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    Posted: Jul 06 2014 at 12:26am
Originally posted by princesslola princesslola wrote:

I've been crushing on this guy for years(im 27 and he's 7 yrs older than me...just throwing that in there),he finally approached and we've been texting. So anyway I was asking him advice about an outfit or hairstyle and I said oooh u have good taste I'm going to always ask you. He told me "don't do that I'm not the friend zone type dude".

Okay so by him saying that it's telling me he like me but idk if like a hit and quit or potential relationship. I know that's not much to base it off of but I've never had a guy off top just tell me " im not the friend zone type" by me typing that it sounds mean but he's really nice.


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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

Girl, for years though? Damn

Also I think your reaction to Printer Ink was rather rash. I tend to facepalm at PI at all other subjects, but when it comes to men and love, she's on point.

Her advice was sound. Maybe you didn't like it because it wasn't the ideal outcome but her words definitely weren't meant to offend.

Be careful, hun. Don't jump the gun.

Same thing I said, Printer Ink gives A1 advice.....so that goes to show the truth hurts because she got highly offended LOL

And dang I didn't realize it was years involved.....she's def wasting her time on that guy. Let his a** go
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Girl, for years though? Damn

Also I think your reaction to Printer Ink was rather rash. I tend to facepalm at PI at all other subjects, but when it comes to men and love, she's on point.

Her advice was sound. Maybe you didn't like it because it wasn't the ideal outcome but her words definitely weren't meant to offend.

Be careful, hun. Don't jump the gun.
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The guy is telling you he's not just a friend. LOL

Don't overthink this one, that can be interpreted in multiple ways. Allow him to give you more clues about his intent.

You could easily assume the man likes you likes you just as easily you could assume he just wants to hit.

That text could be taken in multiple ways which is why I think it's safer and just let him show you his true intent little by little.

But one thing we know for sure, he's not here for a passive friendship role. LOL
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Originally posted by princesslola princesslola wrote:

I've been crushing on this guy for years(im 27 and he's 7 yrs older than me...just throwing that in there),he finally approached and we've been texting. So anyway I was asking him advice about an outfit or hairstyle and I said oooh u have good taste I'm going to always ask you. He told me "don't do that I'm not the friend zone type dude".

Okay so by him saying that it's telling me he like me but idk if like a hit and quit or potential relationship. I know that's not much to base it off of but I've never had a guy off top just tell me " im not the friend zone type" by me typing that it sounds mean but he's really nice.


Crushing on a guy for years?  Why have you been wasting your time?

Asking a guy for advice on your hair and dress just sounds a bit simplistic...and yeah don't take his text so seriously.  If he's really nice and you both actually talk in person go on those vibes instead.



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Correct ... it just lends itself to 'fantasy'. So when you get together with him you will have already decided .. he's the one. :(

Silly Hollywood drama that will leave you hurt in the end.

Never have a 'crash'on a guy (forget about him) ... he's supposed to be having a crush on YOU.

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Yes... texting means nothing. He could be with another girl and text you, or like Beauty620 wrote above, he could be texting a bunch of girls at the same time.
I don't know why you are crushing on a guy for so long, but be careful. When we crush on someone for a long period, we are just enamored with whom we think the person is, not really enamored with the person.
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I agree with printer_ink....and I gotta add that every single advice that she's given has been ON POINT, she doesn't sugar coat anything and she keeps it 100.

But might I add that if he is texting constantly .....then your not the only one he's texting. That ish is so for these kids out here. Also it sounds like he wants to be more than friends...but he isn't quiet showing it. So 9x out of 10 he just wants your cookie and he sounds like he likes to play games. So if I were you I wouldn't even get involved with this guy keep it moving...from everything i've read he sounds like a bs type of guy. Like the other poster said....RUN and RUN FAST. Lol
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Sure she can still deal with him if she wants but the point is ... the GAME IS OVER with this guy if she wants to have a real relationship.

I knew this when the first thing she said was she had a crash on him for years and he finally approached her. Now, what are the chances he WAS NOT aware she had a crush on him all those years? ZERO.

(I can always tell when a guy I see at work etc .. has a crush on me. Duh! It's the vibe you send out.)

So, he does not HAVE to actually have done anything wrong at this point. It's the foundation that is compromised now.

How is the guy gonna chase her ..if she is already running headlong in his direction?

Geesh, that's the only job the poor guys got - to 'chase' and figure out a way to 'get her' but she takes this away from him so .. in the end it can't work out.

Maybe it sounds like I am beimg too hard .. but I've seen the proof of this time and time again.



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 OP, I actually think it’s a good sign that he said he's not the friend zone type. That means he wants to get to know you on a more personal level other than the BFF homeboy/ homegirl type relationship. However, I would avoid asking a guy you’re conversing with about advice about women’s outfits and hairstyles. Unless he's your man, or you two have been dating for a while I wouldn't ask him those type questions this soon. I know it may seem harmless but men tend to decipher things differently than women do. He may be thinking, "Dang, why is this woman asking me these questions about hairstyles & clothes when I'm not even her man, or platonic friend? To be honest that’s what your girlfriends are for. But I wouldn’t say you should necessarily stop dealing with him like some of the other posters. Now that’s I bit extreme. The man didn’t even do anything wrong. Lol  Confused

 All you can do is take it day by day and see where things go.

You said you two went on a date already. So how did it go? And how was his body language and conversation etc?

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