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    Posted: Jun 19 2013 at 9:29pm
Originally posted by sharmaine73 sharmaine73 wrote:

Hello All!

I just wanted to check in with you and let you know how things are going with my natural hair.  Last time I was here, I was really hating on my hair.  It was dry, seemed to be breaking, didn't like neat and tidy no matter how much time I spent on it, and was so tangled I had developed a small dread lock that I didn't even know was there.  I had to cut it off.

So after reading your wonderful posts, I decided to follow the suggestion to just braid up my hair and wear a wig for a while.  

Well I am here to tell you that I am now really happy with my natural hair.  The wig was just what I needed.  I purchased some sulfate free shampoo, as suggested, and a good conditioner.  I washed my hair really good and conditioned it, carefully detangled it with a denman brush, oiled it, plaited it and put on a scarf. In the morning brush down the edges with a boars head brush using a little oil and water, then put on a wig stocking and a nice wig I bought online.

This regimen has really been working for me.  I spent a little extra money on a nice lace front wig, and my hair now feels moisturized and healthy.  It's growing really nicely, and I am happy.  Thank you so much.  It's now grown just a little past my shoulders.  I couldn't be more thrilled.  Thanks everyone!

Sharmaine Smile


Woo hooo!! congratulations!
and thanks for giving us an update.  Smile


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2013 at 6:16pm
Yayyy! Glad to see you're on track and that the advice given to you by the ladies has helped.

I'd like to add one more tip in case you aren't doing it as yet.

To sleep on satin(made from polyester or silk.), either loose with a pillowcase or a satin scarf or perhaps both for in case the satin scarf slips.

Your hair will thank you in the morning.

Hope one day you'll feel comfortable enough to wear it out and flaunt it. But it's healthy under there and when you take it down and look in the mirror you feel great about it and that's what matters.

Take care.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2013 at 2:23pm
Hello All!

I just wanted to check in with you and let you know how things are going with my natural hair.  Last time I was here, I was really hating on my hair.  It was dry, seemed to be breaking, didn't like neat and tidy no matter how much time I spent on it, and was so tangled I had developed a small dread lock that I didn't even know was there.  I had to cut it off.

So after reading your wonderful posts, I decided to follow the suggestion to just braid up my hair and wear a wig for a while.  

Well I am here to tell you that I am now really happy with my natural hair.  The wig was just what I needed.  I purchased some sulfate free shampoo, as suggested, and a good conditioner.  I washed my hair really good and conditioned it, carefully detangled it with a denman brush, oiled it, plaited it and put on a scarf. In the morning brush down the edges with a boars head brush using a little oil and water, then put on a wig stocking and a nice wig I bought online.

This regimen has really been working for me.  I spent a little extra money on a nice lace front wig, and my hair now feels moisturized and healthy.  It's growing really nicely, and I am happy.  Thank you so much.  It's now grown just a little past my shoulders.  I couldn't be more thrilled.  Thanks everyone!

Sharmaine Smile
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 08 2013 at 6:40pm
Originally posted by rell85 rell85 wrote:


Oh and by the way, my hair is ALWAYS dry. It is like hay. I have tried everything to add moisture and softness. Nothing works. Whats worse is that products often do not absorb very well into my hair so it just sits on top and just looks like I didn't rinse my hair properly.

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I do almost nothing to my hair. I use a tangle tamer to untangle it, but I don't have all day to sit around and do my hair and constantly be in it twisting it and trying different styles. Basically I put it in a pony tail or a bun. Still, even though I try not to mess with it too much in order to prevent breakage, I see hair all over my bathroom - tiny little naps all over the place.


1. Dry hair:

I had this issue BAD when I first started. As a point of reference, I'm 4a/4b so yes I do have a curl pattern, but it's small. And since I have two textures, things like WNG's are NOT an option and I have a 75% shrink rate. My APL length hair reverts to being just below my ears sometimes when I wash it.

But to combat dry hair, I had to start doing the GHE method. Usually I oil my scalp at night and massage. Then plop on a disposable shower cap and tie my scarf on. The next day take it out, and your hair will appear moist (and feel moist too). When I first started GHE'ing I did it every night for a week just to fast track the moisture. Now, I do it basically every other night in dry/cold months or up to two times a week in the summer.

2. Tangle Tamer:

Not sure if you're talking about the Tangle Teaser, but if it's anything like that, throw that thing in the trash now. At first it seems fantastic as it makes life a "breeze" to detangle. But in the long run, it'll shred ends and leave you with split ends and MORE breakage. Consider finger detangling instead or at the very least, douse your hair in conditioner or water BEFORE taking a wide tooth comb (preferrably seamless) to detangle.

Once you get your moisture issue under control, consider twist outs (Naptural85 has a ton of vids on various ways to do a twist out depending on the look you're going for). You can do them the night before, and set them with something like Eco styler or a homemade gel (flaxseed gel has a longer hold IMO than eco). In the morning, untwist them, pin where wanted and you're ready to go. And for me, those styles last at least 3 - 4 days with proper overnight care.

I have a very low maintenance routine as I also don't have the time or interest to stay in the bathroom playing in my hair all day. But as someone else said, there's a difference between low maintenance and no maintenance.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 08 2013 at 6:27pm
I would also add that getting a good hair routine down is a constantly evolving thing. I didn't do a big chop. So when I decided to go natural, I already had this mass of hair that I had to magically learn how to deal with. I started my natural journey at the beginning of 2011, and it wasn't until about early 2012 that I felt like I had really found a reggie that worked perfectly - in that, I got consistent results all the time. And even now, as my hair gets longer, I have to switch up my daily routine when I'm actually wearing my hair out.

Not knowing your hair type, try to find ppl with a similar type, or issue (i.e. low/high porosity; shrinkage issues, etc) and see what they do. A lot of times, you'll be doing trial and error, and that will suck when you strike out, but you'll never know what works if you don't try.

My best suggestions since alot of good info has already been given is:

1. Don't feel like you have to buy the most expensive products. Often those products have fillers or what some would consider controversial ingredients (i.e. cones/parabens, etc). And other times you're just paying a mark up for no other reason than the name or face on the side of the jar.

2. Find a reggie that fits your routine/lifestyle. Some people don't mind devoting literally hours to their hair on a set day of the week - every week. Some people (myself included) don't want to do that. Hair should be fun, not a chore. Figure out how much time you can really devote to your hair and be okay with that.

3. Don't do comparisons. It's tempting, but even two people with the same hair types and hair issues will ultimately come away with different results. Your own body chemistry has a lot to do with how your hair responds to various techniques or products. Don't take it as a failure that your hair grows slower than someone else's etc.

4. Research: There's a lot of info out there, and some of it conflicts. But at least if you're informed, you can make adjustments to your reggie.

5. Keep a journal: If you really want to know if you're making progress, make a journal. The depth of description is up to you. But on days where you're feeling a bit bummed about your hair, you have something to reference to bolster your gusto for being natural. When you see that you really have come a long way, it'll keep you motivated.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 6:40pm
oh snap!

that was rell85 that started this thread.. my bad..Confused

thanks rell85!






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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 5:03pm
welcome that's good you're giving your hair a break and less time you will stress about it
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 4:38pm
yes having dry hair is the worst no matter what hair type hard to deal with. for dry hiar i love the LOC method it's liquid, oil, and cream. L-liquid can be water mixed with glycerin and oils or a leave in for moisture even sta soft fro would work, O-oil olive or any oil you have, C-cream shea butter mix or a leave in cream or a heavy cream even a moisturizer it's really a great for dry hair. castor oil is great for dry hair on the thick side so it can be mixed with other oils so it won't feel sticky. try to moisturize your hair at least 2 times a day one in the morning then at nite if you don't do much to your hair can't expect much to happen. for cleansing try black soap works better than non sulfate shampoo it won't strip you hair at all yet it will be clean. detangle while your hair conditioner in only try to let it sit 5 mins then rinse. deep condition it will improve your hair if you don't have time add honey and oils to your conditioner. since you like gels try adding oils to that so it won't be so hard. wigs or great growing but you still have to take care of your own hair.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 4:24pm
Thank you rell85 for posting this thread for me.  Smile

I had a little melt down.  It's true.  My hair is giving me a little grief. I thought that by not messing with it as much as possible it would be happier.  But it just looks and feels terrible.  I want to thank you both for your advice.  I am not yet ready to run out and get a relaxer.  I know where that road takes you.  I just wish I could find a happy medium.  

I'm going to install a sew-in today.  Do that for a while and give myself a break until I'm ready to tackle this process again.  It's clear I need to do more and I need to detangle more often or wear a style that keeps my hair detangled but it's just too short for me right now.

Thanks so much for letting me vent here. Smile
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 11:55am
hating your hair right now is okay.. we have to start somewhere in our journey. 

If it's not "acting the way we expect it to" well, it makes a person pretty damn angry.

calling it nappy right now? is okay too.. that's how you feel.  nothing wrong with that.

i used those same words before starting my hair journey - and then some.LOL  It took me a couple of years before i stopped fighting it, and learned to work with it.  If you're at the beginning of your hair journey like i was? THIS BOARD is a good place to start.

On another famous black hair forum (LHCF)? i had to be "politically correct" while venting.  Dead

for my frustration? i had over 15 pages of being flamed off of LHCF for using "certain words/phrases" that pissed some members off - to this day..Confused

One of them came over to this board about 3-4 years later - STILL pissed off when she saw me posting - and tried to let me have it - AGAIN.  now how dumb/vindictive is that?

over time, you will embrace and nurture it into growing.. it doesn't really matter what color your husband is, what matters is he cares enough to TRY to give suggestions.LOL

At this point, hun, you don't have to start a post.. you'll have to start researching.  There's a lot of material right here at your fingertips.  Find the thread, and take in all of the information.. You'll do just fine.Wink
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