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    Posted: Feb 27 2014 at 9:02pm
I used to not be able to talk to people very much at all, especially people my own age because I couldn't relate to popular culture.  Over the years due to actually having friends and a job I've gotten more comfortable with it.  I actually am great at small talk now.  I only like talking about deep topics with people closer to me because I don't like to feel like people are judging me.

Getting "good" at talking is basically about keeping the ball rolling.  you can't just stay at that "hey how are you-I'm fine" level of things.  There has to be some further disclsure of details.  How personal and detailed depends on your relationship.  For a casual acquaintance you may do something like this:

Me: Hi Jane how are you?
Jane: I'm fine how are you?
Me:I'm great, I just got back from visiting my brother this morning. 
Jane: Oh that sounds nice, does he live in town?
Me: Yes he does.  he works at Smith's Warehouse.  Didn't you used to work there?
Jane: Yes I did! 

...so on and so forth.  Basically open ended questions/responses that keep the ball rolling are key to these social interactions and it can go on as far as you want/need for it to go.
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im only 5'7. i wish i was 6'4
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I can talk to anyone. Part of the profession. Thing is, I hate 'small talk.'Sooooo very boring. It can be quite tiring.
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Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

alls well on this side joe. you?

@myxer 
ppl have always said im intimidating 
not sure why.maybe cause i wear
all blk almost everyday haha. :/


Ah LadyIce...are you tall? I've always wished I was tall. Like 6' tall. Ok. Maybe 5'11" but still, tall.
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Originally posted by Petty LaBelle Petty LaBelle wrote:

I hate small talk.
nervous? shy? just mean?

how are you doing btw
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I hate small talk.
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Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

alls well on this side joe. you?

@myxer 
ppl have always said im intimidating 
not sure why.maybe cause i wear
all blk almost everyday haha. :/
alls well as well
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alls well on this side joe. you?

@myxer 
ppl have always said im intimidating 
not sure why.maybe cause i wear
all blk almost everyday haha. :/
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Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

i dont talk to strangers.
ppl avoid me in the streets.
hows it  going?
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Originally posted by purpulicious01 purpulicious01 wrote:

OP, you may just be introverted. Nothing wrong it with that.

I'm introverted myself (being around a lot of ppl drains me and I enjoy doing things solo) and dislike small talk (prefer a good one-on-one conversation) , however I know how to hold a conversation when I have to. I will carry conversations with strangers, but usually am not the one to initiate them. 

Advice: Don't over think things and don't try to plan conversations in advance. Learn to relax in social situations. Once you are relaxed, you may find that the ability to carry the flow of a conversation comes naturally. 

I  am introverted, but I also experience the negative mental feelings that come with failing to interact at the level I should be able to so its deeper then  being shy.

anyway  how  are  you doing?
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