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that makes sense. As for your situation, you shouldnt worry too much about it. Do YOU think you have trust issues? Have you had trust issues with men in the past?
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relax hun...it's not even that serious..if you already feel like you have trust issues with him..then yall don't even need to be together..


I think you have some insecurities to work on luv


How long have yall been talkin??
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You don't have trust issues, you're just not a dumbass.

You have the right to feel however you want, however, you're not official so he can really do what he wants.
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Make him your man and get rid of these issues. 
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We've been dealing for about a month and a half. It's still relatively new. No I haven't really had trust issues, I have gotten hurt before but it hasn't really affected the way I interact with the males in my life. This is the first time I've ever felt this way. 
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Originally posted by _leah _leah wrote:

I mean I don't know what to call us then. Like if someone asked me if I was single I would say no I'm seeing someone but I wouldn't say I had a boyfriend. 
So the issue is that you don't know were you stand in the relationship?
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Just bc it's not official doesn't mean they can't be exclusive.
They agreed on thst
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He didn't use any gender specific pronouns? I know I don't when I know it will bother a bf or treat du jour and create a problem I don't feel like dealing with. I shouldn't do that but it's just easier at the moment.

Anywho, I think you should just ask him so you can stop guessing. Hope it all works out well for the both of you!
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

He didn't use any gender specific pronouns? I know I don't when I know it will bother a bf or treat du jour and create a problem I don't feel like dealing with. I shouldn't do that but it's just easier at the moment.

Anywho, I think you should just ask him so you can stop guessing. Hope it all works out well for the both of you!


Agreed, I have done that in the past when I know my guy would get pissed if he thought I was hanging with a random guy that he doesn't know about. Having said that though, you might as well just ask. And then if you get a response you're satisfied with, it's time to take it to the next level and make your thing official. Because you're catching feelings as if you are official, but neither of you seems to want to make the statement that you're really dating 100%.

As long as you leave yourself in relationship purgatory, you leave yourself more open to miscommunications and issues like this.
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Originally posted by _leah _leah wrote:

We've been dealing for about a month and a half. It's still relatively new. No I haven't really had trust issues, I have gotten hurt before but it hasn't really affected the way I interact with the males in my life. This is the first time I've ever felt this way. 


Was it his idea or mutual to not be official? I ask because a month and a half is so soon to make things exclusive and ya'll aren't even in a relationship. I mean..why does he need to make it official now if he knows he got you on lock without being in one?

Also, I don't think he would bring it up to you if it was anything serious or a female. He could have been testing you by telling you that piece of info to see how you would react as well...or he the friend could have been more and he sensed your hesitation...the fact that he offered to buy you a ticket is one of the oldest tricks in the books..he needs to stop..knowing you aren't going to do all of that hahaha..

I don't know what to tell you at this point..he's already told you it wasn't like that, so I wouldn't bring it up again..I would however rethink this whole exclusive but not in a relationship situation you are in..don't let these dudes have it like that out here. It is okay to backtrack and if he is really feeling you he will step up and make it official, because it sounds like you want to be official, but maybe something was put out there to make you think that a dating situation like this is cool.


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