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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 10:04am |
 creole booty wrote:
I love my daddy and I would still b mad. It's natural, I guess. |
IA..I would be highly upset, but it will pass depending on how you handle it. Try to not think about all the things they are/or may be doing, and instead be apart of those things as well. Build memories with them both, because if your father does happen to flake again, the love of a sibling is irreplaceable. 
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 9:41am |
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I commend you for owning those feelings. My Dad did the same thing when I was 15, and I was very angry. It changes the dynamic, especailly since you've already lost so much time with your Dad. I hope everything works out and you all get past it and grow stronger...
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 9:39am |
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I hoped your venting helped some. We all need to just scream at the top of our lungs, or burst into tears to get those emotions out. Take care and ignore the callous comments in here.
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 9:31am |
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wow...my heart goes out to you. i pray that you will heal from this pain.
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 8:55am |
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Excellent response girl. You have every right to be hurt but it sounds to me that u are mature enough to address and evolve from those feelings.
Nevermind the negative and bitter responses in here
Hurt people hurt others
I wish u all the best :)
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 8:44am |
Sorry this is so long:
For the way things are set up my father and I have a pretty decent relationship. We speak 3-4 times a week and I see him a lot more than I want too. He comes over for dinner on Sundays and we watch football. In the past 2-3 years we have been establishing our relationship as father daughter. And even in this moment of me being upset we still spoke about it. Well he heard me rant and rave and be a brat about it until I calmed down. And then he calmly told me the story and did that daddy thing. I'm the apple of his eye blah blah. And I asked him for the larger portion of the company and we laughed. And he teased me about always having to bail me out of my ridiculous holes I put myself in. Being short on rent etc My dad and I do have a pretty decent relationship. At least I think so.
Do I have a right to be upset? Hell yes! Am I a spoiled brat? I probably am. Will I love my younger sibling? Of course I will. I have a younger sister already from my mom who is practically my child.
It's not jealousy. It's down right hurt. We cannot go back and have those years we lost.
Regardless of what you guys might say losing a parent and a parent not being there is a pain that never goes away.
My dad never came to a graduation. Had missed 19 birthdays. Etc. Those wounds hurt. And it was all for his own acts. But that's another story.
And we had spoke on those issues a while ago and moved past it.
I shouldn't be mad once again. & as I realize I really am not mad. I am just hurt. And I deserve the moment to be hurt. I personally think anyone who says I shouldn't express this hurt (in any of the ways that you guys have said it) are hurting themselves. No everyone story is not the same. This is mine. And it isn't that bad. However, I'm an emotional person so I often take things to heart. Which was why I came on here to vent last night!Okay I'm rambling now. I was trying to address everyone's comments in this one response.
Oh yes, I have seen a therapist for reasons beforehand and that has helped the relationship my dad and I have now because at first I wasn't open to speaking with him. But that's something I wouldn't mind revisiting if I feel the need is great.
Thank you ladies and gentlemen who have responded.
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 7:19am |
I really don't understand why you're mad OP. You should be happy and excited at the prospect of having a new brother or sister imo. You should try to treasure your father while he is here. If you want a relationship with him, do your part in establishing and maintaining one.
Be there for the baby- I am sure you will love being a big sister as much as I do.
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Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 6:35am |
khivey wrote:
You're grown. He's grown. No you shouldn't be mad. That man missed out on being able to father you, so he wants another chance. Be happy for him. It won't get in the way of your relationship unless you carry around negative and jealous energy. I know it may be hard to share being you are an only child by him...but you will be a big part of this new baby's life as well...but not if you harbor ill feelings.
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