Almost a year since my DH passed...(vent)

BeatriceB, I had no idea you were going through such a difficult time, such a profound transition in life! As others have stated, there is no set time, it is just one step, one DAY at a time. I know that it is hard to imagine yourself ever being happy again, but I promise you will be. There is nothing wrong with feeling your pain, just don't forget to feel the tiny joyful moments too. Allow yourself to cry, but allow yourself to smile, and laugh, and one day, you will smile more than you cry.

I have a coworker who lost her husband; he was a young, well loved man, always kind to everyone. I worked with him also. I saw her hurting so badly, I just could not imagine how she actually could work! But little by little, she started to join in again, to share stories, to talk about her kids, and to laugh at work. It has been almost 2 years now, and she still gets sad! I get sad! But we smile now when we talk about him, and knowing him was a gift to us. He will live on in us.

God will give you strength, and you will give your children strength.

Tbaby hugs to you also! Such losses are not easy, and I admire those who get through such times with dignity and grace.

sorry for the long post . . .

My mom passed recently and its really been tough for me.  However I really worry most about my dad.  They were literally joined at the hip so even though I grieve for my mom, I know my dad is missing his love of his life for 55 years...Relish in your memories and don't be afraid to share with your children your pain.  I think you will be surprised how much they want you to share your pain with them.  And every day is a new day. 

I take care of older patients and this is a topic that comes up all the time and the most random moments.  People miss their one true love.  I've seen people go on to be in other relationships and when that person leaves the room they began to tell me about their late spouse and how much they miss them through tears.  

melikey wrote: One thing that comes through your font is that you're a tremendously strong woman. I am happy you are in better spirits.

very true and ditto, b bean.  

BeatriceBean wrote: But sometimes it's best to keep it simple. I'm saying thank you, and I really mean thank you. Thank you all.

 take your time and please don't hesitate to keep us updated or to vent. 

melikey wrote: One thing that comes through your font is that you're a tremendously strong woman. I am happy you are in better spirits.

^^