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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:33pm
Motherless?? Partnerless? I am not terminally ill or on life support. My hospital visitis have decreased dramatically during the years. From the meds that I was put on when I was about 12 years-old, my new life expectancy is around 60-70 years old according to my doctors. The advancements in the research of Sickle Cell has gotten better since the 80s. 

I live a normal life. I go to school, I work...all it is now is occasional pain when I get stressed. The way I treat the pain is by drinking water or fluids lol I'll be like any normal/good mother out there. I won't leave them or whoever I am with until I'm old age. (unless I get in a car crash or some ish...God forbid.)
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:38pm
Originally posted by bindy bindy wrote:

I know this is not the case....but let us image for a moment that if a woman becomes pregnant with a child with SS the woman wold automatically contract SS as well (not true...I'm just trying to make a point).........Would the OP take a 75% risk of contracting SS herself?...............

There is your answer OP.....

I would. The only reason I would though is because I know what i went through so its easy to say I would, if that makes sense. I mean, I live a normal life. I just have to drink 2x the water than the average person, which is nothing drastic. Now if I was someone who didn't know the symptoms of sickle cell or how the pain feels, then my answer would be no.

So that question is kind of iffy. I see where you were going though 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:38pm
Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

20? 3 weeks?

Gurl, bff-zone him, get on some good BC (but go ahead and get some Plan B now, ICE) enjoy your youth and in 5-7 years start looking for someone without the SS gene for all that marriage & baby shyt.

Take care of yourself. Good luck & Godspeed.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:43pm
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should someone with high blood pressure and a family history of heart disease have children?


It is my opinion that anyone with a serious illness (physical, mental, emotional) should not have children. Sick parents can't be good parents...and being sick is extremely expensive.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:44pm
Originally posted by lanae lanae wrote:

Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

20? 3 weeks?

Gurl, bff-zone him, get on some good BC (but go ahead and get some Plan B now, ICE) enjoy your youth and in 5-7 years start looking for someone without the SS gene for all that marriage & baby shyt.

Take care of yourself. Good luck & Godspeed.

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I;m on bc and I've got 2 plan b pills sitting in my room just in case. And its not so easy to just bff zone someone that I have feelings for. He's not a dude I just met a week ago. I guess it hit hard for me because I am getting older (even tho 20 is so young) and now my future is spinning in my head Wacko

But yes, I know what to do now Smile


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:47pm
Originally posted by Up&Out39 Up&Out39 wrote:

Motherless?? Partnerless? I am not terminally ill or on life support. My hospital visitis have decreased dramatically during the years. From the meds that I was put on when I was about 12 years-old, my new life expectancy is around 60-70 years old according to my doctors. The advancements in the research of Sickle Cell has gotten better since the 80s. 

I live a normal life. I go to school, I work...all it is now is occasional pain when I get stressed. The way I treat the pain is by drinking water or fluids lol I'll be like any normal/good mother out there. I won't leave them or whoever I am with until I'm old age. (unless I get in a car crash or some ish...God forbid.)


Pregnancy in your condition can have devastating effects, up to and including death. As much as you might like to, you can't just put your head in the sand and ignore the possibility. It's just something to consider when making decisions...just like you'll have to consider the extra healthcare and life costs if you have a child who also has sickle cell.

I personally don't think it's fair to make that decision for a child who doesn't have a choice in the matter in order to satisfy your own personal desires. But that's just me.



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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:52pm
Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:



should someone with high blood pressure and a family history of heart disease have children?


It is my opinion that anyone with a serious illness (physical, mental, emotional) should not have children. Sick parents can't be good parents...and being sick is extremely expensive.

I think what you're saying is a case by case basis. Not everyone that has a disease or is sick can't take care of themselves and is dependent on people. I live on my own and am independent. And since I have great health insurance, I don't spend a dime on meds because I'm on some program where all my doctor visits and such are free. The only thing I spend money on that has to do with my sickness is water. Cases and cases of water LOL

Sidenote: My mom literally has a bunkard of cases of water in her apartment just for me when I visit her. I always ask her if she's planning for the apacolypse or something because its unneccesarily TOO much. She just laughs and then gives me the death stare LOL

The benefit of all of this is my skin glows like no other! 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 1:55pm
@Maysay, this is why I may consider surrogacy or adoption. Me putting my head in the sand would me not even thinking about this at all and just having a baby now.

Thank you for your blunt input though. They were devil's advocates and it was needed in the discussion.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 2:02pm
My cousin has sickle cell and I hate seeing her go through pain. OP she's Nigerian too, you sound just like her lol   
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 18 2013 at 2:03pm
nothing to add, but to send OP a Hug too.

eta: and I think adoption is a great option.
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