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I think about it from time to time. What stops me is my son.
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HD how are you this morning?

The problem with depression is....it never quite ...goes away...
I still battle with it, but its bearable...it doesnt consume me every living waking moment like in the past
having ...an anchor (campfire), has given me something to live for.
I cant even fathom not being here for her.



hearing people tell someone with depression to "cheer up" makes me sooo angry
And especially in our society...to be depressed is to be "weak" and to "LET things get you down".




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glad to hear you're doing better, girlie! stay strong
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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

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hearing people tell someone with depression to "cheer up" makes me sooo angry


Wildfire, don't get lost in semantics. The well wishes here are genuine. I'd venture to bet that not a single person who has commented here intended a glib "cheer up and get over it." We all know that depression can be multifaceted and not easily conquered.

Give your fellow BHM'ers the benefit of the doubt. We all know that BHM'ers can throw an azz under a bus, reverse, roll over that azz again, then ease on down the road if they feel like it. But such is not the case here.

Did you not see all the calls for PM's should anyone feel the need? That's real.

I personally love Tupac's Keep Ya Head Up. Have for years.
I used to play it after all the white people left for the evening, or at least had their office doors closed :)

One year, around Christmas time, I was so down in the mouth that it was pitiful. Security came by my office making their rounds.
One was a brother that I always spoke to and vice versa. He said "Hey Ms. Ragin. I think you dropped this earlier." I knew that was a lie since I'd been in that damned office 15 hours. But you know us black folk, we ain't gonna say a word in front of whitey until we know what's up.
He just slipped a brown bag outta his pocket and onto my desk and kept going. White boy didn't even look around.

When they left I opened it and saw a ham sandwich, and note and a mix tape. The note said "We're all so proud of you. Keep ya head up."

I burst out crying cause I was tired as hayle and on the verge of quitting. That helped me immeasurably. I still exchange Christmas cards with that brother to this day.

Tupac- Keep Ya Head Up

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Originally posted by newdiva1 newdiva1 wrote:

Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

No. And if there's one thing I'd wish, it would be that people wouldn't use the word "selfish" in relation to suicide (ideation/action).

I hate that people can't be allowed to feel and express those feelings of death, dispair, depression, not wanting to be here without society (as a general being) wanting to guilt trip, fix, shame, ignore and/or minimize said feelings due to their embarrassment, morals, religion, ignorance, discomfort etc.



this.  that's why I don't participate in these discussion like I used to.  speaking as someone who's been there...it's very...dismissive(?)  and it's usually the folks who have no idea.



You kinda have to look at it from all aspects though. I have a coworker who's mom committed suicide and she thinks it was the most selfish thing someone could ever do. She said she couldn't imagine leaving her kids behind because life was too hard...

While I don't side with her and her belief that suicide is selfish, I kinda see why she would say that...
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Cry that was sweet ragin!
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Hi ladies, doing better. It is ruff getting over this mountain. But I'm glad so many answered. (Side note: we should be discussin things like this that affect the black community...maybe give a rest to skin color and hair)

I volunteered to walk and talk with old ppl. I figured i could get distraction and wisdom at the same time lol
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^^^ take it a day at a time, hd. and aww-- that's sweet. not only does exercise lift mood, but both sides can benefit from the companionship.

and cool. old people stories are awesome.
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Aawww ragin, i LOVE things like that. In high school it was the black/haitiwn teachers that. Kicked my ass to get by.
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Yesss HD! Fight to see that sunshine! Clap
And IA with neka, I love to hear stories from the elderly!
Such a beautiful thing for you to decide to give back to the community, Im sure they will really appreciate your company/help  Smile


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