The "Spiritual" Puppeteer

She Always Gives Unsolicited Advice - When you try to just have girl talk with her, she interrupts with: "You should do this. You should do that. I'll teach you. I'll show you. Come with me!" What she doesn't realize is that you just wanted to share a part of your life. She doesn't even care to hear how you'd like to handle your situation. Or chances are you like your situation! But she doesn't listen long enough to realize that.

She Gets Offended When You Don't Take Her Advice - When you reject her advice that you never even asked for, she gets offended. She defensively replies, "I'm just trying to help." She says she supports you, or "do what you got to do" but her voice is filled with sarcasm and/or doubt. She doesn't believe that you can handle it without her help. She wants you to learn from her mistakes, not realizing that sometimes you don't truly learn until you've made your own.

She Acts Like She's the Only One Who Can Hear From God - Because she is known for hearing from God, she uses that as a tool to try to control you. Maybe she doesn't do it on purpose, maybe she does it out of "love," but she doesn't give you a chance to hear from God yourself. She acts as if you can't hear from God. Because your faith doesn't make sense to her, it's automatically not of the Lord. She doesn't understand that more often than not, her role is to pray you through, not try to tell you what to do. She tries to rob you of the opportunity of getting to know God for yourself.

She Doesn't Realize that She's not Your God - She forgets that even though God used her before to minister to you, He may not use her again. He uses different people so you don't idolize one person. He does this so you can remember that it is He who brings counsel and wisdom 100%. She gets offended if you turn to others for advice for a different situation. She always expects you to return to her.

She Wants to Turn You into Her Follower - As quiet as it's kept, she wants to train you and be responsible for your success; as long as it doesn't surpass hers. She'll never admit it. But your growth and success intimidates her. She wants you to grow just enough to take the credit for being such an influence in your life.

She Can't Applaud You for Following Your Heart - Simply put, unless you do things exactly how she'd do it, you won't get any support from her. If you go to a school she doesn't approve of, or dress differently then she prefers, or if you choose to live somewhere she doesn't like ... well, you won't get genuine support. You'll never feel like she truly accepts you for who you are.

If You Don't Jump to Do Things Her Way, You're Automatically Against Her - She feels that rejecting her ideas, opinions, or advice equals rejecting her. Saying no to her long enough will result in a distance and awkwardness between you and her.