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EasterBell 
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 Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 9:06am |
Seems like you overthinking it and being insecure..You reading too much into them text. I didn't get the cheating vibe from them messages..LOL
Yeah, you need to have a chat with him and express your concerns. Can't really tell much from them text
Edited by EasterBell - Nov 28 2012 at 9:11am
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_leah
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 9:50am |
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Easter you may be right, I've never suffered from insecurity but I can honestly say i feel that way around him because I like him so much it's annoying
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:03am |
I think it's just you. I and my other gf's have strictly platonic relationships with guys, and would do things like this for each other. When in relationships though we do use non-gender specific words/phrases if we will be around them in a way that may make the SO uncomfortable.
Honestly, what can you do? Biitch about it? I mean...that's his friend and if they've been friends for a while-you now put your relationship in jeopardy. Or roll with it, yet keep him at arms length and not get too involved until you are sure you can trust him wholeheartedly.
This may not help but...one of the men I grew up with said men would fucc their female friends if given the chance. It's up to the woman to establish that it'll never happen, or that it's a possibility.
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:19am |
&& this was the conversation last night after he told me they were going to the beach early in this morning and the person was traveling about 2 hours to see him.
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:26am |
Yeah, you found someone that, with time, you can truly fall for, which is probably why you are having those feelings. Yeah, seems like, for now, he is being honest and trying to let you know you can trust him..
LOL @ you saying that you ain't worried but you on BHM posting about trust issues.. 
Just communicate with him..
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:27am |
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okay good to know Lol thanks guys, this was going to drive me cray cray lol
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:27am |
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you have trust issues with him
you say it stems from past relationships so I get that
that fact that you are posting texts (no shade) shows that you need to be reassured by others that all is on the up and up
if he wasn't away, would you still feel like this?
I mean say yall just didn't see each other for 4 days (still in the same city though)....would you think he was "cheating"
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:28am |
probably not, we live relatively far from each other so we really only see each other on weekends anyway.
I know y'all I'm just bugging right now lol
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:28am |
 SamoneLenior wrote:
you have trust issues with him
you say it stems from past relationships so I get that
that fact that you are posting texts (no shade) shows that you need to be reassured by others that all is on the up and up
if he wasn't away, would you still feel like this?
I mean say yall just didn't see each other for 4 days (still in the same city though)....would you think he was "cheating"
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good points..
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Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 10:31am |
_leah wrote:
probably not, we live relatively far from each other so we really only see each other on weekends anyway.
I know y'all I'm just bugging right now lol |
lol okay well you know what I mean, say 2-3 weekends went by I agree you are over thinking it we can't always say "it's him" when we know we have our own issues and for all we know it could be him but if you are already on your inspector gadget from jump then we can't really say he is or isn't doing anything to cause you to feel this way
Edited by SamoneLenior - Nov 28 2012 at 10:32am
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