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    Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 11:29am
LawdJeezus..I believe in spanking. I don't believe in beating. My 3 sisters and I got "whipped" growing up, with belts or switches.( Southern, country folks ish.) It wasn't a regular occurrence.  It wasn't for minor things. It wasn't for 1st time offenses. I would have welts, that would disappear within 30 mins or so. Once, my mom whipped me with a switch and it broke the skin,like a scratch. My mom and her 12 siblings got butt whippings, too. My kids got spankings, only a few in their lifetimes, way less than I did growing up. (My daughter laughs now when she tells me how she always greatly exagerrated the pain of the spanking to get me or her dad to stop and tells me "It really didn't hurt that bad, I just acted like it did. " Her words, not mine.)
 
Anyhoo, I just wanted to clarify that I don't condone beating children. I have a huge family , a poopload of cousins that got butt whippings too. No one was left bruised and bloodied, no one was punched or hit in the face. We got a lot of love, positive encouragement set by great examples,  were taught life lessons, and the vast majority are well rounded, and living fulfilled lives without drugs issues, legal issues, or any other unfortunate experiences usually tied to upbringing. No one has issues w/ their parents. When we have family gatherings or even comments on Facebook, it is regularly expressed how grateful we are for the upbringing we had, butt whippings and all, esp when we see what some of the people we went to school with or have encountered have been thru in their lives. I'm not saying getting butt whippings is the reason, but since it was included in the package, I have no way of separating it.
 
I know some people believe that a spanking is "abuse." I'm not trying to change anyone's mind because I know it's not going to happen. Just like no one is going to change mine. Not when I know plenty of people that got spanked or their butts whipped and aren't carrying any ba ge from it and express that they're glad their parents disciplined them before the world (or the police or the streets or a judge and jury) did.
 
My daughter is 16. Honor Society, all AP classes. Does volunteer work.  Respectful, polite, well spoken. Not running around half nekkid. And she has learned how to twerk! (no videos on Youtube though) When she showed me, I laughed, esp because the women in my family aren't know for our dancing skills.LOL She knows if she crosses a line, she may get smacked. Has only happened once, when she walked away and muttered "whatever" when I told her to do something. I don't tolerate disrespect and I overhear a lot of parents let their kids talk to them crazy. Not in MY house. Not to ME.
 
Either way, I don't personally know anyone that is carrying lifelong ba ge from an occasional butt whipping or spanking. Beatings? yes. Verbal, mental and sexual abuse? yes. Parents that set poor examples? yes
 
I digress..Like I said, no opinions are being swayed on either side regardless what any of us say. People can raise their kids whatever way they see fit. All I know is what has worked for my family, generation after generation.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 6:55am
A video cable tho? wow.........I know that had to hurt like hell Ouch


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 5:30am
Originally posted by nala52808 nala52808 wrote:

Originally posted by Katrenia Katrenia wrote:

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I'm not a "Time Out" mom so if my little girls need to be spanked, I handle it but I would never hit my kids like that. 
That father may be making those girls too tuff. If that's the norm it'll lose it's effectiveness as they get older but daddy will get older too and his girls may handle him. 




I agree wit you. My daddy used to beat us like that, and at first it made us afraid of him. But yeah, when you get older it loses its effectiveness and then the children start planning on how to kill you in the future for your abuse. Once I turned 16 my daddy got exactly what he gave and my momma never saved him when we got into it physically. So parents, just remember that you and your child are getting older, so discipline should be coupled with reasoning instead of harsh reactions or things can turn ugly.


Wow. I just can't. If anything I birthed ever raises a hand to me, they are as good as never having existed. Bill Cosby put it best....I brought you in this world and I will take you out. I think the beating was harsh, and I was raised by an arse whooping legend, but that will never permit you to raise your hand to me and live to tell about it. I have never wanted to harm the one's who raised me, arse whippings and all (all though I didn't get many because I was just a quiet kind of child) That would mean that I was raised not to respect them or myself.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 2:49am
He overdid it, he lost it on them.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 2:28am
Their lil hot asses sneaking out already at 12 and 14 AND making twerkin videos?

He was trying to save em, but they don't wanna be saved.

ETA: I'm not cool with open wounds tho.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 05 2013 at 12:01am
*paging bunny*  do you spank your kids?  just curious of your discipline methods.  

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 11:39pm
some ppl need not have kids. 
they dont deserve them.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 11:34pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 11:30pm
I will beat the natural shyt out of my 16 yr old daughter for some mess like that..Then make an appt for family counseling. lol.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 11:06pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

Ohhh, they were sneaking out the house to go to church...or to do volunteer work..Hell, I'm even more supportive of him now, them fast azz girls gon be knocked up before long. Esp without dad around to regulate. I'm willing to donate to his legal fund. Doing his best to keep his daughters from getting pregnant or an STD.

as if this is the first time he's beat them...and yet they're still sneaking out of the house.  maybe that's the reason they're sneaking out?  we don't know.  why would you be pro him leaving open wounds on his daughters when there's no indication that he's attempted to counsel them in the way a father should?  all we see is abuse here.
Well maybe he just needs to keep at it to figure out the best way to beat his daughters, I mean 'motherf*ckers' as he calls them, in order to get the desired outcome.


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