No, I've never been on that position .. though I know a girl that was. (They got together but it ended baddly).
IMO if there is something 'there' he should have made a real move .. then and there, especailly since you both agree that your getting together is always ill-timed. What's he waiting for?
Instead you cuddle and kiss a bit and then he tells you ... you he will always come back to you? What? After the next relationship fails .. he will come back to you? And he tells you he won't always be doing the chasing? So he expects YOU to chase him? If you want him ... you DEFINTELY cannot chase him! Nooooo that will mess up the balance of power. I don't know why he told you that.
Something ain't right here.
I think he just likes to keep you in the back drawer in some way ... so that if everything else falls through (and he is actually predicting that IT WILL fall through with other women HINT. HINT!) he can always come back .. to you. The fallback girl
This is CERTAINLY a powerless situation for you to be in!
I sense the prelude to a 'cheating' situation ... on the horizon. (shrugs) Just feels like it. Like he will up suddenly and announce he is getting married (but still be thinking you and him will get together .. ahh one day). That's just a fun game he is playing. It's nice to have someone mooning after you...
IMO ... I would make a sincere go at your current relationship and JUST be friends with this back door kind of guy. Put this guy aside romantically because I think he wants to have his cake .. and eat it to. When he sees that you are not gonna chase him (DUH!) he has to make a grown up decision.
So if he DOES have a sincere interest in you, he will stop seeing that other women ..step up like a man .. and make an honest effort with you in a real relationship.
It's that simple. (don't fool yourself into believing that it's too complicated for that to happen!)
Edited by Printer_Ink - Sep 23 2013 at 5:44pm