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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote iNFATUATE Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 19 2013 at 8:03am
I do that grunge/hobo look on the weekends. Worked out fine for me...but my hair has to be done or in a beanie.
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Originally posted by beautiful-stranger beautiful-stranger wrote:

I am reunited with my laptop after a weekend spent at Touba Diallo. More on that later. For right now, I would like to ponder over a discussion that I had with my mother. In short, she told me that she felt that I did not put put in enough effort into my appearance.The changes she suggested? Brighter colors, more ornamentation, and styled hair.

I replied, in a rare moment of saying exactly what's on my mind,with this rare gem: "If I was thin and white, would you feel I needed to make these changes?"



Im not sure if she was comparing you to a white woman though? maybe she just wants her daughter to look...nicer...? did you examine what she said objectively? Could you wear brighter colours? could you wear more ornamentation as she put it, or style your hair more?

 maybe she is pointing out something to you that you just havent noticed for yourself?
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Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:



This has nothing to do with being thin or being White. This is about how you feel about yourself – your self-esteem is in need of any overhaul.

I find it extremely hard to believe that your mother telling you to take care of your appearance would spark such a comment about White women? What? Your mother would expect that she would be addressing a White daughter? It sounds like you have thin, White women on the brain. Stop comparing yourself to White women.



I kinda agree
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Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

cant really relate but  in every article like this there is  a point were the person gives white people credit for being apathetic.  black people give me the side-eye but white people dont.  black people hate my dark skin but white people dont.  black people hate my hair texture but white people.  man, white people dont give a about you and im surprised how many people dont understand that compliments that come out of their mouths arent worth sh*t and nothing more than mere social niceties. stop giving them so much damn credit.



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I see what the article was saying. Zoe Kravitz style or that pics from just jared didn't come to mind but the pics above that did. 
 
 
 
These looks also came to mind.  These pics are from the article.  The black girl with the fro in these pics would prolly be considered pulled together, cute and all that by younger folks but older folks IMO would see that as sloppy...partially due to her hair. 
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^^^ While not for me, I don't consider any of those looks sloppy.

Afro chick can miss me with that huge coat, but the pic to the right of that is cute.

The people Pitty posted in the 1st pic on the previous page look kinda homeless.

Eta: With anything, there's people who pull it off better. However, there's a line for me. And the previous page is it for me.

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my interpretation of minimalist doesnt = hobo or sloppy.
i see it as jeans, tank/maxi dresses, sandals, un-fussy pumps, tailored pieces, etc... clean, simple, and neat. Not even trendy necessarily, but put together/chic
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a la these looks













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last pic wont show :(
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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

my interpretation of minimalist doesnt = hobo or sloppy.
i see it as jeans, tank/maxi dresses, sandals, un-fussy pumps, tailored pieces, etc... clean, simple, and neat. Not even trendy necessarily, but put together/chic
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a la these looks




I actually think she is wrong for this. I have nothing against wife beaters, but not to go out on the town.
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Originally posted by beautiful-stranger beautiful-stranger wrote:

Ya'll know I didn't write this right? Link here: http://groupthink.jezebel.com/<wbr>the-politics-of-looking-<wbr>sloppy-1484332735/@laurabeck



So ... why did you PRETEND to write the article?

False person.
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