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    Posted: Apr 18 2014 at 12:56am
lol tokyo. that is quite involved but seems like it would feel more meaningful especially the new bills part. But aint' nobody got time ... right lol
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I've never received and invitation specifically stating this.  In Japan, it is customary to give money as a gift, and it is an intricate process.  You can't just hand the couple cash.  You have to go to the bank to get new bills.  Then you have to put them in a special envelope.  You have to write the amount that you are giving on the envelope with a special pen.  Also, you can't give an even amount of cash (like $20) because it's bad luck and it means you want the couple to split up.  Finally, depending on how close you are to the couple getting married, you have to give a certain amount.  Usually it's $500 if you are an immediate family member, $300 for close friends and family, $100 for everyone else.  It is used to pay for your meal, the "thank you for coming" gift and the rest for the couple to spend on their new life. 

After my best friend's wedding, I told people not to invite me to any more weddings.  LOL!
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^^I like that. Also when people ask for donations to be made to their fav charity. We sorta did that.
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I received a wedding invitation where the couple asked people to donate to their campaign on Kickstarter to make an independent film instead of buying gifts for the registry. I think that it's generally better to list your registry or whatever via wedding website or word of mouth but I didn't really mind.

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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


ever received an invite like this?



*no I would not do this tacky sh*t
yes. everyone knew the situation before hand and didnt care. everyone chipped in, it was nice. 
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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by NJHairLuv NJHairLuv wrote:

Have the party that you can afford with no anticipation on gifts or dont have the party at all. It is offensive. It's always the most ungrateful, tight wadded person that you know throwing a big sit down gala and getting pissed that the guests didnt give generously enough to cover costs for the venue, food, band, hair, nails and evening gown/tux. They may as well sell tix in advance and get their money upfront.

I always cover my plate plus extra for a sit down meal per plate affair and I decline the rsvp without hesitation if it is someone hosting an event just for gifts.


LOL  I don't like that too much either (I know you're joking). I was invited to one of those type birthday parties not to long ago. $75 tickets per person. I just wrote them a check for the amount and sent our regrets.

LOLYes, my friend recently told me that her niece was hosting her own 'Red carpet 40th birthday party' and the tix were $50. I smiled, then I laughed like 'shyttttt', then I sweetly said 'have fun at the party'Tongue.
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I know a birthday is an event just like a wedding or baby shower, but it just seems tacky as hell to me to ask for money for your birthday.

I don't mind it for weddings/baby showers etc cuz I'd rather get someone something useful than something they're gonna return or re-gift anyway.

I don't think I'd have the balls to say something like that tho.
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Originally posted by NJHairLuv NJHairLuv wrote:

Have the party that you can afford with no anticipation on gifts or dont have the party at all. It is offensive. It's always the most ungrateful, tight wadded person that you know throwing a big sit down gala and getting pissed that the guests didnt give generously enough to cover costs for the venue, food, band, hair, nails and evening gown/tux. They may as well sell tix in advance and get their money upfront.

I always cover my plate plus extra for a sit down meal per plate affair and I decline the rsvp without hesitation if it is someone hosting an event just for gifts.


LOL  I don't like that too much either (I know you're joking). I was invited to one of those type birthday parties not to long ago. $75 tickets per person. I just wrote them a check for the amount and sent our regrets.


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Have the party that you can afford with no anticipation on gifts or dont have the party at all. It is offensive. It's always the most ungrateful, tight wadded person that you know throwing a big sit down gala and getting pissed that the guests didnt give generously enough to cover costs for the venue, food, band, hair, nails and evening gown/tux. They may as well sell tix in advance and get their money upfront.

I always cover my plate plus extra for a sit down meal per plate affair and I decline the rsvp without hesitation if it is someone hosting an event just for gifts.
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Its tacky to ask for it but it's better than useless gifts like ugly plates

Edited by miana79 - Apr 16 2014 at 4:26pm
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