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    Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 5:08am
This woman I know was in an abusive relationship for 25 years and the only reason it ended Is cuz he died.

I didn't realize how damaged I was from my past until I got into a really good relationship.

But IA get out before it gets worse I definitely didn't stick around for 25 years which is a ridiculous amount of time

And give yourself enough time to heal!! Seek counseling if you have to..don't let it control your life and the good things that are coming your way in the future.

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I'm happy that you posted some information that also highlights verbal abuse. Verbal abuse can hurt just as much as physical abuse. "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" in my opinion does not apply in the case of verbal abuse. Getting screamed at and cussed at continuously by someone who claims to love you does Hurt!
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Very important dialogue. Most people dont even realize that they have been in verbally abusive/controlling relationships until years later in hindsight.
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Good information!
 
One last point.
 
Once you see the above LEAVE. Don't believe the crap that if he hasn't hit you yet .. that it's not abuse. That's how woman get trapped in these unbelieveable situations .. they put up with the emotoional abuse until ... he hauls off and hits her.
 
So then it's TOO LATE to leave without that craziness you see on TV.
 
That's why I said leave BEFORE he puts his hands on you!!
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

Ladies and gents, it is important to realize abuse when it happens. You don't always have to be beaten up to be considered abused, the abuse can happen not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. Please watch out for these signs of abuse and do not stay for them. Your safety, your happiness, and your sanity is far more important than the person who is trying to harm you- yes, harm.






Know the warning signs. Don't wait until it's too late.

Here is a list of hotlines for various emergencies and issues. (These are mainly US-based, but there are some for other countries and at the bottom is a link to hotlines listed by country.)

Depression:

  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) – Can use in US, U.K., Canada and Singapore
  • Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
  • National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
  • National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
  • Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
  • NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
  • Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
  • Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
  • Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
  • Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
  • Beyondblue info line: (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
  • 24/7 Crisis Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
  • Lifeline Australia: 13-11-14

Domestic Abuse:

  • National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
  • National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
  • Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
  • Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
  • Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
  • Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
  • Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
  • Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
  • Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
  • Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
  • Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish: 1-800-992-2600
  • Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277

Alcohol & Drug Abuse:

  • National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
  • National Drug Abuse: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Al-Anon/Alateen Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker): 1-800-344-2666
  • Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Be Sober Hotline: 1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237)
  • Cocaine Help Line: 1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)
  • 24 Hour Cocaine Support Line: 1-800-992-9239
  • Ecstasy Addiction: 1-800-468-6933
  • Marijuana Anonymous: 1-800-766-6779

Youth & Teen Hotlines:

  • National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663
  • Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
  • Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
  • Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000
  • Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900
  • TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336
  • Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
  • Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-694
  • National Runaway Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
  • Child Helpline: (UK Only) 0800-111
  • Kids Helpline: (Australia) 1800-55-1800
  • Youth to Youth: (UK only) 020-8896-3675
  • Kids Help Phone Canada: 1800-688-6868
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673 

Pregnancy Hotlines:

  • AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center: 1-800-560-0717
  • Pregnancy Support: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)
  • Pregnancy National Helpline: 1-800-356-5761
  • Young Pregnant Support: 1-800 550-4900

Gay and Lesbian Hotlines:

  • The Trevor Helpline (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078
  • Gay & Lesbian National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078
  • Lesbian & Gay Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121 622 6589
  • Lothian Gay & Lesbian Switchboard – Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131 556 4049

Other Hotlines:

  • Self-Injury Support: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) (www.selfinjury.com)
  • Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PST)
  • Eating Disorders Center: 1-888-236-1188
  • Help Finding a Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
  • Panic Disorder Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642)
  • TalkZone (Peer Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855)
  • Parental Stress Hotline: 1-800-632-8188
  • Parent Help Line (Australia only): 1300-364-100
  • National AIDS Helpline: (UK Only) 0800 567 123
  • Mensline Australia: 1300-789-978


For an extensive list of help hotlines listed by countries around the world, click here.


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If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY 1−800−787−322
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Great thread.
 
 
I was in an abusive relationship for years. I was 18 and moved to FL with him. Not to minimize the abuse at all but one thing that kept me from asking for help was fear of judgment. Everyone who talked to me about it came at me with that "it could never be me/how could you be so stupid" vibe that truthfully made me even more dependent on him and more isolated. It was like, maybe I do deserve it bc I really am stupid. That's just to say that as women we should be careful how we come across when we're trying to help each other out. After I left I went to a women's shelter since I had nowhere else to go, and a lot of women said the same thing. When I know someone is facing DV, I let them know that the violence isn't their fault, that they deserve better and that they can control their fate from hereon.
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And yaaay finally..
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WHY THE HELL IT TOOK THEM SO LONG TO MAKE IT A STICKY!!
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