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Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

examples so we can speak on it?
 
A 19-year-old young lady buys her boyfriend an X-box and games for Christmas. She is not in school, works at a grocery store, lives with mother, has no car, and her family has been on the brink of eviction several times.
 
Someone hops in and says, Girl you better save that money and let him buy his own X-box!
 
Girl, her mother, her sister blow up someone's phone all damn day talking about how judgmental this person is, telling her to mind her own damn business and let the girl live.
 
Just an example


She's an idiot.
Judgmental my ass. People love to play the "judgmental" card when you aint sugar coating things for them. I get called that every now and then. Truth must be told.Sleepy



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looks @ example
theres no good way to tell a person how to spend their money
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I don't mind tough love but who and how matters.

If I think my little sister is being dumb about her "bf" I just take her phone and other messaging devices and tell her she's being a thirsty trick and it ain't cute.

I was totally spazzing out yesterday she took all my ish and told me I'm gonna be a lonely with dry cooch.

We try to protect each other from basicness
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sound advice often sounds judgmental when youre not used to getting it.
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Too many people want to tip-toe around topics.

I prefer that you give it to me straight....no chaser.

I'm gonna be salty at first but I will get over it. My friends and family have saved me from a lot of different scenarios.

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Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

lmao... um that isn't judgmental. 
sounds like she comes from a family which encourages her messed up priorities. 
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and the more ppl wanna ignore what's hurting them, the more that they prove that professor right.  blks don't do well cuz we as Lino says
 
 "They have a culture that seems not to encourage achievement," he said. "Failure is not looked upon with disgrace."
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Originally posted by SoutherNtellect SoutherNtellect wrote:

depends on the person
i dont respond to tough love. i'll shut down and respond with equal or worse bluntness
9 times out of 10 the person knows what they need to do, ur tough love or coddling wont make a difference
 
I disagree. 9 times out of 10 the person knows what they want to do, they know what they will do, but that doesn't mean that they know what they need to do. And just because that person is determined to do it doesn't mean that their friends and loved ones need to watch idly or turn their heads.
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I'm familiar with that example.

BB, how was your party?


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Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Originally posted by SoutherNtellect SoutherNtellect wrote:

depends on the person
i dont respond to tough love. i'll shut down and respond with equal or worse bluntness
9 times out of 10 the person knows what they need to do, ur tough love or coddling wont make a difference
 
I disagree. 9 times out of 10 the person knows what they want to do, they know what they will do, but that doesn't mean that they know what they need to do. And just because that person is determined to do it doesn't mean that their friends and loved ones need to watch idly or turn their heads.
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I don't mind tough love but who and how matters.

If I think my little sister is being dumb about her "bf" I just take her phone and other messaging devices and tell her she's being a thirsty trick and it ain't cute.

I was totally spazzing out yesterday she took all my ish and told me I'm gonna be a lonely with dry cooch.

We try to protect each other from basicness
LOL

yo...you need to quit. I tried to told you. 
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