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    Posted: May 06 2013 at 8:20pm
My landlady and her husband were married forever and a day. I know she's 71 and he's older. She told me a few years  that they got married when she was in her twenties. They both seem like really chill, sweet old people and I love seeing old black couples.
 
I saw her today to give her my rent check and asked about him. I haven't seen him in maybe 8 months and real talk he's old. He used to sit on the stoop every Saturday to listen to young people's problems and give advice. This sweet old Jamaican lady starts cussing his name and the day he was born, calling him every bumbaclot/rastaclat/coochiehole under the sun. I'm standing there like Confused damn, sorry I said anything. She said that he was cheating with four different women, and two of them went to school with their grandchildren. I don't know if they really went to school with them or if she was just saying they were real young but I'm 27 and I went to school with two of their grandchildren Dead She threw him out in the middle of the night.
 
To make it even worse, he was stealing money from her and took money from her "rainy day" account.
 
How somebody can be so dirty after 50 years with someone he "loved" is crazy to me. They seemed like a happy husband and wife so you just never really know.
 
My dad left my mom two months after my 11-year-old brother passed away from neuroblastoma and we didn't see him for years. She still can't find him to get a divorce smh
 
Does anybody ever feel like marriage just isn't worth it?
 
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my marriage will be forever or else I'm going to kill somebody
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Marriage isn't a life goal just like children aren't, but I am open to them coming in my path. I think people today are so focused on getting greener grasses though so successful marriages are a rarity!
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That sucks but not marriages are like that, the majority are not.
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I'm beginning to think marriage is just a waste of time now and days. Nobody is faithful, we are living in one fudged up a * * world it's crazy! Every time I turn around he cheating on her with her and she cheating on him with him and they are married and still living in the same household....LIKE GET A DAMN DIVORCE ALREADY and cut to the chase.....

It's sickening.....

But hey to each his or her own.....i'm on the outside looking in so I don't know the full story as to why. But I still feel it's a waste of time to get married or to remain married if your a cheater. Sleepy
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i don't judge marriage based on other ppl failures that's something in life you must try for yourself.
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Hmmm, I'm not one of those people who thinks my life won't be fulfilled in I don't get married of have children. I'm content with not having both at the moment, but not against it either. I know married men who tried to cheat with me. NO WAY!! I know women who date married men. That's too much shucking/diving/hiding for me. I cant willingly be anyone's secret. I think now more women seems to accept the fact that "all men cheats". 
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I am the same - I am unconventional and marriage and kids are not for everyone. I just think society puts pressure on women to 'get married' etc. Luckily I have never been convinced. Tongue
 
I have friends that cheat and friends that get caught up in all sorts of unneeded crap. But that's them.
 
That said.. I do believe in marriage. It gets down to finding the right partner - and this has nothing to do with money. It has more to do with finding a level-head honest guy that's in the same place you are and working hard to make it work. It's a job.
 
Like the other poster said - don't base your marriage on other peoples (bad) marriages. Maybe that 50 year marriage was always f*** up - it's just that you could not see it.
 
Just try to be real/happy with yourself as you are so that you can attract a GOOD GUY (not a dog) into your life. If you don't attract this guy .. be happy on your own. This is preferable to being with a LOSER.Confused
 
To me the best and most important relationship you will ever have .. is the relationship that you have with yourself and .... if you find the right guy to share your life with .. all the better. But don't make it a requirement. When you do this ... you are too likely to make a poor choice of a guy. Confused


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I'm only marrying when I decide I want children.not marrying just for the sake of being married.I agree, what's the point?
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I don't believe in marriage...unless he's bloody wealthy Evil Smile
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