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    Posted: Aug 02 2014 at 11:47am
I agree with Bunz with people being consistent in their ways most of the time. However, we will never understand your situation like you do. I went through a similar circumstance with my dad and now that he is out of jail, I keep my distance. He has had to learn that I will not be his martyr. We still love each other, but I've been freed from the codependency that comes from having a manipulative and needy parent. I decided that I don't have to be a part of someone else's chaos. I went through cycles of anger, frustration, and hopelessness--sometimes, I would want nothing to do with him. But now, I realize that I can love him with boundaries, because without boundaries I will find myself as unhappy as before. I have peace and I hope you will too in the future. 

Best wishes to you and your family. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 02 2014 at 7:30am
That is no way to live.
I know you are not looking for sympathy, but I'm very sorry for your  situation and I hope it gets better.

He (or you) need to go while your Mom is incarcerated.
The situation sounds like something on a TV show..


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I'm not expecting my mother to change.. I know she'll go back to her old unfriendly ways. But I don't want to be like her and just ha-ha at her misfortune.

I've been compiling evidence and the more evidence I compile, the less credible his story is. She didn't admit to any of what he stated and she pleaded not guilty. I was actually home when this happened and yet I had no idea that it happened because I never heard any yelling or arguing. He claims she tried to stab him and stabbed and punctured his tires yet all of his tires are completely fine and unscratched.

I didn't even know she was in jail for nearly two days (I assumed she was just at my sister's house since her work is far away) and he acted completely normal. It wasn't until I was going to work that he suddenly had something to say to me and admitted where she was. Isn't that fishy? He also didn't go anywhere for those two days so if his tire was punctured and flat, he couldn't have gone to go repair it. He also couldn't repair it because he doesn't have the means to- this man bitches and whines about my mom not giving him simple gas money. Pitiful, I know.

I've noticed the knife holder mysteriously went from the kitchen to the garage where he keeps his car. I'm guessing he placed it there to show the police. If my mother chased him around the house with a knife, why would the knife holder be in the garage?


As for me being in the house.. I definitely understand the risks and have my fears. But I'm here because my family and my sisters who I love and trust have asked me to. I'm usually out at work and if I'm at home, I stay in my room with my knob locked and extra chain lock secured. He tries to speak to me but I reply tersely and generally do not engage him. Just in case, I keep mace, a stun gun, or one of my multiple disguised knives around. I also have the safetrek app so in case I don't feel safe, taking my finger off my phone is enough to trigger the police to come to my door.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 01 2014 at 9:30pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 01 2014 at 7:48pm
best of luck Midna.

I've learned in my 30yrs- you can't help folks that don't want helping.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 01 2014 at 7:11pm
ahhhhhh, true. ah fcuk it. in my 31 years on this earth ive learned people are very consistent and people who aint sh*t usually prove they still aint sh*t even after given second chances. dont set yourself to get burnt by your mother when she settles back into her old habits. all this assuming your other threads on your mother werent exaggerations.  no offense.

and btw your mother is the one that tried to stab the Brotha and the one who ended up in jail when police heavily favor women in domestic disputes. please be careful.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 01 2014 at 7:00pm
That was a comment Geek
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 01 2014 at 6:46pm
Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:

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