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Originally posted by tasty0619 tasty0619 wrote:

I would take her to my gyn, and talk to her...maybe even take her to a therapist.

Also, ya'll should have a talk with all the girls about STDs and the not so fun side of sex with plenty of gory pics. Encourage them to use condoms, and since they may already be doing it behind your back without them, maybe buy them condoms.

NVM I just refreshed and saw she has herpes Cry
We talked about it all. The STD's with pictures. One my sisters and I childhood friends has AIDS and we spoke on that and STD's in great detail. Some of the girls are very open about having sex so their mom's have them on BC and we also stressed the importance of carrying condoms as it shouldn't solely be the other parties responsibility. My oldest sister made the best analogy: Sex is like driving on the road, not only do you have to drive for everybody else you have to drive for yourself. lmao. It was funny then.Confused
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Originally posted by tasty0619 tasty0619 wrote:

How is her relationship with her father? 

You don't have to answer but that may be the cause of her attention seeking behavior.
Her mom and dad are still married. From what I see on the outside he's very loving and caring with her. He calls the wife the queen and his daughter the princess. He doesn't know yet.Unhappy
 
I think that will break his heart.
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damn teenage girl with involved parents still getting into mess? who is there hope for?
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My hypothetical daughter/s:

I would take her and all the other girls straight to the doctor for DEPO shots STAT!!!. I don't trust the pills and teenage girls forget to take them. We need her going to college and not standing in line for Similac. I'm not asking any questions because teenagers lie and cry at the same damn time.

My next move after the shot has been administered is to start talking. She may want to open up after a while if mom continues to probe. Mom has to be a friend at this point and not a mama.

Convo starts: Baby girl I know you gotta a boyfriend or someone your "talking to" (do they still use this term) I did in HS. Anyways I know you got a BF and I want us to have a relationship where we can be open. I'm always here for you. If you're having sex I need you to wrap it up. I don't care how good he looks, what he promises and how good he is. Wrap it up!! I need you focused and not out here trying to destroy your future getting pregnant. If you don't feel comfortable talking to me then go to aunty (TiTi) or one of your younger aunties and feel free to talk to them.

Mama should not absolutely NOT tell her that you saw the conversations on her phone. That will lbe the beginning of deleting text before coming home. HTH's
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Sh!t!!! Thats a trifecta for yo ass. Chlamydia, The Herps, and an abortion... Im speechless. And Im sure your friend feels helpless. What do you do when you've done all you can and your child still goes awry??? It truly takes a village, and before this little girl becomes "Another Black Girl Lost," yall are going to have to pull together even stronger, and even tighter and see to it, that she realizes that she has people that truly love her. That you all (both the adults and the peers) want the best for her, and are not going to judge her but instead empower her with the understanding that she only has one body, and protecting it needs to be paramount. Its but for God's grace that she scathed away with Herpes and not AIDS (though I wouldnt want any of it)... I dont want her to develop thoughts that she's worthless because she has something incurable, so it important to keep that girl and her family lifted in prayer and hope for the best.
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Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

My hypothetical daughter/s:

I would take her and all the other girls straight to the doctor for DEPO shots STAT!!!. I don't trust the pills and teenage girls forget to take them. We need her going to college and not standing in line for Similac. I'm not asking any questions because teenagers lie and cry at the same damn time.

My next move after the shot has been administered is to start talking. She may want to open up after a while if mom continues to probe. Mom has to be a friend at this point and not a mama.

Convo starts: Baby girl I know you gotta a boyfriend or someone your "talking to" (do they still use this term) I did in HS. Anyways I know you got a BF and I want us to have a relationship where we can be open. I'm always here for you. If you're having sex I need you to wrap it up. I don't care how good he looks, what he promises and how good he is. Wrap it up!! I need you focused and not out here trying to destroy your future getting pregnant. If you don't feel comfortable talking to me then go to aunty (TiTi) or one of your younger aunties and feel free to talk to them.

Mama should not absolutely NOT tell her that you saw the conversations on her phone. That will lbe the beginning of deleting text before coming home. HTH's
None of them are on pills. Some of the girls can't remember left from right. lmao
 
The first thing I said was DON'T TELL HER!!! She'll become a master at hiding EVERYTHING!!!
 
Great advice!!!Clap
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Sh!t!!! Thats a trifecta for yo ass. Chlamydia, The Herps, and an abortion... Im speechless. And Im sure your friend feels helpless. What do you do when you've done all you can and your child still goes awry??? It truly takes a village, and before this little girl becomes "Another Black Girl Lost," yall are going to have to pull together even stronger, and even tighter and see to it, that she realizes that she has people that truly love her. That you all (both the adults and the peers) want the best for her, and are not going to judge her but instead empower her with the understanding that she only has one body, and protecting it needs to be paramount. Its but for God's grace that she scathed away with Herpes and not AIDS (though I wouldnt want any of it)... I dont want her to develop thoughts that she's worthless because she has something incurable, so it important to keep that girl and her family lifted in prayer and hope for the best.
 
One thing that worries me is this: If the teen has it so mom can't/won't know with the clinic she can still do this when mom takes her to the dr. She hasn't told her about what she found, daughter doesn't know mom knows about her current condition. We told her to hold up on the confrontation.
 
The Dr. will ask the child (>13) if it's okay that the parent be present during the exam. I remember they did this with my daughter and I stared through her soul.
 
Did I mention I hate teenagers??
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Originally posted by mzmee mzmee wrote:

Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

My hypothetical daughter/s:

I would take her and all the other girls straight to the doctor for DEPO shots STAT!!!. I don't trust the pills and teenage girls forget to take them. We need her going to college and not standing in line for Similac. I'm not asking any questions because teenagers lie and cry at the same damn time.

My next move after the shot has been administered is to start talking. She may want to open up after a while if mom continues to probe. Mom has to be a friend at this point and not a mama.

Convo starts: Baby girl I know you gotta a boyfriend or someone your "talking to" (do they still use this term) I did in HS. Anyways I know you got a BF and I want us to have a relationship where we can be open. I'm always here for you. If you're having sex I need you to wrap it up. I don't care how good he looks, what he promises and how good he is. Wrap it up!! I need you focused and not out here trying to destroy your future getting pregnant. If you don't feel comfortable talking to me then go to aunty (TiTi) or one of your younger aunties and feel free to talk to them.

Mama should not absolutely NOT tell her that you saw the conversations on her phone. That will lbe the beginning of deleting text before coming home. HTH's
None of them are on pills. Some of the girls can't remember left from right. lmao
 
The first thing I said was DON'T TELL HER!!! She'll become a master at hiding EVERYTHING!!!
 
Great advice!!!Clap

That's why its recommended they all go on DEPO plus it helps with cramps and no periods. THEY NEED THIS. The poor girl is depressed. Check her computer history. She probably already did Google search on the STD's. I thought some forms of herpes were curable...no?
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Sigh... I'd want her out of my home because she's done too much and will only stop under her own terms. She's not willing to communicate and if she does, it's probably lies. I never know what to say when someone hypothetically has it all but is still not enough to keep them acting right. Take the phone away or get her a cell phone where u can only dial 911 or something.

It may be obv that I'm not a parent based on my reply lol
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Depo can further worsen depression and has a lot of negative side effects. And the worst thing is once injected it takes up to 3 months to get out of your system. If anything , try mirena or nuvaring. I'm just saying   
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