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    Posted: Mar 29 2014 at 5:19pm
this convo pretty much ran its course so ima post this here...hilarious

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i don't think there's anything wrong with not letting him wear a dress since most little girls don't wear dresses very much anyway.

i want my daughter to wear dresses on a regular basis though.
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I am not letting my son wear a dress. I wouldn't get the same flack if I didn't let my daughter wear a dress.
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gender and race are not the same....sex and gender are not the same.  your race doesn't determine sh*t about you except for how society treats you.  let's be serious here.  unless you're talking about some spiritual connection to your ancestors, there is no possible way to "feel" white.  it's all a construct of society while your actual SEX is biological.  if someone feels like they were born in the wrong body it means something happened biologically, in the brain to interfere with what physically presented itself.  you only feel your race because of constant racism.  you wouldn't even think about your race if we lived in  society where we were all black and didn't have to deal with racism, colorism, etc...then it would be all about sexism, gender roles...which is pervasive in every society where racism isn't a factor.  every culture doesn't have the same gender rules either so if a boy thinks of himself clearly as a boy but prefers to take on female gender roles then so what, there's no set rule.  

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Originally posted by OhMyCurlz OhMyCurlz wrote:

[QUOTE=Marcelo22]

A black child "wanting to be white" is not comparable to a child saying "I have a penis but I AM a girl". 



This is such damn BS. 

So let's change the wording.

"I have black skin but I AM white" coming from an obviously black child with two black parents.


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Damn switching all gender roles up in here
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my issues is that children are still developing, as a child they are not sure about anything, if they feel one way one day and you reinforce the ideas by pushing your own labels then that's wrong! It works both ways... and there are no hard and fast rules about gender- and I don't believe children are able to identify their sexuality, gender roles without adult influence.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote liesnalibis Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 28 2014 at 11:10pm
Originally posted by Marcelo22 Marcelo22 wrote:

Originally posted by OhMyCurlz OhMyCurlz wrote:

Originally posted by purpulicious01 purpulicious01 wrote:

[QUOTE=OhMyCurlz]Wellllll.....h<span style="line-height: 1.4;">ow folks run their house is their business, but I hope no one would disown their flesh and blood due to their gender identity. </span>

Girls can show an interest in sports and they are considered a "tomboy"....a boy shows an interest in "girly things" and now it's a problem? Do some of yall have a problem with your little man crying, too? 

There are no longer any reputable psychiatrists that would co-sign that encouraging a child to identify (gender wise) as they feel to be a bad thing. Being a transgender is not a mental illness. These people just repress their feelings and a lot end up committing suicide. Sooooooo, if your son killing himself is worth it to you, just so you don't have to deal with your personal antiquated ideas of your child identifying as a girl, than that's something you will have to deal with. 

But yes, encouraging a child to repress their gender identity is bad parenting

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 <b style="line-height: normal;"><span style="font-size: small;">I understand that people are starting to adapt a gender neutral stance, but let's not be so quick to call those of us who do not jump on this gender neutral bandwagon bad parents or stupid/selfish</span><span style="font-size: small;">. </span>
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<div ="gmail_default"="" style="line-height: normal;">If you are encouraging your child to repress anything, especially gender identity....yes, that's bad parenting. I don't think anyone who works with children would agree that a 7 year old repressing any type of feeling is healthy. <div ="gmail_default"="" style="line-height: normal;">
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so if u had a daughter and she said "i wanna be white, mommy can i wear your beyonce lacefront blonde wigs, dont forget the weave glue" u would be cool with that?



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Originally posted by naturesgift naturesgift wrote:

What does it mean to be a girl? -Girls are not defined by wearing dress or even doing their hair and make-up?

I think some transwomen overcompensate by trying to be ultra feminine...too much make up, dresses, and a lot of provocative clothing...usually terrible looking results.   
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There is no such thing as a boy or girl because girls are boys and boys are girls and you are whatever you want to be and dress up as.
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