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lmao @ nala. girl, aint nobody said nothing bout not taking care of your skin. i'm talking bout not making it a focus and getting caught all up in all the sh*t that goes along with it. 
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

lemme get real. 

i have issues with dating because i tend to run into dudes who eventually make a spectacle of themselves by bringing up my skin tone; asking if i'm mixed with something or another. 

i hate that sh*t with a passion. 

makes me wonder if they are interested in who i am and all i encompass as a black woman or whether they view my slight lightness as an attribute; making me that much closer to their ideal woman--which is white. 

this is crippling my dating for real. i side eye every kneegrow who approaches me for that reason alone. 


Me all the way! I have a guy friend that always talks about his love of white women. When he tried to pursue me and I ignored tf outta him he said he only liked me cause I was light skinned. like, even though you know we aren't compatible and this wouldn't work out, you were gonna try anyway and probably destroy a good friendship b/c you want a light skin girl I side eye any dude that talks about my skin color.

Me and him have cussed the dog out of each other before over his white/light skin obsession. His dumbass doesn't understand why that's a slave complex and instead just think black girls are jealous . I have no issues with interracial dating, but this fool irks my nerve with going after chicks b/c of their skin tone. He's passed up some black queens before to fuqq with some white girls that look like they've taken a sack of nickels to the mug.

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he sounds like a straight buffoon. why are you friends with him?
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I could understand why it might be uncomfortable to mention yourself as light skinned if you're even anywhere close to what some people think of as the border. And some people are quick to  to tell someone "um no..you're NOT light skinned" ... (just like I'm telling you you are lol. )


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I shouldn't be uncomfortable calling myself light skin tho...UGH...
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I usually laugh at the typical mixed girl struggle because they’re  dramatic and I can’t relate. Not to say their feelings aren’t valid, but anyway.

 My actual struggle is I identify as black and feel that this is my group. However, the obvious way to identify a member of this group is by physical appearance, which I apparently don’t have according to most…so this is a “problem” I deal with everyday. I’m in no way miserable or depressed about it, but it definitely is ever-present in my interactions with people, my almost paranoid anticipation of racist remarks by unsuspecting white people etc.

Imagine being black.. but no one can tell. Not even like people with albinism, because they're still clearly black. But imagine your visible blackness being very faint or invisible to some

To further complicate things, I’m very pro-black and liberal. I don’t have much interaction with white people so it isn’t typically a problem in that area.. but I somehow seem to come across a lot of black men who have views I disagree with (ex. “White people aren’t holding us back, slavery is over, no excuses;  I’m obsessed with light skinned women just my mama is semi-light, not cause of society; f*ck your pro black struggle, I’m for the advancement of everyone"). Now, outside of BHM, I can be quite argumentative, and so I confront them about these views , but I think they often don’t hear me. Like, even though I’ve identified myself as black to them by this point, imagine a girl who you previously thought was white/Mexican telling you why your thoughts on your community are flawed. I get it.


There are also things I can’t do/say around people until I’m confident they know I’m black.

Lol there are a lot of ways it affects my daily experience, but I'll stop here. In the end, I'm still level headed and happy.

It seems that the girls who want to identify as white, are clearly mixed,  and were raised in white towns are the ones with the more extreme issues



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Lb, do people who don't know that you're black look at you weird when you say the n word? lol If you say it, I mean.
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Originally posted by Alias_Avi Alias_Avi wrote:

Oh the struggle


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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

he sounds like a straight buffoon. why are you friends with him?

For a while we weren't talking tbh. But despite his fcked up views he is truly a good friend. We don't see eye to eye but I can't dispute his loyalty to me.

&& he's slowly learning that these yt women aren't the creme de la creme. He's been leaving them alone and now he has a beautiful chocolate gf he worships!

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Light skin chicks apparently suck.. Not in the good sense in bed and and are lazy

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