25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25
Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they
actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being
flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that
familial brand of resentment.
someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students
and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if
they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how
to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s
Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you
expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t
the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I
think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there
hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work
with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never
know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away
for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want
them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I
want you. I want to be with you.
Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you
hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell
the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re
going to complain about missing the sun.
Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the
apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These
places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every
move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for
experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re
afraid of getting on a plane.
Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one
point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your
favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a
gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your
boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be
unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo
drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home
when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that
makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life
is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting.
You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships
and friends if you’re patient and open.
"If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave."
deciding i was pretty was the best thing that i ever did
one day i was just like
this im pretty
and i was
A man: I want happiness. "You have to find the right distance between people. Too close, and they overwhelm you, too far and they abandon you."
Buddha: First remove "I", that's ego, then remove "want", that's desire. See? Now you are left with happiness.
funny. When you leave your home and wander really far, you always
think, ‘I want to go home.’ But then you come home, and of course it’s
not the same. You can’t live with it, you can’t live away from it. And
it seems like from then on there’s always this yearning for some place
that doesn’t exist. I felt that. Still do. I’m never completely at home
can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that
you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that
there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that
is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something
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What is coming is better than what is gone."
the moment you realize
that your bones are made of the same dust
as the planets,
your lungs are breathing the same air
as the migrating butterflies,
and your blood is pumping because
of the love and care of thousands;
is when you realize
that you are not as broken
as you think you are.
you are full
of the world.
you ever just looked at someone and thought, “I really love you”.
They’re just talking or humming or watching a movie or reading a book or
laughing or something, and there’s something about them in that
moment—their body is alive, there’s a light in their eyes,
something—that makes you think, “I just really love you.” It’s a weird
sensation to think this, but it’s pretty awesome that we can feel this
way about another being.
over a bad experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have
to let go at some point in order to move forward."
your eyes and imagine the best version of you possible. That’s who you
really are, let go of any part of you that doesn’t believe it."