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    Posted: Nov 15 2012 at 8:16am
Originally posted by lilmznisha lilmznisha wrote:

I met this guy at work 10/2011. He seemed very cool. I had just got out of a 4 yr relationship so i wanted to try and keep feelings out...didnt work. We ended up spending a lot of time together of course having sex then 1 months later i find out he slept with 3 other girls at the job b4 i started!!!! He lied lied lied then finally told the truth and said he didnt want them and wanted to try something with me.so we kept talking i moved into a new place and he stayed every night for about a month. Then around Christmas he started to disappear n not stay the night. Then i find out that he's talking to someone else at the job!!! So i asked him yes he lied. I asked her she admitted to it. So i told her about us. He still lied and i stayed like a dummy. Then i did a drive by and caught her at his house so i whooped his ass and we didnt talk for a week. Then he comes around saying i miss you i never wanted her blah blah. Once again i let it go and went back so we could try again then she hollerin she pregnant.smh. he didnt want it so she ended up aborting it. Then i became pregnant and he wanted it. We argued the whole time and i lost it at 19 weeks. We were still together. This is the short version so believe me there's more. Now its 11/2012 one yr and we are sour once again. We got into it i tried to put him out(didnt work) now he walking around saying what ever doing what ever cause he thinks he cant be put out. And the reason we are into it now is so petty but he didnt want to talk about it which makes me up set. Mind you the day i met him at work is the day i started school and its been hell. I dont know how i made it with only 3 months left. Any advice..


This reads like a bad soap opera.  You find out this guy slept with 3 other girls at work yet you are too blind to see a pattern then?  Cheats again and gets a girl preggers and you still hang on to this scum? Your extreme bad judgement got you where you are today.

Change the locks.  Get a new job.  Get a court order of protection.  Get counseling. 

And really stop and think hard next time you decide to get into a relationship again.  If it looks like a dog, and acts like a dog, IT'S A DOG.



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Unfortunately, when you kept letting him slide, you set a precedent. He now feels like he can do whatever he wants and you are just gonna put up with it.

If you mean it, SHOW HIM. Don't break your lease and ruin your credit for this man. Go to whatever company he has the bill in his name with a copy of your lease, and tell them you want it disconnected and reinstated in your name. Then change your locks.

Once they see your name on the lease, I don't see why they wouldn't let you have bills in your own name in your own sh!t.

Inform him he does not need to speak to you unless its work related. Involve HR/managers if he has a problem with that.

I am sorry you lost your child and I hope you get out of this crazy mess.
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Yes his belongings are there. And we just dont talk. I dnt look his way
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are you scared of this guy.  also, does he really live with you or does he just have a few things over?  and i assume he has a key? how is it at work when you see him now?
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Great advice thanks Becky
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Originally posted by lilmznisha lilmznisha wrote:

Im so mad the leasing office is closed today i really do just wanna be done. I dont care how much i care or having to work with him. I have to go or he'll never learn
 
To be honest ... this not about him learning anything.
 
Nooo men like this are never gonna learn anything. Why should they ... when theire are so many other willing women (victims) for him to latch on to? He probably has 2 or 3 other women in the works as we speak. He is a Loser that just takes from women. duh!
 
You need to focus on your learning something from this experience.
 
I forgot you have to work with this guy - but these are my suggestions:
- Start looking for another job
- go to the police and file a domestic violence report - tell them he has threatened you - so that cannot be anywhere near you. Tell them you are in fear of your life, what you are doing about your living situation and what you will be doing about your work situation. IT IS CRITICALL THAT YOU ARE proactive in this way. You need a record because once you put him out .. expect retaliation! (So I wouldn't be so egar to see his reaction when he sees his stuff outside in a bag)Confused
- Tell the HR or your manager or whoever at your job .. that you are putting this guy and you want it on record that you are in fear of your life. Tell them that you have contacted the police
- DO NOT CONFRONT him and tell him of your plans. This is the surest way for him to go off on you. Just put him put and have some (male) friends and family stay at your house so he won't go off on you .. because surely he is not gonna take this lightly. Nooo. He will be pi***.
Once you are settling and the dust has settled - seek counseling! I say this because many women ignore bad behavior from a guy ... and keep him around .. so they end up in a bad situation. So there is A REASON you stayed with when you FIRST found out who amd what he is. Regular girls (like me) would have been gonnnnnnne immediately .. if not sooner. So you need to find out WHY stayed involved with a loser to begin with.
Otherwise .. you are sure to get involved with another loser like this. They are a dime a dozen! Dead


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Sleepy1 months later i find out he slept with 3 other girls at the job b4 i started!!!! He liedSleepy

that should've been it right there. and honestly i did read anything after that...cause im guessin you're still messin with'em.
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Hes wasting your time.
Move on.

This is the ultimate theme song of how love should be

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Thank you guys. it's not going to be easy. But this whole yr i waisted with this asshole hasn't been. I just cant wait til he put that key in the door and sees nothing but his clothes shoes and that stupid dvr box
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Holy crap! GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE!!

And learn from this! Say no to co-workers and men who show you who they are from the start with ugly behavior and dishonesty!
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