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    Posted: Jan 27 2013 at 9:29am
the adoptive parents are NOT victims. they KNEW the father didnt consent to the adoption and KNEW he would probably contest.
fighting tooth and nail to keep a parent from their child is more than getting "caught up" it's evil.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 27 2013 at 8:37am
Or… you could say there are many black children in the system that most of YOU all haven't adopted so they wanted to take initiative. 

If the couple was black all of this outrage wouldn't be here and the blame would solely be on the trifling mother and adopting agency as it should be. Their skin color is clouding some of your judgments. They're victims, too. If you'd bonded with a child and allowed that child into your family and essentially a stranger demanded to have  her, you'd put up a fight, too.

I would side eye them if they didn't put up a fight. But I'm sure her father has good intentions and I'm glad that baby is with her biological family now.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 10:48pm
yes, i think most too...most people are not naturally inclined to adopt out of their own race.  your children are a reflection of you.  it's guilt.  a lot of their kindness is enacted out of pity.

one could say that there are more children of color in the system so in order to bypass long wait time they go for black children...if there were just as many white babies in the system would they go black?  probably not.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 10:44pm
Originally posted by Spokenword Spokenword wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by Spokenword Spokenword wrote:

people may think the white folks are foul, but they still adopted a child they thought was in need.  shame on the mother for tearing up many lives. but then again, would like to know her side of the story too.

nevertheless, the father & child are united. wishing them the best!



fucck their white feelings and middle class guilt, they put that poor black man through hell to get his child back

and for what? when they realised the mess of their situation their ever so sympathising lets save a coloured baby heart should have given that child back to the rightful parent who did not want any money but his daughter back



when it comes to adopting,  i feel bad for all those who are involved and have developed a relationship with the child. I DONT CARE WHAT COLOR THEY ARE.  There are too many children in the system that need adopting. so if some white people want to adopt who cares as long as the child is in a safe, loving environment. 

 the mother and the adoption agency were the ones to blame.  while the white folks were wrong in trying to withhold, they were caught up & victims too.

do all white folks who adopt black kids do so out of middle class guilt?



Not all but A LOT.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 10:44pm
Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

The Freis knew he didn't sign off so they were taking a calculated risk that he'd never show up.  Let's face it, there are plenty of black men who have kids and walk away...the odds were in their favor really.  

Achane left his pregnant wife hundreds of miles away with his first child (he could have taken her).   They had a bad marriage that was ending.  The Freis really had good odds that he was gone. They gambled and lost.

So upon losing they should have done the decent thing and give that child back to Terry.



It didn't seem like she wanted to go with him in the first place.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 9:50pm
The Freis knew he didn't sign off so they were taking a calculated risk that he'd never show up.  Let's face it, there are plenty of black men who have kids and walk away...the odds were in their favor really.  

Achane left his pregnant wife hundreds of miles away with his first child (he could have taken her).   They had a bad marriage that was ending.  The Freis really had good odds that he was gone. They gambled and lost.

So upon losing they should have done the decent thing and give that child back to Terry.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 7:21pm
yea but spoken how are u just dismissing the part where the Freis KNEW he didn't sign off on the adoption and that it was illegal and they did it anyway?

they cause this pain to themselves
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 5:15pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by Spokenword Spokenword wrote:

people may think the white folks are foul, but they still adopted a child they thought was in need.  shame on the mother for tearing up many lives. but then again, would like to know her side of the story too.

nevertheless, the father & child are united. wishing them the best!



fucck their white feelings and middle class guilt, they put that poor black man through hell to get his child back

and for what? when they realised the mess of their situation their ever so sympathising lets save a coloured baby heart should have given that child back to the rightful parent who did not want any money but his daughter back



when it comes to adopting,  i feel bad for all those who are involved and have developed a relationship with the child. I DONT CARE WHAT COLOR THEY ARE.  There are too many children in the system that need adopting. so if some white people want to adopt who cares as long as the child is in a safe, loving environment. 

 the mother and the adoption agency were the ones to blame.  while the white folks were wrong in trying to withhold, they were caught up & victims too.

do all white folks who adopt black kids do so out of middle class guilt?

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 4:56pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by Spokenword Spokenword wrote:

people may think the white folks are foul, but they still adopted a child they thought was in need.  shame on the mother for tearing up many lives. but then again, would like to know her side of the story too.

nevertheless, the father & child are united. wishing them the best!



fucck their white feelings and middle class guilt, they put that poor black man through hell to get his child back

and for what? when they realised the mess of their situation their ever so sympathising lets save a coloured baby heart should have given that child back to the rightful parent who did not want any money but his daughter back



This right chea. Any decent person would have given the baby back as soon as her responsible father came on the scene.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 26 2013 at 1:15pm
That mother was horrible...............the adoption agency crooked..................I'm happy for the Dad.
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