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    Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 6:49pm
Why make a blanket judgement.  If she didn't post pics why assume it looks fake or awful.  When I first read this mess-my thought was who gives a hot "eff" if someone or anyone is staring at you, your hair or whatever in the first place??  I can only assume based on the way she said it, maybe the OP is not comfortable with her hair or herself and is reading way too much into people "looking" at her. If she noticed that someone was intensely staring her hair down --does that mean she was turned around staring back ?  If it bothered OP that much, she should have asked the woman why she was staring at her.  I have done so before and either people will tell you or back off. 
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Umm I don't know where the OP went .. but she was pretty clear that people were staring at her a lot ... but not in a good way. :(

I think we all know what it is get attention when your hairs looks good ... but when something looks off to people ... that would be a whole other star completely. :(

That's what I think is happening with the OP because she sounds really tortured by the stares. :(
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We really need to be more supportive in 2014 . Maybe the lady hair looks so natural people are amaze . Many people are still ignorant to fact we can have long natural hair . Men tell me often how beautiful my hair looks most days lol . I wear indian and curly hair . So many people wear weaves now , even men lol.  OP don't sweat it . Post a picture if you choose . I Learn how to blend any type of hair with my natural napps after years of trial and error . I have bad hair days also . Weaves require a lot of work to maintain a natural look in my op.
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Some install with kinky straight can be bulky....that probably why I would stare.....
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Originally posted by Lacy Gal Lacy Gal wrote:

OP, I pay attention to the stares of Black people not White people. Black people are more likely to notice if something is not right. But it does not always mean that something is wrong. Homegirl may just be checking your head out.

Printer Ink you really ought to let up. Yeah now you are wearing kinky curl hair. But if I remember correctly you used to be a great fan of brazilian straight hair and virgin indian hair.  But then you decided to switch up. To each his own.


Geeeesh ... I didn't say she could NOT wear kinky straight, yaki etc ... I said if she wears a weave .. basically she has to OWN it so if it looks false .. she's gotta figure out why.

How many times have I said this in this thread? What does this have to do with MY wearing brazilian straight/wavy in the past? Try to stay on point/ Just because I wear kinky curly .. does not mean she has to wear kinky curly. But she kept mentioning that she is wearing the most natural texture possible which was untrue because she did not mention the kinky curly texture. That is an option too.

I am not saying she cannot wear straight hair .. she can ... the issue is that however she is wearing it, if people are staring something is off.

I think you just brought that up because I laid out the whole 'blacks girls cannot have long staight hair ... unless they use chemicals of heat' scenario. A topic that everyone already knows but tries to deny.

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Most people of African descent don't have 4b/c hair usually is in 4a/b category but honestly it doesn't matter what hair type "we" have. People are going to stare regardless so either develop thick skin or stop wearing weaves in general.
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OP, I pay attention to the stares of Black people not White people. Black people are more likely to notice if something is not right. But it does not always mean that something is wrong. Homegirl may just be checking your head out.

Printer Ink you really ought to let up. Yeah now you are wearing kinky curl hair. But if I remember correctly you used to be a great fan of brazilian straight hair and virgin indian hair.  But then you decided to switch up. To each his own.
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Originally posted by cupcakeroad cupcakeroad wrote:

 

I'm frustrated. I'm so tired of hearing ppl complain about black women's hair looking fake so I spend hundreds of dollars on kinkystraigt which looks natural and people will not stop inspecting my scalp. its not like I'm wearing doll hair. what do they want me to do? have short hair so I wont have a bunch of inspector gadgets in my head all the time. Im tired of this. every other race can have long hair and its normal but on me I'm looked at like a science project.
why do you care about what others think? if you like it roll with it...why would you spend money just to impress others? or..whatever it is youre trying to do.Confused
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Geesh, again ladies Black people CAN grow their hair long IF they stay away from the chemicals and the heat and whatnot - because that is what causes damage and causes it to break off.

But it DOES NOT lie down flat when it grows out .. it goes into an afro. Duh!

So yes, when black or white people see a black woman with long hair that is laying down flat (kinky straight, yaki .. whatever) they will wonder if it's real. This is obvious but black people still get offended as if the whole rest of the world does not know this. Duh! Well, they do. The other races know that mostly we have 4b/c hair.

This is because no matter what the texture (kinky straight or yaki) for it to lie down like the other races... the person has to have applied chemicals or heat to get that texture. This damages it ... so for the hair to withstand this damage so long that it can grow to 18 - 20 inches length is POSSIBLE (some heads can take it) but it is not COMMON.

Of course, some black people have naturally straight/wavy etc hair .. but that's not so common either .. so people will get a good look at that person's head too.

I have friends with this kind of hair .. people check them out because they wear their hair off their faces ... it is very clear that is their hair. They are just used to it so …

Now this is the truth as to why people … ‘act like black people can't grow long hair'. It is because 'black people TYPICALLY CANNOT grow long hair (that hangs down) unless it is treated.

Back in the 80's and 90's White people had their hair permed too into the 'poodle' curl thing ... with all these curls all over their head. Well guess what .. the curl perms broke off THEIR hair. Even if they dye their hair ice blonde .. after a few years .. guess what ... STARTS to break off. So yes, they have to go back to their natural color and grow out or cut off the perms .. or they have problems too.

The moral to the story for all people .. is to go natural .. or you will have problems with your hair .. eventually though some folks can stand it. :(

Rules:

- If you want to grow your hair long .. it must be natural (in twists, or locks, or an afro etc).

- If you want your hair to hang down like the other races you have to treat it .... which most likely with cause damage and causes it breaks .. so then it does not grow long.

You can't have it BOTH ways (typically). Typically meaning this is what happens with most 4b/c heads of hair .. but some heads can take it.

They are the exception.

How can these self-same black people not accept a construct ... that everyone else IS AWARE OF?

Now with the weaves .. every black girl with long hanging hair ... is suspect. Maybe it's rude to stare but no one has control over how the whole rest of the world reacts to our heads. If the weave looks believable they may or may not comment .. but if it looks false .. they are gonna stare faaaaaar longer than would be expected.

This is the problem with the OP. :(


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People tend to stare at things that are unusual be that in a negative or a positive way. The negatives could be color, blending, length (as far as blending your leave out with it), and/or the actual install. The positives could be that the hair looks great but they are not used to or ready to accept a Black woman with long, kinky hair. I get more curious looks than anything. Then some like to follow to get better looks. The especially bold with just get blunt and ask if its my hair.

Just be sure that its not an issue with the hair and install itself. After that, just go about your day not giving a damn.
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