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    Posted: May 10 2014 at 11:28am
He was flying high, day dreaming about the 'honeymoon stage' of the relationship....until that argument brought him back to reality.

He'd forgotten why he decided to do the FWB thing in the first place: to avoid the cons of a relationship while receiving all of the benefits like sex, no nagging/complaining/expectations and personal accountability.

He was honest with you. He's not ready for a relationship. Look for someone who is.
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Usually when a Guy says he wants to be with you, but NOT RIGHT NOW. Means drop his a** and move on to the next because he will never want to be with you period.

Tell him Buh Bye! Don't even want to be friends with his a**.....drop him all together
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He just wanted to be with you cuz he didn't sleep with you yet.. don't waste your time, move on.
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Well, like the ladies said ... he's just not into you and was just enjoying the free and easy sex with you and .. now he is off to the next 'easy' female. :( Lots of them out there!

I will repeat the rules for you about men:

- a casual sex/friends with benefits situation can NEVER amount to anything other than .. more casual sex until it runs it’s course and it's over. This is because NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS .. men HAVE to pursue you ... and 'win' you if they want to respect you and fall in love.

- again this is the reason to NOT HAVE SEX with a guy for that magic 2
to 3 month period (the longer the better) to give you enough time to see what the heck he's all about and to give him enough time to pursue you and treat you like a lady that he would take seriously. Usually in this time period you find out he’s not relationship material anyway but since you have not invested yourself in him sexually .. it is a million times easier to just stop taking his calls and move on.

A girl’s got to be selective.

- if you JUST WANT SEX from a man that’s fine too but (we all gert horny sometimes) but you have to be mature enough to be honest with yourself and understand that’s all it is – sex. So then place your emotional investment in a guy that you WON’T sleep with because there is maybe a chance for something real with THAT guy. (So you have 1 guy for sex and the 'others' you just date with no sex .. until you figure out if one of these guys is worthly. THAT's when you get involved.)

I don’t care what he said – men lie if they see they can get free and easy sex out of a girl. That's ‘Men 101’. If you can believe everything someone tells you ... I have a bridge in NYC I'd like to sell you. :)

Do not be gulible.

There are exceptions to the above .. but you cannot bank on being the exception. You have to live and learn and DO NOT repeat this mistake with men or you will be in for a world of grief and never understand WHY guys are always saying nice stuff, having sex ... and then dumping you.

They HAVE to chase you .. or in the end .. it will not work out because … he never really wanted you to begin with.

Do not sleep with them. Dating is a 'fact finding' mission so keep your cards close to your chest (don't trust so easily) and keep that dime between your knees.

Sorry .. but this is the truth.


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Leave and do not look back. Move on.
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Leave and do not look back. Move on.
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Please don't fuck him anymore.

You're beyond the friends with benefits zone. You two can no longer maintain a simple relationship.

I advise you just to cut him off. Forget being friends, things have grown far too convoluted for a simple and enjoyable friendship.

Please, for you and your heart's sake, cut him off. Be done. You don't have to set him on fire and walk away, but just do a simple and clean cut and keep it stepping. Take time to yourself.

You horny? Masturbate all you need to. But please don't waste any more time than you already have on this guy. 5 months of this crap? All over a single week of dating?

No, you need to leave.


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OH sh*t, IT REALLY IS THE SAME GIRL!

WOMAN... THIS SAME DUDE KEEPS NUDES OF OTHER WOMEN ON HIS PHONE AND REFUSES TO DELETE THEM!


I don't mean any rudeness, but how can you still be asking for advice over a guy who has made it extremely clear he has no solid plans for you? OP, what are you doing? You're literally sticking around for heartbreak and it's terrible to see because you don't deserve all this precious time wasted and all this heartbreak and hell.
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Is he the same guy with the pics of naked girls?
If yes, then you should not be with him.

If not, you still should not be with him. When a man says he doesn't want to lose you but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, what he is really saying is "I want you around for sex but not around as my girlfriend".
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Midna Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 09 2014 at 12:34am
Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

Sounds like he's currently dealing with other females, but isn't man enough to tell u. I guarantee your not the only one.He wants the benefits of being in a relationship, but doesn't want to put in the hardwork and commitment. 

I'm sure he probably did want to be with you at some point. But keep in mind a man may being feeling a certain way about you now, but feel a completely different way about u the next week.  If he "broke up" with you over 1 little argument that tells you how much value he has placed on your situation. More than likely he'll keep stringing you along for as long as you allow it.  I know its gonna be hard, but your best bet is to cut him off cold turkey. Or tell him you can only be platonic friends (NO SEX INCLUDED) And watch and see his behavior change either for the better or for the worse. Dude is selling you a dream


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