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    Posted: Dec 16 2013 at 12:59am
Originally posted by nemesis1 nemesis1 wrote:

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Long story short, after speaking with him I found out we weren't compatible. And he said "let's just be friends" after telling him I didn't believe in pre-marital sex. He said being in a r/ship w/o sex is boring and asked if we could do "other things" and I gently said No. This was two days ago. He hasn't texted me or called since. I'mma move on now.

Thanks, y'all.




See? Trying to use you for sex. :(

At least he's gone now ... and you don't have to be bothered anymore.

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Edit:

Long story short, after speaking with him I found out we weren't compatible. And he said "let's just be friends" after telling him I didn't believe in pre-marital sex. He said being in a r/ship w/o sex is boring and asked if we could do "other things" and I gently said No. This was two days ago. He hasn't texted me or called since. I'mma move on now.

Thanks, y'all.


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One word. RUN. If someone makes you uncomfortable and pressured you don't dive in, you get the heck out of dodge! Always listen to your instincts.
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I am sure there are plenty of guys from the islands that are sincere in their interest in a girl but this guy sounds like a nutcase IMO.

Besides the OP just said ... he is making her feel so uncomfortable. That means something in my book so I would never encourage a woman to give a guy a chance when she's already said bssically .. he gives her the creeps.

She also said she is just hoping she won't run into him before she leaves town at the end of the month.

(shrugs) The OP should follow her instincts about this guy.

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Iono bout all that.....I mean dude don't know her from a can of paint, trying right off the bat w/o even getting to know the girl favorite color is just thirsty to me. Think about it....what if he approaches every girl like that just to land a girlfriend. Nah he needs to get to know her before coming off so strong. Just my opinion :-) Now u did mention that u were going to tell him that your abstinence ......have you yet? And if so....and he is still persistent then u may wanna re consider lol....Cuz u fig he just may be worth the shot. Pls update lol...

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Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Somebodaaaay pass Blaquefoxx the tamborine cos she is preaching tonight. OP all of what Blaque said is the trooof!!

Give homeboy a chance you just never know. I thought my hubby was cheesy and corney when I 1st met him. He was persistent and kept feeding me those sweet(corney)nothings. I kept giving him the shaq lips and the side eye but he was really serious about it. We going on 12 years right now.
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Somebodaaaay pass Blaquefoxx the tamborine cos she is preaching tonight. OP all of what Blaque said is the trooof!!

Give homeboy a chance you just never know. I thought my hubby was cheesy and corney when I 1st met him. He was persistent and kept feeding me those sweet(corney)nothings. I kept giving him the shaq lips and the side eye but he was really serious about it. We going on 12 years right now.
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Either he really likes you or he trying to g you for some pum pum and a green cardStern Smile

My hubby is from the Islands and when we first started talking, he too was an eager beaver. Talking about making me his wife so I can bear him a heir and suchSleepy
Calling me everyday: "good morning sweetness", "good afternoon sexy lady", "hello, goodnight my princess" lol.

During this time in my life I was at the point where I had enough of lies and games, so whenever we spent time together or talked I was very upfront about what I'm looking for. I was also very adamant and asked him what his intentions were. And I also asked if he had his papers lol.

My advice to you is to continue to pick his brain a little and see what he's about. I wouldn't leave him hanging just yet. Now if he is truly freaking you out and making you uncomfy, then I understand. But you can't go around guessing one's sincerity without trying to find out for sure...

When you guys talk and text, what exactly do you talk about? Try to take direction to where you want the conversation to go so that you can get as much info from him as possible. Ask about his past relationships, kids, family,etc.

Men from the Islands tend to cleave to their women and if they see a woman (or womenDead) that they want, they typically go hard in the paint. They like to be catered to and shown that you love them...





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Originally posted by nemesis1 nemesis1 wrote:

I've just deleted his name and all messages off my phone now. He texted
me this morning that he misses me and hopes I will be his and then
tonight that he texted me again that misses me and can't wait for me to
be his Confused. I'm not comfortable. I don't know if he's just lonely, obsessive, or he really does like me Confused,
but whatever the case may be, this isn't going to work. I'm glad I
haven't committed myself to anything. I'm only going to be in this city
for a month, so now I just have to make sure I don't run into him. I
didn't want to be alone, but it seems I just have to because this isn't
what I'm looking for Unhappy.
I feel bad because he'll wonder why I'm not replying his messages now.
Maybe I should just send him a text that this isn't going to work, though I imagine he'll eventually figure out I'm no longer interested if I stop responding and don't pick up his calls anymore.


F*** him.

Don't write to him and explain - that is only 'feeding him'. He'll figure it out.
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Originally posted by nemesis1 nemesis1 wrote:

Thanks Tropicalstorm, Beauty620, Wildfire.

Okay, he's the story. I met one two weeks ago at a train station. He and I had been waiting for the train and we both got off at the same stop, as soon as we got out he said, "How're you doing sweetheart? Can I take you out to dinner and movies?". Just like that :/. I didn't say anything 'just because he came on too strong and I'm kinda shy anyway, so I just kept walking. I thought he appeared like a smooth talker. I just thought it was kinda weird that he had to mention dinner and movies right off the bat, to someone you've never met before/you don't know. We ended up walking in the same direction and got to talking a lil' and then he asked for me #. He was just persistent, but in a quiet manner. I didn't want to seem eager, so I didn't respond and I also don't give out my # like that (the only other guy I've ever given my # to was my ex a lil' over a year ago). He asked me again for my # after a while and okay I decided to give him. We had to go our own ways, he gave me a handshake and then we parted. Altogether we only talked for about 7 mins, mainly just about sch and what I'm studying, me commuting. He was coming from work that night.

Same night, about 40mins later he texted me a "What's up?". I didn't respond that night. Then he texted me the next morning and told me to have an amazing day. I responded to that and told him to have a great day. We have been texting each other since. Two days after we met he called me and we talked a lil' more. I told him I heard it's really nice in St. Lucia and he told me he'll take me there someday =D, then said he would like me to be his girlfriend. I told him we should get to know each other more and he agreed, said he would like to know me more too. He said he wanted to see me again, so we met up 3 days later, just for about 5 mins. He gave me a hug when he saw me and also before we parted. After we met he sent me a text saying he was really starting to like me, that I'm kind and friendly and hopes he'll be the lucky one ( I think he was talking about me being his gf :/ ). In some of the later texts he has sent me, he would mention how he hopes he'll be my bf; last night he texted me something similar, that he can't wait to be my bf. I'm just wondering why he's so particular about being my bf so soon.  We have only seen each other twice, for not even up to 12mins altogether. I don't know why he's in a rush. He has also started calling me nicknames, "my sweetie", "princess" or "my princess" :/. Sometimes he'll text me that he misses me and can't wait to see me. Two days after me met, he sent me a text and once again asked if I wanted to go out to dinner and movies. I replied the next day and said okay. He called me yesterday for a few mins. He wanted to confirm if we were still going out and I said yes.

Also, I'm hoping this wouldn't be a sexual relationship, if we do end
up in one. I'm aiming to wait until marriage. My ex and I never had sex,
so I'm hoping my next bf would be receptive to my choice too. I'm going
to talk to him about it when we do meet. Beauty620, I know you said
they like sex, so I think it would be a good idea and fair to tell him now, in
case he's not willing to stay, that would be totally okay. He's an Aquarius. He does seem like a really nice guy, sometimes he'll text me to ask if I'm okay. He's also polite. I like that he's really expressive and he seems honest, he's calm and easy to talk to. I just don't know why he seems to be in a hurry for me to be his gf, lol. All the nicknames too, it all seems so quick to me, especially because we barely know each other. I guess that's what's making me wonder if he really is genuine. Is it possible for him to like me so soon already? Confused






Follow your instincts.

This guy is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too smooth.

He is going way too fast .. talking way too prematurely about taking you to St Lucia etc. Waaaay too soon.

He is just trying to PICK YOU UP! Never give out your number to guy walking down the street or in a train etc... like this. If a guy s sees a girl that is just so pretty he has to meet her - he will find another creative and NON SLIPPERY way to meet her. He could make sure to always take that train so he could keep running into you. Eventually work his way up to smiling. The next time ... saying Hi. Etc. But this guy will come on STRONG LIKE that the first time he sees you.

If you tell him rigt nw that you ar married or have a bf ... that will be okay will him. He will STILL be trying to get with you.

Actually, I have experienced these EXACT same characteristics in AA men so I do not see how his comeon behavior can be specific to St. Lucian men.

This guy will charm the panties off you as soon as possible as EVERYTHING will have to be fast .. because he will be soooo crazy about you. He will convince you that YOU are so special etc ... so the next thing is he will want you to move in and/or marry you. Money will feature into the relationship rather SOON as well.

The list goes on .. and though you are flattered by his attention to you - please move on.

HE WILL USE YOU baby girl.
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