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Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

I understand what he's saying. I think what might have rubbed people the wrong way is this line about a man giving you his name and his inheritance, as if the mother has no part in providing that inheritance.

But what he said about a man providing a child with a sense of emotional security is key. A POSITIVE ROLE MODEL, that is. Because you have children out there who have both parents in their life but if the male figure is negative because of his own unresolved issues, that can do just as much harm as if the male figure was never present in the first place.
I agree with this.
And would like to add, I just believe the more the merrier regardless of gender. Two moms, two dads, uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, family friends, etc. should all try to be positive influences on kids.
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Father and mother the duality like yin and yang. You can't have one without the other like darkness and light and etc. You need both and with positive energy in unison. That's the difference.
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

I don't know why this is even debatable. I commend single mothers. But it takes two people to make a child for a reason. Women aren't MEANT to do it alone. 


Pretty much.
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I wonder if the people who believe men can't be monogamous due to "biology" also believe this.
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Originally posted by _ConcreteRose_ _ConcreteRose_ wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

I understand what he's saying. I think what might have rubbed people the wrong way is this line about a man giving you his name and his inheritance, as if the mother has no part in providing that inheritance.

But what he said about a man providing a child with a sense of emotional security is key. A POSITIVE ROLE MODEL, that is. Because you have children out there who have both parents in their life but if the male figure is negative because of his own unresolved issues, that can do just as much harm as if the male figure was never present in the first place.
I agree with this.
And would like to add, I just believe the more the merrier regardless of gender. Two moms, two dads, uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, family friends, etc. should all try to be positive influences on kids.
I can't see the video but i will go with this answer here.
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

I don't know why this is even debatable. I commend single mothers. But it takes two people to make a child for a reason. Women aren't MEANT to do it alone. 
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

Whoopi and the white woman's line of thinking is why our generation and generations to come will be screwed. People really think a house without a male figurehead should be cool. Things happen for a reason, sure. But in no way should it be negated that a responsible male figure should be a staple in raising children. Case closed.
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

I don't know why this is even debatable. I commend single mothers. But it takes two people to make a child for a reason. Women aren't MEANT to do it alone. 


Pretty much.
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Originally posted by Samoneisthebest Samoneisthebest wrote:

I don't agree. His argument is hetero-normative and based on people sticking to prescribed gender roles.

If it opened it up to children needing a parent with more stereotypical masculine attributes to become a well rounded individual, then maybe I could get with it.
I agree. I think it's antiquated for people to still believe this in 2014. 

Like really. 

Interestingly enough, I know more stable men who DID NOT have a father in their life, than those who did. The presence of another penis in a house doesn't equal stability. It doesn't. There are a plethora of men who are in the home and are BAD influences on their children. I wish people would stop with that bullsheit. That's that ass backwards logic that has single mothers thinking they should keep a dude around or deal with certain things because "it's my child's father". So what? 

I think it's important for a child to have both a male and female positive figure around them period. Children should see positive figures. That can be a teacher, a coach, anybody. 

The discussion shouldn't be about a father's "role" because regardless to what Terry says, there is no "role" that one gender can fill that another can't. It's about having your children around positive influences and ones that represent them. 
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if this was switched and we were talking about mothers, no one would question the importance of a mother's role


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