Okay, first this might be long. During reading this you might think I'm a dummy. LOL
***Coming out of a LONG relationship (7 years) with a closed off, non-emotional, or loving Gemini who cheated and messed up my mental and self esteem.
I'm a Cancer. I met this at work (I know) I wasn't looking for him at all. I was in my own world doing what I need to do and he comes in to do some work in my area. I didn't think much of him I wasn't in that mind frame. As I was training someone he continues to interrupt and ask questions pertaining to his job and if I knew where things were. I didn't think anything of it, he every now and then would make comments on the conversation I was having with the person I was training. We were laughing and all of a sudden I was like HELLO! I loved his voice (Deep, sexy). He finishes and goes back to his floor and I relized he had a nice walk (Sexy) I debated contacting him on our office chat and my other side took over and got some guts and sent him a message. We chated for the rest of the day laughing, he began the subtle flirting and getting to know each other. By the end of the day I was a little unsure but knew he was flirting. When I came back to work I waited for him to send the 1st message he didn't so I said oh well and sent one to him. We chated again all day, this continued for a few days that week. We laughed, flirted and he made sensual comments and it wasn't overtly sexual, just subtle hints. He asks questions about my personality, how I think, what I want in a man, in a relationship (All the getting to know you I'm intrested questions) He told me what he was looking for and it's the same as me, he asks if I know someone that fits and I said I might and he asks the same and said I know a guy and you'll love him. Then he asks if the girl I have in mind can come downstairs and meet him for a 15 min break. I was scared cause I was wondering if he was expecting someone else. (Yes. SMH) I went and he was friendly and I realized I like this dude, he is intelligent, funny, sexy and oozzes some kind of...appeal, swagger, aura, confidence, something. It's been a little busy at work and since then We really have not spoken on chat. I sent him a message on Thursday asking "how he felt about cooking" he never responded, then I sent a message on Friday after deciding that I would take someone else's advice and be straight forward and I said "I get off early, wanted to know if you wanna get a drink and catch up". He never responded also. By the way we've known each other about 3 weeks in total and this has been going on for 3 weeks.
So now I am stuck here trying to figure this out. Did he ever like me? Was it just flirtation? Did he loose intrest? Is he playing mind games? Or is he just not into me?
I research Taurus men and it says they like to be chased and are SLOW movers, and hate being rushed and tend to do the push and pull thing. What should I do, and how should I think? I am so confused.
I know this is long, sorry.