Honey Boo Boo's Uncle Infected With HIV by Boyfrie

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 SweetNovember* wrote:

 ms_wonderland wrote:

 SweetNovember* wrote:

I think it makes more sense to use a condom with someone who is known to have a HIV than it does to not use a condom with with someone who may or may not have HIV. Which is something people do everyday. You can't reasonably expect the other person to be honest about that (if they even know) so condoms should used every time. People are judging the wrong thing here. He had unprotected sex with someone whose status was unknown and that's where he messed up.

clearly it makes sense to use a condom regardless....no one is judging that.  i am perplexed by the resignation to be sexually active with a known HIV positive person.  Many men who are interviewed talk about how it's almost a rite of passage and for that reason, it's not judged as harshly as in the hetero community.  I wish people would not feel that, that is the end game just b/c they've chosen to live a homosexual lifestyle.

I don't necessarily see anything wrong with it if that's who he falls in love with and wants to spend his life with. There are medications and condoms to prevent transmission for that very reason. Would I do it? Probably not, but if someone else chooses to do it it's not really that big a risk if they take steps to protect themselves. Pretty much every partner we get with is Status: Unknown yet people are so quick to let their juices mingle which is just as bad or worse. There are a lot of people out there who don't know they have it and if they do know they aren't telling. It's up to the individual to protect him/herself. 

there's a lot of reckless behavior going on in the hetero community as well when it comes to sex, that's a given, but i'm not sure you get how widespread the idea is with gay men in regards to going fwd with hiv positive partners.
it's not just about people making this decision for someone who will become/is their life partner.  people are making this decision in casual sex situations and short term relationships.  

eta: i do get what you're saying about knowing is basically more than half the battle b/c of the preventative measures you have available but there should be more self preservation than that.

Edited by ms_wonderland - Jan 17 2013 at 2:50pm