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Originally posted by SunshineDiva SunshineDiva wrote:

I have a question for all of you ladies do you ever feel lonely? or do you at least have someone in your corner who you can talk to?
yes I sometimes feel lonely... even when I have plenty of friends, If I feel too bad I reach out to them... but I have had the feeling of being the only friend I have and then I try and discover something new about myself...


When I feel lonely i sink into that sad depressing place Ouch b/c of a past relationship I don't have ANY friends so I'm used to being alone but I thought in college it would have been different but I am seriously struggling at home I had my mom and the rest of my family that I speak to
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

what kind of hatred are you experiencing sunshine? tell me and maybe i can help you through it. like i said, i've been there.


The hatred is mainly from females I feel like its jealousy but I can not say for sure but dirty looks talking about me when I leave the room or it happen one time while I was in the room. The situation I mentioned before when I was in the double room where the girl didn't like me because I was "friends" with the guy she liked. This other chick is cool in my face but the minute I leave the room or she thinks Im out of hearing distance she starts talking about me.

I know I should have tough skin but I just feel like I am battling every time I leave the room
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Originally posted by SunshineDiva SunshineDiva wrote:

I have a question for all of you ladies do you ever feel lonely? or do you at least have someone in your corner who you can talk to?
yes I sometimes feel lonely... even when I have plenty of friends, If I feel too bad I reach out to them... but I have had the feeling of being the only friend I have and then I try and discover something new about myself...
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what kind of hatred are you experiencing sunshine? tell me and maybe i can help you through it. like i said, i've been there.
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It's cool to not fit in.
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I have a question for all of you ladies do you ever feel lonely? or do you at least have someone in your corner who you can talk to?
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

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if you're in school you must be in your late teens, early twenties so you're still young. i've been there. in time you'll grow to stay true to yourself all while not giving a damn about what people think about you. 





Embarrassed early twenties yea im 23 which is why i guess i feel out of place too because everyone here is 18 or 19 and very immature at times.

Thank you for the advice.....its hard though I have experienced so much hatred here and I haven't spoken to anyone for them to have any dislike towards me in anyway.


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Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

Sometimes I felt like that but would later realize that is all in my head. The truth is that I never had a desire to fit in. I don't know if it comes from being an only child. I also realized that my lack of desire to fit in is a plus in my life Bc it cancels out all the phony, shallow, immature disingenuous people that I would never like anyway.

I have maintained most of my friendships since grade school / high school. The beauty of a genuine friendship or connection is that 'fitting in' never matters. Once a person gets to truly know you and genuinely like you, they will accept you as a friend no matter what.

I always laugh and say that it takes a person at least 5 months to get to know me and there is a great chance you will like me. I am a true enigma and no one can ever successfully out me into a category. That turns a lot of ppl off
when they can not figure you out.

Moral of the story: real recognize real. Anything else. I could care less.



I am an only child too (well I have a half sister but we have never been close.....long storyCry) but I have always wanted to "fit in"but just felt awkward during the process. When I first stared school my roommate at the time had a friend who was a COMPLETE jerk to me because she liked this guy that i was an acquaintance with...she was literally throwing jabs at me EVERY SECOND that she could to the point where i just didnt feel comfortable in the setting i was in and decided that I needed to separate myself from there so I got a single room so the negativity is gone. I just pray that is gets better
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I think everyone at times feels this way- even people who seem like they do- Didn't you ever watch Mean Girls? LOL
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