I usually laugh at the typical mixed girl struggle because
they’re dramatic and I can’t relate. Not to say their feelings aren’t valid,
My actual struggle is I identify as black and feel that this
is my group. However, the obvious way to identify a member of this group is by
physical appearance, which I apparently don’t have according to most…so this is
a “problem” I deal with everyday. I’m in no way miserable or
depressed about it, but it definitely is ever-present in my interactions with
people, my almost paranoid anticipation of racist remarks by unsuspecting white
Imagine being black.. but no one can tell. Not even like people with albinism, because they're still clearly black. But imagine your visible blackness being very faint or invisible to some
To further complicate things, I’m very pro-black and
liberal. I don’t have much interaction with white people so it isn’t typically
a problem in that area.. but I somehow seem to come across a lot of black men
who have views I disagree with (ex. “White people aren’t holding us back,
slavery is over, no excuses; I’m
obsessed with light skinned women just my mama is semi-light, not cause of
society; f*ck your pro black struggle, I’m for the advancement of everyone").
Now, outside of BHM, I can be quite argumentative, and so I confront them about
these views , but I think they often don’t hear me.
Like, even though I’ve identified myself as black to them by this point,
imagine a girl who you previously thought was white/Mexican telling you why
your thoughts on your community are flawed. I get it.
There are also things I can’t
do/say around people until I’m confident they know I’m black.
Lol there are a lot of ways it affects my daily experience, but I'll stop here. In the end, I'm still level headed and happy.
seems that the girls who want to identify as white, are clearly mixed,
and were raised in white towns are the ones with the more extreme