hard to subscribe to something as common as the haileys comet in the black community out there
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LTR/cohabitation isn't uncommon there so afro. Common law marriage would clear all the shade and hysteria about unwed parents up AND save the expense and headache of planning a wedding. 
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 1:05am |
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Well Americans are so advanced they don't want to accept native principles love
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 1:07am |
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Its a slap in the face to invest your youth in a relationship and it never progresses to the next logical step........she wants marriage its him....i feel her on the preggy bride thing but after 8 years they had plenty of time.....
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 1:09am |
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Common law does exist in some states.
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Posted: Oct 02 2013 at 1:24am |
Thanks Sang, yea afro that's exactly it.
OT Where's Kim Porter and Janice coombs?
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