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Hmmm I have to admit I did not read all of this but I will say I'm light and I never knew there was an issue between all the shades aside from pale white and all the other shades .

Growing up my friends were of every color and background. When I started reading on this board is when I found out there is animosity between light skin and dark skin and that light skin apparently to some, gets better treatment.
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Of course some people just don't like you....I'm the middle of the roader and she both sides of the struggle...I just think no ones struggle is bigger than the other.
 
I don't like the dissmissiveness when light people want to talk about their ish..
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Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

Its the same way with guys…The scale is smaller though.
Society just puts less pressure on our looks and more pressure on our earning potential.


 
 
LS black men seem to have it harder to me
 
as a LS black woman I definitely try to fight the ignorance thats usually in my favor. Light-skinned men are def seen as more feminine, punkish, sissy, whatever.
 
My lil brother tries to be so hard but hears "your light skin is showing" all the time. My uncle came over my mom's house last night and asked where he was. I told him that he's in the bathroom and unc was like, "of course his lil light ass in the bathroom...probably taking off his makeup!!!" so weak.
 
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Originally posted by AmiliaCabral AmiliaCabral wrote:

I'm very light and have 4B hair. Everybody says that's a FAIL lol



LOL You sound like my nephew's ex.  She's mixed, her hair is very course (She's a hairdresser), meanwhile her daughter by my nephew whose mother is mixed has long silky curls all down her back.   She's always like WTF is up with that??  I'm such a loser.

Her Daddy is Jamaican though so his genes obviously took over the hair battle. 
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Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

Rummy I agree

I have a light bright sister and I've shared her struggle so to speak

She turns red whenever someone refers to her as "bright". She jumps for joy when summer comes because she gets a tan.

I can compliment her skin and she looks so uncomfy :-(
Like, girl you look radiant. And she'll look pained and give me a weak "thanks".

This is my older sis. It frustrates me that she feels inferior over something beyond her control.
Actually, it pisses me off. I want her to be in love with herself just as much as the next person of color.

It's definitely an odd topic among our community, there are no clear winners. This isn't a competition nor should it ever have been to begin with.


I think the balancing act with being light skin is feeling just as good in your skin without upsetting someone else's insecurities. Chile. I can't imagine juggling that. Lmao

Especially as a brazen self confident woman. Turn down for what yet still be humble bout some damn skin. It's a mind fukk.

the thread can be shut down now
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My daughter looks Mexican and our last name adds to the fuel.  Her Great, Great Grandfather on dad's side was Mexican though so we got stuck with the name. 

My mom is a quarter black.  She could pass for yt and I'm brown skinted.  She has some serious colorism issues but that's a whole other thread. 

My brother is light as fck and his kids are half Filipino.  One of his son's is very militant and he hates yt ppl so much and they CONSTANTLY ask him his race.  His response is "Im black you stoopid ass cracka".  I tried to tell him not to get so mad but he is super angry about the whole thing.  He said "Auntie, its not my fault yt ppl are fckn retarded!Angry"  He's really nice to black ppl about it.  I hope he calms down like my brother finally did.  They gone put my baby in jail for going off on yt ppl.

And thank goodness for my DS daddy cause he saved me from having to deal with the issue on either scale.  Not ls or ds but the whole thing really breaks my heart all around. 

The (white) debil strikes again.   


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Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

Its the same way with guys…The scale is smaller though.
Society just puts less pressure on our looks and more pressure on our earning potential.


And toughness.  My brother was extreme with his hostility as a young boy/man.  He wanted niccahs to KNOW he wasn't soft.  They thought he was because he was damn near white with "good" hair. 
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Kfoxx... My brother has the opposite experience and he has a mild complex in his youth about his complexion.
People would get all cross eyed when they saw my dark skin brother with a white looking father. Luckily, my parents taught him to love who he was and my grandmother (who was extremely fair herself) showered him with extra attention because she saw how he would get treated and how others were praised in the family because of their lighter skin tones.
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Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

Kfoxx... My brother has the opposite experience and he has a mild complex in his youth about his complexion.
People would get all cross eyed when they saw my dark skin brother with a white looking father. Luckily, my parents taught him to love who he was and my grandmother (who was extremely fair herself) showered him with extra attention because she saw how he would get treated and how others were praised in the family because of their lighter skin tones.


Heart your grandmother for this!  I can't tell you how many fair skinned black grandmothers treat their ds grandchildren like nappy headed abominations.  My mother falls into that category unfortunately.  She treated my daughter and my brother's sons with a lot of preference and it made everyone else with darker children resent ours. 

The struggle is real on both sides. 
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Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

Its the same way with guys…The scale is smaller though.
Society just puts less pressure on our looks and more pressure on our earning potential.


And toughness.  My brother was extreme with his hostility as a young boy/man.  He wanted niccahs to KNOW he wasn't soft.  They thought he was because he was damn near white with "good" hair. 

You're right
I guess the scale isn't "smaller"
Its just a different scale.


Edited by OoDles O - Mar 26 2014 at 1:54pm
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