and i used to wish i had straight hair naturally. sometimes i still do, especially when i see how carefree my white coworkers are with their hair, how they just wash their hair minutes before coming to work and can just show up without having to do a thing to it. yeah, gets tempting. but in the past year i've discovered that everyone has to work with what they've got. there are many plusses about textured hair, and i think all one needs to do is shut out whatever negative perceptions they have of their highly textured hair by ceasing to compare theirs to the euro standard. that's what i had to do, courtesy of my husband's commons sense advice, and now i take it all in stride and actually have come to enjoy managing my hair. i used to see it as a chore that i did only in the absence of having found an ideal straightening routine. now? i see it as a chance to check in with my hair and make sure it's got all it needs to thrive.
focus on your hair's positives. sure, it may be prone to tangling and knotting, just like mine. but maybe you like the way it curls around your finger? how thick and full it can look with little coaching as opposed to it's too bulky.
instead of it's so dull, try for i'm glad it doesn't look oily because that allows me to influence how much oil content it has and also increases the wearability of my look because i'm not constantly feeling pressure to wash out oil-ridden hair.
it's all in how you choose to see your hair. if you see it as a burden, it will be.