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    Posted: Jun 09 2014 at 10:07am
Originally posted by slykitten slykitten wrote:

Originally posted by Twisted_Angel Twisted_Angel wrote:

I agree with Printer

I make more than my man..been working longer than him.I've been the bread winner in this relationship. Don't matter to me at all its not a competition

He's not a bum at all its just tough to land decent jobs over here especially if you a black man with dreads..they decriminate a lot over here..

Anyways. I'm starting college soon also.

We was having a talk about our future plans he said he would like me to work part time and use the financial aide for bills because I'm pregnant.. were moving out and getting married he feels like Im doing too much..

But now that I think about it he didn't want to be around me in the past sometimes cuz he felt ashamed that he was making x amount of dollars.. so I agree I think its in a mans nature to want to Bring home the Bacon...and I don't see a problem with it and I actually respect it cuz this world getting infected with bums especially men who depend on women like they their mom...won't even bother getting a damn job.


Why doesn't he cut his hair if it is preventing him from finding a job?  Unless it is for religious reasons, I don't know why we would keep them if he knows it is hurting him.


cuz that nicca don't really wanna work.


she's pregnant and its bad enough she HAS to work period and he cant even cut his dreads to make himself a little more employable?
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Originally posted by Twisted_Angel Twisted_Angel wrote:

I agree with Printer

I make more than my man..been working longer than him.I've been the bread winner in this relationship. Don't matter to me at all its not a competition

He's not a bum at all its just tough to land decent jobs over here especially if you a black man with dreads..they decriminate a lot over here..

Anyways. I'm starting college soon also.

We was having a talk about our future plans he said he would like me to work part time and use the financial aide for bills because I'm pregnant.. were moving out and getting married he feels like Im doing too much..

But now that I think about it he didn't want to be around me in the past sometimes cuz he felt ashamed that he was making x amount of dollars.. so I agree I think its in a mans nature to want to Bring home the Bacon...and I don't see a problem with it and I actually respect it cuz this world getting infected with bums especially men who depend on women like they their mom...won't even bother getting a damn job.

Why doesn't he cut his hair if it is preventing him from finding a job?  Unless it is for religious reasons, I don't know why we would keep them if he knows it is hurting him.
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Yes, this is a good thing.

You have to let a man have his pride.

He's a big boy - he'll figure it out ... WITHOUT asking his girl for money. :)
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I would also like to add my bf refused to take any money from me when he was not working... I didn't understand why but after reading this thread I guess it was a good thing???
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Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:


Lastly .. you are in school? Really? Because your English is really very bad.


I'm sorry but that's *&%^$#@En hilarious..
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I agree with Printer

I make more than my man..been working longer than him.I've been the bread winner in this relationship. Don't matter to me at all its not a competition

He's not a bum at all its just tough to land decent jobs over here especially if you a black man with dreads..they decriminate a lot over here..

Anyways. I'm starting college soon also.

We was having a talk about our future plans he said he would like me to work part time and use the financial aide for bills because I'm pregnant.. were moving out and getting married he feels like Im doing too much..

But now that I think about it he didn't want to be around me in the past sometimes cuz he felt ashamed that he was making x amount of dollars.. so I agree I think its in a mans nature to want to Bring home the Bacon...and I don't see a problem with it and I actually respect it cuz this world getting infected with bums especially men who depend on women like they their mom...won't even bother getting a damn job.

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i cant be with someone if he cant financially take care of himself...and me(if I needed him too).
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

OP, you be careful.

That kind of doting can lead to you being manipulated and sucked dry.

I agree with this, you will be sucked dry and not in a good way Tongue

I was VERY mothering to my ex-bf and it did not end well. I had to move on and literally make him learn how to do things for himself.
 I used to cook, clean and take care of the bills (he would contribute $$ but I had to pay them and the bulk of them) We're not together, but we have a child which is why we still are in contact with each other, so for a while after we broke up he still looked for me to do the things that I did when we were together. Example....he didn't know how to open his own gym membership. He wanted to be on my cell phone plan although we are not together. Of course I REFUSED to do any of that, which led to tantrums from him. 
It was a MESS, emotionally draining and it did suck me dry. It was like I had two children when we were together...smh. BUT that experience has made me realize what I want from the next man and what I will and will not tolerate in a relationship.
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Hold it ... you mean you are the SAME woman that also made that post about acting like your boyfriend's mother, anticipating his needs, doing for him, cuddling him etc ... AND now you are talking about his financial sitution in THIS post? And ... you don't think you have any problems?

Wow. I'd like to know what is so special about THIS particular guy that would cause you could tolerate such a man ... that is clearly lacking on SO MANY fronts? It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues to be associated with such a character.

I don't even think you can get much lower in terms a finding a partner, I mean ... you can't fall off the floor. Duh!

(Shrugs) Good luck with your next 30 years of 'carrying' this grown man though.

Edited by Printer_Ink - Feb 26 2014 at 6:34am
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