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    Posted: Sep 14 2014 at 2:46am
From Black Girls Are Easy:

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On Remixing  A Bad Relationship

Let’s say you’re not strong enough to walk away just yet. You would rather try to show him that you aren’t basic and impress him in the manner you should have when you first met. How can you make your man hit reset on the relationship and see you as more than used coochie or a Bottom Bitch? The first step in regaining your power is to stop being accessible. Appreciation will be a foreign concept to this man because he got your best effort without any effort. He wants to talk to you about his problems, so you’re there to listen. He wants sex at night when he’s done living his life, so you come over. He wants to go out with his boys, not out on a date, so you happily find a girlfriend to accompany you to that movie. You cannot be that accommodating to a man that refuses to go all in. What motivation does he have to upgrade you if he’s getting all the benefits? Learn to say "no" and say it often.

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2013/10/end-excuses.html
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

Yup. This is what made me stop. He aint feeling me. Back to square one.
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great article!!
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just read this and found it good for those girls who are confused about a guy blowing up their phones when they ignore them, yet wondering why the guy goes cold out of nowhere:

" Your ego is telling you that you’re an A-, but the guy you like sees you as a C+, and that’s why you’re a grown woman still stuck in a placeholder relationship. So why would a man waste his time dealing with Ms. Average? Why would a man tell Ms. Average how much he loves her? Why would he eat Ms. Average’s ass? Why would he blow up Ms. Average’s phone when she tries to cut him off? Because even at average, you’re something to do. "

also this:

"These bottom b!tches won’t cut off a man they like, they will simply not call and wait for him to hit her first to apologize, and then toot their horn like, “See, I don’t run after no d!ck.” Really? How about in the two weeks it takes this dude to call you over to fvck him again, aka his form of apologizing, you haven’t done anything but think about him. You may not be actively pursuing him, but he owns your mind to the point where you can’t go out to party, go to work, or dream without him being the main thing on your mind. Again, this is a result of all your eggs being in his weak-ass basket. "Cry

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eta: one last one lol

"Fvck his personal problems and bullsh*t reasons. If you were to tell a man that you couldn’t be with him because you had to focus on your last year of college, he wouldn’t be like, “I understand,” and then follow you around like a puppy waiting for you to find time. He would pretend to understand, leave the door open for you to change your mind, and then go get at the next b!tch. Men aren’t understanding, we’re unapologetically selfish.

Edited by sexyandfamous - Jun 30 2014 at 4:03pm
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Found this in an old thread.... "letter from a player" which basically illustrates relationships that never existed:

A letter for the ladies from a playa
     
>
> Dear Beautiful Woman
>
> I just wanted you to know that even though you were
> priceless, I made you
> feel like you were only worth a dime.
> Not a dime, meaning a ten, or perfect package for
> the men,
> I mean a dime, like a broke, bankrupt soul, stolen
> destiny and heart running
> cold.
> I did this on purpose, but it did not start that
> way. I treated you like
> royalty, then I went in for the kill one day.
> Because to be a player is a science, not a cane and
> gangsta limp. Only your
> body`s not on the streets, it`s your mind that`s
> getting pimped.
> First I tell you that I love you, then I trick you
> into bed by promising you
> you`re the only one and get all tangled in your
> head.
> Then you`ll notice that I call less, but I have my
> excuses prewritten.You
> were once a confident Lion, now you' re a helpless
> little kitten.
> Since women are emotional, it is so easy to do. It`s
> been done since Adam
> and Eve, this playa sh*t isn`t nothing new.
> Then just as you are at your breaking point, I will
> call you and ask you out
> for a surprise.

> I`ll stand you up once again knowing that you will
> stay at home and cry.
> But then I`ll call and say I am sorry, that I was
> working really late.
> When, in fact, I was fvking the hell out of my
> latest dinner date.
> When you come by, there will be candles and some
> nice light music in the
> back.
> I let you answer my phone calls to make you feel
> like leader of the pack.

> I told my boy to call in succession, like a hacking
> cough, and after that, I
> slicked ya and turned the ringer off.
> My cell phone is pretty crafty because you never
> knew I had two. There is
> one number for Janet and Kim, and a different
> number, for you!
> Now by the time you have gotten frustrated, I have
> just enough to say,
> `Oh baby, be supportive, I promise it`ll get better
> some day.`
> So you continue to put up with me even though your
> heart is being robbed.

> I have stood you up3 more times, but I blame it on
> my job.
> You will not find any numbers, and my voicemail
> you`ll never figure out.
> Because the password is changed daily, that is what
> a playa is all about.
> I have covered all the bases, but I should have been
> warned.
> There is nothing more ferocious than a Woman that
> has been scorned.
> Yes I got your messages, and I heard you knocking at
> the door. But it would
> hurt you more to see the truth than to be ignored.
> You knew a girl was in my bed that night when you
> called, and you knew I was
> not at work, at the gym, or at the mall.
> And you knew that I was cheating, but you did not
> have any proof. And even
> if you did, you would still make an excuse.
> And the reason is so simple, because you love what
> you can`t have.

> There are guys that would treat you right, but at
> them, you scoff and laugh
> You knew I was not sh*t, when I walked up in the
> door. I promised you the
> world, and even so much more.
> But all I gave you were dozens of lies and plenty of
> reasons as to why. Many
> times, I wanted to tell you that you are too nice,
> so please leave my side.
> But the attention you gave was too good; you were at
> my beckon call. So call
> me a selfish bastard, I mastered how to make you
> fall.
> Now that I am retired from this type of boyish
> lifestyle, I have grown up,
> had some hard lessons, I am no longer on the prowl.
> But to all you lovely ladies, protect your hearts
> from this disgrace. I am
> finished with the game but another will take my
> place.
> There is a playa born every day, and 10 women who
> fall every hour. Please
> think with your mind, not your heart, so you can
> claim back your power.
> I suggest that you make me prove my self, and keep
> those gorgeous legs
> closed.
> Until I show you I am a goodman and not a thorny
> stem, with no rose.
> So now that you have been taught, I apologize for
> this bad news. But just as
> I retired, someone else, stepped in my shoes.
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Spring/Summer is happening. Just a reminder.
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from a blog...


"NEVER want anyone to the point where you compromise your value. Weak bitches are understanding, Spartans make Brothas understand"
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Great advice in here I really hope those in abusive relationship take note. 
Unfortunately, I had to learn those things the hard way during my younger years. But its made me stronger, and wiser, and I know what to tell my daughter to watch out for(from first hand experience) so she won't make the mistakes I did. Sad thing is some women aren't as fortunate.
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