| zsazsa wrote:|
This never ending media sh*t of BW hard up,thirsty for men and other foolishness. It needs to stop.Now. Immediately. It ain't hard out here for us like some try to make it.
*The light skin/dark skin debate
*Ride-or-die mentality/low self-esteem
All of this!
Even on here, we have a tendency to focus threads on the "plight of black women" and divisive issues like "exotical" and "light vs. dark" when those are things that quite frankly only WE are henpecking over but in truth have no bearing on how well you will succeed in life.
And as someone else mentioned, the threads that get the most views are usually of the ignorant nature including: let's bash black women/men, let's see who's prettier based on skin tone, how "black" can you be if you're not dark enough, I'm "exotical" (I hate this ignorant word) so I'm "better" and "special" although I've done nothing else but been born with genes that left me looking this way, etc.
The only caveat I would add to this is that in theory, a "ride or die" mentality isn't necessarily a bad thing. But it depends on who you're willing to do that for. If you're "ride or die" for some bum who isn't about anything, you're a fail. But supporting and helping your qualified (as in has proven himself to be of worth and worthy of your love and affections) mate are things that inherently both partners are supposed to do for the other. And if you are in fact Christian, it is equal to being the Proverbial woman.
A bit of a SN but I do feel that often enough many black women especially make the assumption that being supportive of and helpful to a man (regardless of race) equals weakness or being considered "lessor" or a subordinate to him. Not so at all if you're in the right relationship. One should have the strengths that the other might initially lack. And both should be encouraging each other.
Sorry for the long rant.