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    Posted: Jul 22 2009 at 12:36am
I want to encourage you to stop.  Smile  Hear me out...
 
The bible tells us that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor with the Lord.  Proverbs 18:22.  That says a whole lot more than we give it credit for.
 
This verse in Proverbs speaks volumes about the order of things in God's kingdom.  Genesis Chapter 1 tells the story of God deciding to make the earth and everything on it.  He then makes man and has man proceed to set everything up, get everything in order and lock it down.  He blesses everything that Adam does and in Chapter 2, God lays down the rules regarding the tree of life for Adam, in other words, He gives Adam the vision.  Notice that Eve wasn't even there yet.  We'll get back to that.
 
Once man has done all his preparing and organizing and gotten the vision from God (learns what it is that God wants him to do), then God says that its not good for him to be alone, lets make him a help meet.  That's when woman is taken out of what was already made and created to be a second half.
 
Why did I mention all of this? 
 
Because ladies, I'd like to present to you the idea that its time to stop praying for your husband to appear, but instead, its time to pray and thank God for your marriages, and pray for yourself as a wife.  Faith is an interesting thing, I tell you.
 
There are two types of women.  The first type is simply that, a woman.  She was made to be a woman and without the grace and mercy of God has no business being anybody's wife.  Yall know what I'm talking about, you see them and hear about them all the time.  They have no desire to be anybody's team mate or help meet or anything else for that matter.  Its all about them and what they want and when they want it.  And you can't fault them because they're just living out their nature. But there's even hope for the woman because with prayer, supplication, study and sacrifice, she too can be a Godly wife.  God's grace is sufficient for ALL of us.
 
The second type is what is referred to in Proverbs 31 as the virtuous woman.  This is a woman who was created to be a wife.  God has instilled within her the desire to be married, to be submitted, to be loved and cared for and to reverence her husband, to care for the people in her life and children if they are her heart's desire, to be a servant to the people who she loves because she's confident in the love she has for herself.  Some of us feel like we are are just born to do it, and we are born to do it because God makes us that way.  Some of us are born to be a wife.  And what we do, we do it well.  Yeah, we don't always get it right, we stumble and make mistakes, but what we are at our very core, is a woman who knows how to be a wife.  If you're reading this post, that's probably the call that God has placed on you.
 
IKnowing that you were created to be a wife that will cause your thinking to change. 
 
If you were created to be a wife then that means your husband was made to be your husband.  In other words, you don't have to pray him into existence because he already exists.  Here's where it gets good ladies.  I tell you, God thinks of everything.  Ain't He awesome?!
 
Eve didn't get there before Adam, Adam was already in position and he had already gotten the vision from God.  Adam didn't even know he needed help, but God knew, and God created what he needed.   This tells me that before I knew I was supposed to be somebody's wife, my husband had already been chosen by God and everything that man needed was put inside of me.  As a matter of fact, after we got married my husband would always say that God gave him more than what he wanted, He gave him what he needed when He gave him me.  And I'm so thankflul that He did!
 
But see, that's God's order of things.  That's why God says its the man who finds a wife, not a wife who prays for a husband.
 
See, God loves His women a great deal, and He sees us as the gift that he gives to man.  He is our protector, our Ultimate Daddy.  Knowing this, He set up the order of things for the man to find, nurture and cherish the woman he is givenAll you have to do is be foundThat's it.  We don't have to make it happen because its already been done.  You just sit pretty and be ready to be found.
 
I encourage you to change your prayers.  Stop praying for a husband.  If you're a wife, that means you've already got one.  Just sit pretty and wait for him to find you.  And when the time is right, he will find you.  But to be found, you have to be ready to be pulled out of where you are and fashioned into something new.  The only way to do this is to focus on God and what He is saying to you.  When you believe God's going to do something for you, ou prepare yourself for it.  I encourage you to devote yourself to learning about how to be a Godly wife so that when your day comes, you'll have some virtue to bring honor to your husband and glory to God. 
 
Waiting does not consist of dating.  Waiting consists of being selective and very protective of who you give your time and attention to.  One of the reasons why the man is supposed to have to look for you is because you're supposed to be so hidden in God, so wrapped up in Him (and yourself) that he has to literally make you notice him, make you see him.  He's supposed to work for it not get it handed to him on a silver pladder.  Come on ladies, we have to keep it real.  Big%20smile
 
I guarantee you that if you stop looking you'll get found.  It may not happen over night because of the facts of life, but God's word is always yes and amen.  He says in Isaiah that His word will NOT return to Him void.  It will ALWAYS accomplish that which He sent it to do.  Isaiah 55:11.  Stand on that.
 
Get all the knuckleheads and fools out of your life.  They're taking up valuable space and making it harder for your husband to find you.  Be selective about yours, get into the word and find out how much you're worth.  If anyone needs help with this, let's encourage each other in the Lord.  If you're struggling in this area, say so, and allow your sisters in God to lift you up in prayer, hold you accountable and keep you reminded of what the word says.  I wish there was less judgment in the church and more love and encouragement.  We all gotta start from somewhere. 
 
Be encouraged!
 


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God to our sisters in the name of Jesus! Great post!
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THIS IS AMAZING..I HAVE THREE KIDS WITH THE SAME MAN AND HE LEFT ME AFTER 12 YEARS FOR SOMEONE ELSE....I THOUGHT WE WERE A FAMILY BUT I WAS WRONG. THANK YOU FOR THIS POST..ITS MAKING ME CRY BECAUSE I BELIEVE AGAIN..THANK YOUClap

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