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    Posted: Nov 15 2012 at 7:34pm
Oh and one more thing.
 
If his ego is involved .. then this time he will want to be the one to dump YOU.
 
So you see how he is .. so get rid of him.
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

OP, you might as well go back to ignoring that man because he's only willing to string you along for sex. I was cheering when you were gung ho on cutting that man off.

He has already shown and told you that despite all the emotional bonding, he has not committed to you. The longer he bullshits you and somehow has you staying around, the more bs he's gonna do without fear that you're going to disappear.

By cutting him off and being strict with it, you surprised him because he wasn't used to that in a woman. But now this man is back to banging you and emotionally bullshitting you and here you stay. So now you're like the other women I wouldn't doubt he has and is doing this to.

Cut him off, hun. You're not a plaything to be strung along.
ALL of this!
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Originally posted by khivey khivey wrote:

you did something to him when you cut him off..he isn't going to allow you to do that to him again. he sees how you roll and he isn't going to allow himself to get serious with you because of the type of power you have over him...his way of maintaining the upper hand is by stringing you along. It is his revenge to grow his ego back after you stepped on it with that three month sabbatical. now he has you where you had him..caught up in an emotional rollercoaster. get ghost but this time stay gone


Makes sense, makes sense!
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My cardinal rule is ... once you break up with someone .. NEVER go back. Never.
 
There was A REASON you split in the beginning but once you let him back in ... it justs gets all messy and confusing - causes you hurt and upset and it doesn't work out anyway. So what was the point?
 
You should have stayed away. 
 
I say, cut him COMPELTELY out of your life and move on. He already told you he did not want a commitment .. so then really you are just being strung along.
 
Don't let yourself fall for him .. and a year from now we are gonna have to hear some sob story about how he's treating you bad and won't move out.
 
Noooo it's already starting off bad and typically such things  .. only get WORSE.  So get out while you still have a normal life a chance with a decent a guy that WILL make a commitment with you.
 
(I can tell you of many women that stay tied to such men .. missed their chances to have a baby.. aged out and in the  end .. the guy dumped them anyway.) Ouch 
 
Lesson number 2 .. don't waste time with the wrong guy. The only thing worse than staying with the wrong guy for (X) years ... is staying with the wrong guy for (X) years and 1 DAY!


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@shadylady girl in currently running! Fast! Yeah as soon as he made that comment I should had just broke it off with him and kept it moving. I don't understand either why he would mention the notion of living together (mind you that was the second time he brought that up) honestly I don't even care to figure it out.

@khivey I never took that mans ego in to consideration. And I never thought about him trying to get back revenge on me. I'm the type of person if you mess with me I'll just completely leave you alone I don't ever try to get back at anybody. I feel like that's a waste of time & energy. Thanks for your input. I really never thought about it like that.
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you did something to him when you cut him off..he isn't going to allow you to do that to him again. he sees how you roll and he isn't going to allow himself to get serious with you because of the type of power you have over him...his way of maintaining the upper hand is by stringing you along. It is his revenge to grow his ego back after you stepped on it with that three month sabbatical. now he has you where you had him..caught up in an emotional rollercoaster. get ghost but this time stay gone
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You were right, the "not leading you on" comment was a HUGE red flag.

Respect his being upfront with you, but keep it moving.

If he knows what you want, which is a relationship eventually, and he's not open to giving that to you he is not only being unfair to you, but you would be setting yourself up for failure. If you continue to spend time with him, you're just going to get more attached to a man who is not willing to commit to you.

He sound immature and unsure anyway. What man asks someone he just wants to kick it with ANYTHING about living together?

Girl, run for the hills cuz this has disaster written all over it.
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

OP, you might as well go back to ignoring that man because he's only willing to string you along for sex. I was cheering when you were gung ho on cutting that man off.

He has already shown and told you that despite all the emotional bonding, he has not committed to you. The longer he bullshits you and somehow has you staying around, the more bs he's gonna do without fear that you're going to disappear.

By cutting him off and being strict with it, you surprised him because he wasn't used to that in a woman. But now this man is back to banging you and emotionally bullshitting you and here you stay. So now you're like the other women I wouldn't doubt he has and is doing this to.

Cut him off, hun. You're not a plaything to be strung along.




You're so right about me not being a plaything. I need to cut him off and NOT allow him back in my life after I cut him off. I need to regrow my back bone.
I just hate the feeling of wasted time. Oh well more time to focus on mysel & my studies.

Thanks!!
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OP, you might as well go back to ignoring that man because he's only willing to string you along for sex. I was cheering when you were gung ho on cutting that man off.

He has already shown and told you that despite all the emotional bonding, he has not committed to you. The longer he bullshits you and somehow has you staying around, the more bs he's gonna do without fear that you're going to disappear.

By cutting him off and being strict with it, you surprised him because he wasn't used to that in a woman. But now this man is back to banging you and emotionally bullshitting you and here you stay. So now you're like the other women I wouldn't doubt he has and is doing this to.

Cut him off, hun. You're not a plaything to be strung along.
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I do not get exactly what you are expecting from this relationship or friendship or whatever. If you wanna be WITH him he does not want to commit then only thing you doing is setting yourself up for heartbreak. If you gone wait around waiting for him to make up his mind then that is up too you but you need to just find someone who wants what you want too. The reason he can tell you these things is because he thinks you will fall for then he wants his CAKE AND EAT IT TOO do not be a FOOL.  Good luck 
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