Bunz, yeah they are way over protective about things.
| Gkisses wrote:|
how was she get the information she needs to conduct a background check in the first place. Is this your mother something and how old are you I'm confused by this all around
She hasn't run it yet. I'm not giving her information because of this. She's pressuring me into giving her more information. Not like demanding, she's more passive aggressive with it. "you need to run a bc, just give me the info and I'll make sure he's cool."
When OTHER family members bring him up in conversation and ask questions about him, they'll get all suspicious "i.e. at his age, why isn't he married? You sure he doesn't have kids?! Are you sure he isn't lying about his age like [insert person they know who actually did lie about age to his gf]"
From there I state that he is honest about this information, he volunteers information in casual conversation. I have not caught him in a lie not once.
The person I'm referring to in the OP (older sister who acts like a surrogate mother type) instead of saying she's met him and he's cool so far...or simply backing me up in front of other family just has to take charge and insist that she
will run a BC. This insinuates that the only way information can be trusted is if it comes from someone who isn't myself. I'm 25 and a pretty decent judge of character...the other family members are almost all significantly older. Whenever I disagree about this they make me out to just be easily duped...hence this thread.
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