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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 4:37pm |
I don't see a problem if a SO/Hubby/Wife does it on occasions (once or twice a month). I like to hang with my friends, which includes partying, playing spades, or just simply catching up. On those occasions i might be out until 3 or 4am. As long as i keep my hub informed of my whereabouts or timing, it should be cool.
If a person is paying their share for room and board, locking that person out of the house/apt shouldn't even be an option. If you have an issue, confront the person and try to settle it like a mature adult.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 12:18pm |
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My ex and I had an understanding. Unless it was special occasions (ie, bachelor(ette), bdays, college friends visiting) we didnt do the all night bs. Its like da fucc were you tllla 5 am?
Typically if we hung out that late, it was because we were together.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 12:11pm |
 Tbaby wrote:
Curfews IMO are for ppl who don't have enough sense to act responsibly--therefore need an external rule to substitute for the lack of consideration for one's family.
We don't have "curfews" but its understood that if one of us is going to be out longer then anticipated, we should call and "check in". Not rocket science.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 12:10pm |
freedom76 wrote:
I didn't read all the pages, but hubby used to hang out more with me and my friends/family. He stopped a long time ago. He says we stay up way too late for him. So me coming in at 4-6am is nothing. But like Purp, I am quick to call him @ 4am to tell him to come get my drunk A$$.
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I don't drink, but replace drunk with LOST and me too! When I was younger and hanging out, I used to stay lost in DC. We could be outside at our cars in parking lot and my GF would say "so you're ok, you know where to turn?" and I'd say "yeah I got it." Get out of the parking lot and by the 2nd turn I'd be lost. Usually because the first turn was a 1-way street and I'd have to go to next one or find one where I can make a U turn and then remember where my turn was by the time I get back to the street. I'd end up calling home "can you get the map and tell me how to get home" and if I was really frustrated, "come get me!" When GPS came out , my hub got me one right away and said 'now you'll never be lost again.' and I know he was thinking -- more importantly, I can get some sleep!
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 11:28am |
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Curfews IMO are for ppl who don't have enough sense to act responsibly--therefore need an external rule to substitute for the lack of consideration for one's family.
We don't have "curfews" but its understood that if one of us is going to be out longer then anticipated, we should call and "check in". Not rocket science.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 11:10am |
Couples should exercise consideration.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 9:55am |
I didn't read all the pages, but hubby used to hang out more with me and my friends/family. He stopped a long time ago. He says we stay up way too late for him. So me coming in at 4-6am is nothing. But like Purp, I am quick to call him @ 4am to tell him to come get my drunk A$$.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 9:26am |
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First of all i dont understand locking someone out of their own house. You are not their parent. If i stay out until 4am my husband will know where im at and vice versa. But i cant think of any reason to be out that late.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 9:02am |
tropical-punch wrote:
So your brother didn't know the code to disarm the system? |
yeah, it wasn't an alarm ....
it was like an additional bolt lock that is propped on the floor and clamped under the door knob from the inside.
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Posted: Jan 25 2013 at 5:25am |
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And if he was at a rap concert here the artist may not even make it in stage til one or so. Ill be damned if I miss Scarface and you hear im at a concert in background. The issue for me with OP would be the fact he had been gone since 7. Every "stay out late" occasion is different and should be discussed prior to any anger. Now if you agreed or stated you would be home by one but came in three hours later with no update call or text that won't work.
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