Teenage Issues

Her rotten friend was probably jealous of the love and success the girl had and planted bad seeds.

It almost happened to me, I had a ratchet friend from  ages 11 to 16 that would try to influence me to do bad stuff. She is a year older than i am and was always out with a boy or at a ratchet party with older people.

 Her mom was heavy into drugs and she lived with her grandmother, but her grandmother wasnt very motherly and kind of left her to grow up herself. She doesnt know who her real father is and always had to watch her younger siblings.

 Meanwhile I always was a star student, minded my manner with my parents (in public ) and adults loved me. My dad was severely against me hanging out with her but my mom was friends with her grandmother so naturally we did spend a significant amount of time together.

She would constantly try to make me feel uncool or like a lame b/c i wouldnt do the stuff she did like go on chat rooms and pretend to be older than she was and talk dirty to random guys on the internet.

She ended up having a baby at 16, didnt stay with the father. Dropped out of HS. I think she finished her GED not too long ago but she's moved several times to different places still living the ratchet life.

My dad and other people close to us during that time could see that she was jealous of what I had and were right to warn me of how she was.

Did your friend monitor the crowd she hangs out with?


Edited by eanaj5 - Jan 07 2013 at 12:46pm

JasmineE02 wrote: Sometimes clinics give discounts if they're low-income and there are local funds people can call.  Medicaid doesn't cover it.  A lot of private insurance do cover it, but many people are afraid of it showing up for the policy holder, so they come up with the cash on their own and pay out of pocket.  If her parents have given her a lot of things, students will pawn or sell stuff their parents won't miss.

Thanks Jas. I swear I was lost. I know I remember mom telling my sister (it's her friend, originally) that she had to give them insurance info and she called up to the school. So they have all of their insurance info on file already. All the student has to do is go to the clinic and state what they need???

ceme wrote: This kind of reminds me of a situation my brother had when he was 17. Parents talked and talked with him. They found out that talk is cheap. Action was needed.   Sometimes as parents we need to got to the extreme and just cut your losses and move.   A new environment can do wonders. I would also cut out all that extra curricular activity because those are privileges. She must earn that back. Instead have her do volunteer work at shelters for women or try and help out at an orphanage.

all good ideas. or involve her in a girls group at a church if they are religious, or maybe a big brothers big sisters program? idk if she's too old for it though.

Whatever the case she needs to know that she is still loved and accepted by her family regardless. People lie and hide things out of fear. She needs to feel safe in-spite of her mistakes.

I think mom should speak with her father and their pastor if they have one and come up with a plan of action from there, keeping in mind that the goal is to come to an understanding of what has happened and not to make her feel attacked, judged or embarrassed.

sugabanana wrote: PRnena wrote: Sorry suga lol. I'm just saying. Depo isn't the best bet. No birth control is 100% fool proof. It all depends on body chemistry Unfortunately there's only so much you can do to prevent these things from happening. I'm a teenager myself and I know that If she is really determined she will find a way. I don't think Mirena is recommended for teenagers... I know when I was in HS they recommeded it to the girls that had severe cramps from menstrual. Everyone is different. This is a tuff one OP. I would take thin hair and a thick boneded body from Depo over a baby while in highschool. Plus she already has STD's. Someone needs to inform the school so those nasty little slim fit jeaned boys don't spread it to all the girls in the school.

I'm 19 and my doctor said mirena is best because its low hormone and very effective and has less side effects. Getting mirena next month. :D. I've been on birth control since 13

PRnena wrote: Depo can further worsen depression and has a lot of negative side effects. And the worst thing is once injected it takes up to 3 months to get out of your system. If anything , try mirena or nuvaring. I'm just saying

yes...that's what happened to me.

idk if they would put a teen on mirena, it's more recommended for women who have already had a child. also, mirena is having a lot of legal issues, but there hasn't been a recall for it.

yes, no BC is 100% safe or effective, but I think pills are the safest are the way to go for teens