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@bubblyboo, I can't say I blame her. When the more 'fun-loving' girls fall, they fall hard and for her to be a housewife, and engaged at that, it shows she really cared.

I'd have found out any food allergies he has, and used them.
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@bubbly boo... woooow!! i hope she finds her self worth again. no man should make you want to change your ways for the worse.. no man! it proves he has authority and control over your being.
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Originally posted by Chey Chey wrote:

@bubbly boo... woooow!! i hope she finds her self worth again. no man should make you want to change your ways for the worse.. no man! it proves he has authority and control over your being.
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So a recent drama with a close friend(not really ratchet but still drama filled). Warning: It is lonegr than Domin's hair...

SO my girl Chatte had a bf(hereon called Spongebob) of 2-3 years. When they first got together, I thought she'd have been cautious when dating him as he had lied to her about having a child as his son was born either a little before or after they got together but he didn't let her know. I was the one who informed her. So Now she is very giving, committed and emotional(to the point of stupidity-yes I've told her this) and also easy to fall in love so I wasn't surprised when she chose to stick with him. She would go to his house(he lives with his grandmother and father-in my country it isn't really seen as a bad thing to still live with family as an adult) and clean, wash and iron for him on a regular basis-when I heard that part I quite emphatically said "hell no, him have two hand, don't?!!"; and other housework things best reserved for long term common law live in relationships, fiances and husbands. So sometime last October/November she started telling me that he is acting strange. Me, through my years of being a girly tomboy/commitment-phobe recognized the signs but knowing the kind of person she is I had to be nice(but I still told her). You know the usual, arguing, blaming her for his being distant, accusing her of cheating, says he has a friend at the mobile company monitoring her for calls etc. So after having told her that something is up and he is treating her crappy along with my on/off bf warning her that Spongebob who he used to hang with as kids is a manipulative coolie(aka Indian) brat, she still sticks around. Roy(my on-off again bf) later confides that Spongebob is cheating on Chatte, not just with one person but with more than 3 and quite frankly wants to break up with her but Chatte is such a hanger-onner that she refuses to take hints. Me, Niki, being the good friend tries to tell her this for the next 2 months at least once a month when they have their arguments but noooooo, Chatte plays stubborn and says he isn't cheating, he loves her blah blah blah. She refuses to listen so I shut up and lay back. Since Spongebob tries to say she is lazy, doesn't want to work etc I set her up with jobs to no avail(but she tried).

Fast forward to February/March of this year and Chatte's distress texts are getting more frequent. This means something is up and even me on the sidelines can see it. She realizes that he always hides his phone when she is around, takes forever to answer her or refuses to call back when he is supposed to. Spongebob unfortunately gets into a car crash one day. Turns out he was driving without a license and the car belonged to a female friend of his who he was counselling as her husband was beating her(Roy's snarky comment was Spongebob is screwing the chick so that contributed to her husband beating her). During this time Chatte spends more time at Spongebob's place, helping him to recuperate and doing odd chores for him. So one day she manages to get a hold of his phone while she is doing her maid duties at his place. What does she see? Oh, just texts from at least 3 different chicks, saying 'I love you', and that they are horny etc. The most telling text that I would have went ballistic on him if I were in her shoes? "You came inside me today and now I have to get the morning after pill". Now I don't care how much she wanted to hide from the truth, but that would have been a big wake up call. They argue, she cries, she avoids him for two weeks. During this time, she doesn't know whether or not to break up with him and she decides not to. Why, she needs more proof(yes, cuss, kick and scream because I wanted to smash my phone in the wall when I got that text). Alas, they reconcile and during this time, Spongebob attempts to get with a mutual friend JayCee. JayCee knowing Chatte, saves the note with Spongebob's number and shows it to Chatte. Chatte is shocked but still says this is not enough proof. During her small split with Spongebob, I told her of all I knew about his activities-the cheating stories, the truth behind the crash, the women he gets with, Roy's suspicions about women taking caree of Spngebob and that Spongebob may not be actually working anymore and also a potential 2nd child on the way. Did I mention another friend saw Spongebob  in her community coming from a chick's place? Again Chatte said, 'not enough proof'.

Spongebob also suffers from fainting spells, blackouts especially when stressed and he drinks or smokes too much. During one of those episodes, he ends up back in the hospital and my dear sweet naive friend goes to look for him, carry food and clothes etc. Wait, Chatte called his phone when she heard of said episode and got a chick who told her she is also Spongebob's gf and is pregnant for him. Spongebob tells her the girl was just playing with her. One day Chatte has to get clothes for him because his grandmother is going out of the parish and she, Chatte  is the only person the grandmother trusts with a housekey outside of her family. While collecting his clothes, she notices a phone that isn't the one that she knows of. She then proceeds to turn it on and search it, finding more texts and more evidence of a 2nd child. When she gets to the hospital, they argue some more. Another day while visiting him with his grandma, she notices him trying to hurry them along. She puts grandma on a taxi and then doubles back to the ward, in time to see a chick hugging him. She goes in, he acts quiet around her. Chatte also sees the chick  giving Spongebob cash and then goes to push him to his bed. She whispers if that is one of his whores and he gets pissed, and attempts to roll the chair back on her. All in all, this roller-coaster of arguing goes on for a few more weeks and he avoids her after coming out of the hospital. One day when she called him for them to meet so she could finally break it off, he tells her he isn't in the area. Chatte and I sat talking and she notices a short Indian person coming around the area where we were. He calls, and after mutual cursing he hangs up. We then leave only for her to see him with a girl in skimpy clothing that he wouldn't allow Chatte to wear.

To conclude this helluva post, the next week me and Chatte were in the same spot when she spots him again. She then tries to call him to no avail. After that she walks further down and gets the shock of her life when she sees Spongebob's coolie behind screwing some chick. She cries, finally gets her proof and I tell her be thankful she didn't get pregnant, married, abused or a disease from him. Sadly Chatte is now messing around with a man who lives with a babymother and child, and who I think won't leave babymother for her. Me and Jaycee have warned her that if babymother comes after her, we don't know her and that she is not to get too attached.

The end.
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@ummmok I didn't know she put all that junk in his food and drugged him until she called me crying telling me to come save her. At that point I thought that they had just got into another fight. As I was on my over there she was sending me the text messages and emails she found. But when I got there thats when I saw everything and she told me everything.

But yea she really went over the top. I she put other stuff in his food, worms, grass, dirt, sleeping pills and other stuff Dead. IDK why. I think she was just trying to hurt him as much as he hurt her. I'm glad she called me because if I wasn't there, there's no telling what could have happened. Just goes to show how people react in a fit of anger or sadness. We laugh about it now. But dude just won't quit. He calls her, me and other mutual friends just to talk to her. She literally walked away from the relationship that morning and never turned back. Never sought out closure or even talked to him. She didn't even drain the account they shared. She took what was hers and that was that. I admire her for that. Most women (I think I would have too) would have kept in contact or would have done something with the money in the account to get revenge or to get closure or whatever we seek when things end that way. She has not winked at the thought of talking to him, seeing him or anything. The extremes that he has gone to just to talk to her is borderline harrassment.


What made me think of this is just 2 days ago, he hit her up on facebook and sent her like 8 messages airing everything out about what he was doing so its now years later are we really finding out what she didn't exactly know about. He was saying about how he was in love with her but he was afraid. His dad didn't particularly care for her and his friends were in his head about marrying her with a questionable past like she has so he just did his thing and was "planning" on stopping before the wedding Dead. Like all of this was going to sway her or make her change her mind about ignoring him. He just won't let it go and this happened like 3 years ago. She said that she is a ho and a happy one and plans on keeping it that way Confused. her exact words are "love... that sh*t is for the birds. I see how heartache feels and its not for me" She truly is a unique individual. But I love her tho.
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@ niki story.....Its sad what some women will put up with when they feel they need a man...smfh!
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Originally posted by blah54 blah54 wrote:

my first relationship was with this guy that was much older than me i was 17 when i met him and he was 23 and it was a big deal to me cause this was my first. Well we had a great relationship in the begeining then soon or later his house got burn down during christmas due to a tree that caught on fire in his apartment building. so he left that place and moved in into his own apartment and i use to go there time to time during the day to spend time with him. at this time i had a curfew so i couldnt really sleep over or spend late nights the ost i would spend with him was the evenings. Well when we did see each other it would be during the day and he would drop me off with my car to work and go to his i felt so bad so i would help him out at times. well come to findout he was using me and my car instead of looking for jobs and going back to school to get his ged like he was telling me. He lyed and picking up the other girl he was messing around with. Well i came to his house one time after a big fight cause i suspected he was f**king around we made up that day and we were about to have sex in his room and come to find out the girl got of work early and came to the house. She was pissed she started yelling put my purse outside the house and told me to get out of her house. i was like this aint your house this is jerrys house come to find out it was her house and he was free loading off of her like he did with me and my car and money. i left my panties in the room we was in and went straight home with no panties lol the next day was the first day of college and he worked at a supermarket it was the only 24/7 market around town so i had to get some last minute supplies. 

he had some nerve to laugh and said oh here is your panties coming out of his pocket. i was like so embarrassing because he had a smirk on his face without being really sorry looking about it. I mean this was the worst relationship ever. 

One time he went to work and showed his coworkers this naked video i sent to him on his phone when that video was sent for his eyes only. another time he drove me to the mall and stated that he had to go home and do something and was coming right back and he never came back to pick me up had to get a cab ride home. Yea this dude put me through so much pain i was so hurt so glad to get out of the cloud on this one. He is the reason why i do not spend any more money on men because he is the main reason why i was in credit card debt because i felt so bad that his apartment was on fire i would pay for things because he didnt have much. come to find out he was using everyone all his friends so everyone stop talking to him when the truth really come out about the type of person he is free loading off of everyone. karma is a bitch it came back for his though 


Shoulda put him and those who saw the video in jail because that was technically child pornography. Wink

HAHA. HOW'S THAT FOR KARMA~?
ya girl get his ass! Hug he's an asshole n worthless!!!!


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wow why am i just discovering this thread??

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Originally posted by niki_p niki_p wrote:

So a recent drama with a close friend(not really ratchet but still drama filled). Warning: It is lonegr than Domin's hair...

SO my girl Chatte had a bf(hereon called Spongebob) of 2-3 years. When they first got together, I thought she'd have been cautious when dating him as he had lied to her about having a child as his son was born either a little before or after they got together but he didn't let her know. I was the one who informed her. So Now she is very giving, committed and emotional(to the point of stupidity-yes I've told her this) and also easy to fall in love so I wasn't surprised when she chose to stick with him. She would go to his house(he lives with his grandmother and father-in my country it isn't really seen as a bad thing to still live with family as an adult) and clean, wash and iron for him on a regular basis-when I heard that part I quite emphatically said "hell no, him have two hand, don't?!!"; and other housework things best reserved for long term common law live in relationships, fiances and husbands. So sometime last October/November she started telling me that he is acting strange. Me, through my years of being a girly tomboy/commitment-phobe recognized the signs but knowing the kind of person she is I had to be nice(but I still told her). You know the usual, arguing, blaming her for his being distant, accusing her of cheating, says he has a friend at the mobile company monitoring her for calls etc. So after having told her that something is up and he is treating her crappy along with my on/off bf warning her that Spongebob who he used to hang with as kids is a manipulative coolie(aka Indian) brat, she still sticks around. Roy(my on-off again bf) later confides that Spongebob is cheating on Chatte, not just with one person but with more than 3 and quite frankly wants to break up with her but Chatte is such a hanger-onner that she refuses to take hints. Me, Niki, being the good friend tries to tell her this for the next 2 months at least once a month when they have their arguments but noooooo, Chatte plays stubborn and says he isn't cheating, he loves her blah blah blah. She refuses to listen so I shut up and lay back. Since Spongebob tries to say she is lazy, doesn't want to work etc I set her up with jobs to no avail(but she tried).

Fast forward to February/March of this year and Chatte's distress texts are getting more frequent. This means something is up and even me on the sidelines can see it. She realizes that he always hides his phone when she is around, takes forever to answer her or refuses to call back when he is supposed to. Spongebob unfortunately gets into a car crash one day. Turns out he was driving without a license and the car belonged to a female friend of his who he was counselling as her husband was beating her(Roy's snarky comment was Spongebob is screwing the chick so that contributed to her husband beating her). During this time Chatte spends more time at Spongebob's place, helping him to recuperate and doing odd chores for him. So one day she manages to get a hold of his phone while she is doing her maid duties at his place. What does she see? Oh, just texts from at least 3 different chicks, saying 'I love you', and that they are horny etc. The most telling text that I would have went ballistic on him if I were in her shoes? "You came inside me today and now I have to get the morning after pill". Now I don't care how much she wanted to hide from the truth, but that would have been a big wake up call. They argue, she cries, she avoids him for two weeks. During this time, she doesn't know whether or not to break up with him and she decides not to. Why, she needs more proof(yes, cuss, kick and scream because I wanted to smash my phone in the wall when I got that text). Alas, they reconcile and during this time, Spongebob attempts to get with a mutual friend JayCee. JayCee knowing Chatte, saves the note with Spongebob's number and shows it to Chatte. Chatte is shocked but still says this is not enough proof. During her small split with Spongebob, I told her of all I knew about his activities-the cheating stories, the truth behind the crash, the women he gets with, Roy's suspicions about women taking caree of Spngebob and that Spongebob may not be actually working anymore and also a potential 2nd child on the way. Did I mention another friend saw Spongebob  in her community coming from a chick's place? Again Chatte said, 'not enough proof'.

Spongebob also suffers from fainting spells, blackouts especially when stressed and he drinks or smokes too much. During one of those episodes, he ends up back in the hospital and my dear sweet naive friend goes to look for him, carry food and clothes etc. Wait, Chatte called his phone when she heard of said episode and got a chick who told her she is also Spongebob's gf and is pregnant for him. Spongebob tells her the girl was just playing with her. One day Chatte has to get clothes for him because his grandmother is going out of the parish and she, Chatte  is the only person the grandmother trusts with a housekey outside of her family. While collecting his clothes, she notices a phone that isn't the one that she knows of. She then proceeds to turn it on and search it, finding more texts and more evidence of a 2nd child. When she gets to the hospital, they argue some more. Another day while visiting him with his grandma, she notices him trying to hurry them along. She puts grandma on a taxi and then doubles back to the ward, in time to see a chick hugging him. She goes in, he acts quiet around her. Chatte also sees the chick  giving Spongebob cash and then goes to push him to his bed. She whispers if that is one of his whores and he gets pissed, and attempts to roll the chair back on her. All in all, this roller-coaster of arguing goes on for a few more weeks and he avoids her after coming out of the hospital. One day when she called him for them to meet so she could finally break it off, he tells her he isn't in the area. Chatte and I sat talking and she notices a short Indian person coming around the area where we were. He calls, and after mutual cursing he hangs up. We then leave only for her to see him with a girl in skimpy clothing that he wouldn't allow Chatte to wear.

To conclude this helluva post, the next week me and Chatte were in the same spot when she spots him again. She then tries to call him to no avail. After that she walks further down and gets the shock of her life when she sees Spongebob's coolie behind screwing some chick. She cries, finally gets her proof and I tell her be thankful she didn't get pregnant, married, abused or a disease from him. Sadly Chatte is now messing around with a man who lives with a babymother and child, and who I think won't leave babymother for her. Me and Jaycee have warned her that if babymother comes after her, we don't know her and that she is not to get too attached.

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I would not communicate with her anymore. She's too much drama and too much stupid
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CHATTE NEEDS SOME FUCKING HELP.
I facepalmed soooo many times while reading that clusterfuck of thirst and stupidity.
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