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    Posted: Sep 08 2012 at 10:23pm

The "Spiritual" Puppeteer

There is this woman in my life that God has been speaking to me about for the last 2 years. I've had dreams of her not truly being there for me. Not truly loving me. Not truly being happy for me. But in real life, she's sweet, she's concerned, she's anointed. I tried to ignore the dreams and impressions, thinking that the enemy was trying to divide us. But she stayed on my heart and on my mind.
 
Me: God, what is this? Why can't I shake her? Why do I feel this uneasiness with her?
God: She's a Spiritual Puppeteer. And she's trying to take my place in your life.
 
What's a spiritual puppeteer? Well, I'm glad you asked!
  • She Always Gives Unsolicited Advice - When you try to just have girl talk with her, she interrupts with: "You should do this. You should do that. I'll teach you. I'll show you. Come with me!" What she doesn't realize is that you just wanted to share a part of your life. She doesn't even care to hear how you'd like to handle your situation. Or chances are you like your situation! But she doesn't listen long enough to realize that.
  • She Gets Offended When You Don't Take Her Advice - When you reject her advice that you never even asked for, she gets offended. She defensively replies, "I'm just trying to help." She says she supports you, or "do what you got to do" but her voice is filled with sarcasm and/or doubt. She doesn't believe that you can handle it without her help. She wants you to learn from her mistakes, not realizing that sometimes you don't truly learn until you've made your own.
  • She Acts Like She's the Only One Who Can Hear From God - Because she is known for hearing from God, she uses that as a tool to try to control you. Maybe she doesn't do it on purpose, maybe she does it out of "love," but she doesn't give you a chance to hear from God yourself. She acts as if you can't hear from God. Because your faith doesn't make sense to her, it's automatically not of the Lord. She doesn't understand that more often than not, her role is to pray you through, not try to tell you what to do. She tries to rob you of the opportunity of getting to know God for yourself.
  • She Doesn't Realize that She's not Your God - She forgets that even though God used her before to minister to you, He may not use her again. He uses different people so you don't idolize one person. He does this so you can remember that it is He who brings counsel and wisdom 100%. She gets offended if you turn to others for advice for a different situation. She always expects you to return to her.
  • She Wants to Turn You into Her Follower - As quiet as it's kept, she wants to train you and be responsible for your success; as long as it doesn't surpass hers. She'll never admit it. But your growth and success intimidates her. She wants you to grow just enough to take the credit for being such an influence in your life.
  • She Can't Applaud You for Following Your Heart - Simply put, unless you do things exactly how she'd do it, you won't get any support from her. If you go to a school she doesn't approve of, or dress differently then she prefers, or if you choose to live somewhere she doesn't like ... well, you won't get genuine support. You'll never feel like she truly accepts you for who you are.
  • If You Don't Jump to Do Things Her Way, You're Automatically Against Her - She feels that rejecting her ideas, opinions, or advice equals rejecting her. Saying no to her long enough will result in a distance and awkwardness between you and her.
I know we all have at least one "Spiritual" Puppeteer in our lives. I use the term "Spiritual" because all of my writing is related to the Church, the Body of Christ.
 
If you're like me, you need to feel like you have space to breathe. I don't mind her ending up being right after the dust settles, but I have to see that for myself. Not just because she says so. The truth is, she has control issues. She wants everyone to be about her, and do things to her liking. But it's subtle and hidden under the name of helping.
 
If you are the puppeteer, repent, forgive yourself, and seek change. If this blog helps to identify the puppeteer in your life (which can be a man or woman), bless God! Here's what you do:
 
  1. If you have fallen victim to her ways of manipulation, FORGIVE HER and don't take it personally. Most of the time the puppeteer doesn't realize what she's doing. She tries to help so much that she doesn't realize that she's pushing you away.
  2. PRAY FOR HER, so that she can see herself. If she truly loves God, she'll seek change.
  3. If you feel led by the Holy Spirit, sit down and TALK TO HER. If you're speaking in truth and in love, you will inspire her to change.
  4. Don't ostracize her. Maybe you can't continually have conversations with her because you know how they'll end (unfruitful & frustrating), but you can still greet her with a genuine smile and hug. You can support her endeavors. You can pray with her. You can offer her a shoulder to lean on. YOU CAN LOVE HER.

Matthew 10:16 - Be wise as serpents, Harmless as doves
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote nella Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 10 2012 at 6:09pm
Hey Nyqueen Hug. Great Post!! The "Spiritual" Puppeteer, wow that's the first time I've heard this term. The description is on point by the way.

Good to see a post from you Heart
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Wow, I replied to this days ago through my phone and my reply is nowhere to be found.
HI NELLA!!!!! How have you been? Hug
 
Yea that was a new concept for me. It's crazy.
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It sounds like the spiritual puppeteer is synonymous with a "Jezebel Spirit". Run as fast as you can.
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Easier said than done psalm100. 
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote markpattinson902 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 31 2013 at 12:33am
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