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    Posted: Dec 28 2015 at 3:37pm
found this and thought it could help somebody who can't make the distinction between flattery and love:




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there are two wheels of power:

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And there's the Wheel of Power and Control, to learn to recognize abuse....abuse isn't only physical and verbal. 
You can be emotionally and psychologically abused by being controlled, manipulated and isolated from friends and family:

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Quote Think about that, you hold a man down emotionally and then help him financially, and now he’s in love with another woman who is on the payroll that you are payrolling. She told me this: “I’ve asked God to destroy his life like he’s destroyed mine.” That’s deep. It’s also internally toxic. God isn’t a hitman and there is nothing you can do besides learn the lesson that was put in place for you to learn. .....No one wants to talk about lessons and self-responsibility, because like all relationship problems, it’s not about the person who hurt you, it’s about you learning from that person so you can grow into a Spartan that doesn’t need to rely on the fantasy of fair to conquer life. That’s not fair, is the battle cry of losers. Nevertheless, if you’re hell bent on this “feel my pain” nonsense then let’s go through all the ways you can get revenge on your Ex.



i got it from the link below, which is for women who want to get a revenge on their exes, but it teaches them that you can't hurt someone who was never or no longer is invested in them:

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2015/07/how-to-get-revenge-on-your-ex.html


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I remember I believed this post and then he told me that he liked me for a long time and didn't know if I liked him. 

A nicca from a site called "black girls are easy" couldn't blog to me about the benefits of drinking water. 
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I was reading some stories of girls who ended up in abusive relationships, and many of them had one thing in common: a guy who was a sweetheart in the beginning, and then he turned into a monster. The girl stayed because she kept waiting for him to be who he was in the beginning of the relationship.

If your guy is being emotionally, physically, or verbally abusive - just leave. Don't wait for him to turn into a prince again.
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Practice patience. Never rush. Guys who play mind games hate to wait; they will rush everything because they don't have the time. The longer you take to put out, the quicker they will show you who they really are, and then you can drop him before you catch feelings and end up having sex to try to keep a guy who never wanted you.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sexyandfamous Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 18 2015 at 11:59pm
just read this on blackgirlsareeasy blog and though in reposting it:

Quote break girls down by using their own want to be wanted against them in order to turn these girls into stalkers, thirsty for a phone call, junkies for attention, and desperate for a relationship is what the majority of men do because the average woman is emotionally soft when it comes to the men they actually like.


http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2015/05/date_like_a_spartan.html
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I found myself creating a mental relationship with a guy on my job - a guy who I had no real interest in, but someone who showed me inconsistent attention.  I really began to develop feelings for him.  I became obsessed (not really), but I would be upset if he spoke to someone else; I would linger just so he would say something (attention); and I actually looked forward to it.

I realized that I kept putting sex into everything.  Like, wanting to have those physical relationships (because I've never done it), caused me to hold on, just so I can experience it.  I've vowed to take sex out of all equations, it's not something I really think about anymore, and I realize that I'm not interested in that man (like, really disinterested).

It's like that for me with a lot of guys.  The one guy who I struggled to move on from, I feel like I may have really loved him.

But for the guy at my job?  Now that I know that he can't offer me anything - because we're not taking it there - I'm honestly not interested in him.
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Does he take you out? Stop being the drive thru hoe. Yeah he’s on hard times, his pockets aren’t built like that, but guess what? That Brotha has money to buy a $59.99 PS3 game; he can scrape up a few dollars to take you to a restaurant that doesn’t have pictures on the menu. Your homegirls are single and fine dining and you’re taking Wing Stop to go, you’re not winning because you have a man, you’re losing because you have a man who keeps your dumb ass on Dracula duty, buried in the crib, only coming out when it’s time to buy condoms and Dutch masters.Dead

Are You Wifey or Are you P*ssy?
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From Black Girls Are Easy blog:

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What do you do when faced with yet another obstacle? You keep trying to make him like you because the thought that there is a guy who got to know you and got to f*ck you, and still doesn’t think you’re worth his time hurts like hell. The reason you start thinking irrational is because you won’t accept rejection; despite his push back you keep chasing that approval. The want to be loved by this man has overridden your common sense and you’re willing to do anything because you’re obsessed with getting him to see you the way that other people see you. The *&%^$#@Eed up thing about scenarios like this is that it’s not even about the man! I’ve talked to girls who’ve been pressed over guys who are ugly, who are poor, who have limp dycks, and even dudes who they didn’t even want to talk to in the first place. It’s not the actual man, but what he represents. He doesn’t think you’re special, and as long as he keeps rejecting you, you’ll keep running back for more because you can’t give up without proving that you are a Game Changer. You’re not a Game Changer

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2014/04/dick-make-women-crazy.html
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